Why Do People Always Act Surprised When A Skinny Person Eats

Why do some people never gain weight no matter what they do and end up being so skinny?

Because they don’t eat as much as you think they do.If they really do eat a lot, they would’ve gained a lot of weight. If your weight stays the same, that means you’re eating the amount of calories your body needs. In other words, you don’t eat that much.Just because someone eats “a lot” in front of you, that does not mean they eat a lot throughout a day. A person can eat one big meal and then eat very little to nothing after that one big meal, they probably won’t gain weight.If I skip breakfast in the morning and go to Subway in the afternoon and eat a foot long, a small bag of chips, a cookie, and a bottle of soda for one meal and then I starve myself for the rest of the day, I won’t gain fat.It does not matter if someone eats junk foods or healthy foods. Junk foods don’t make you fat. Surplus calories make you fat.If skinny people really do have big appetite, they would not be skinny. When you go to a buffet, have you ever seen a skinny person who eats more plates than everyone else? Have you ever seen a skinny person who would eat 6–7 full plates in one sitting and eat again 2 hours later? Me neither.And no, there is no such thing as a “fast metabolism.” It does not exist. Most of the calories we burn are from our Basal Metabolic Rate (BMR). This is the amount of calories our bodies need just to keep us alive. No one’s body burns like 4k calories just by lying in bed for 24 hours.Funny thing is every skinny guy who claimed they ate a lot and couldn’t gain weight were able to gain a ton of weight by trying GOMAD, which is why I never take their so-called “fast metabolism” seriously. Simply because they don’t have it. No skim milk btw.

How does skinny-shaming affect people? Do they start seeing them being thin as a problem or something they don't like about themselves?

Skinny shaming has never ended for me. I just learnt to deal with it somehow.I have always been underweight. My height is 170 cm and my current weight is 47 kg. I have never weighted more than 50 kg. I am naturally skinny. I am reminded of that regularly. A new acquaintance within a few hours of talking to me: “Oh you are so thin!” EVERY parent of every friend of mine when I come to their house: “Oh you are so thin!” Relatives seeing me after long time: “Oh you are so thin!”Sometimes these comments are said in disgusted voice, sometimes with envy, sometimes with care (“You will look healthier if you put on some weight!”). In the end of the day they all freak me out because they point out my body as if it is thing, something everybody can discuss freely. I am so much more than my body. And I really do not think that my humble figure deserves that much concern. I am healthy, I eat and exercise properly. I am OK!It took me long time to distance myself and my own self awareness from what is being said about my body. As a teenager I felt constant need to apologize as if my thinness was a disease threatening people. It is a hurting discovery that, despite the fact that I feel so good and comfortable in my body, people are willing to point out how wrong my body is. This shame of my own body tortured me for many years and I am still over coming it in some or other way.What helps? Exercise certainly does. When you see how you become stronger, more flexible and active, you care so much less what others say. You see your beauty with your own eyes, anything else hardly matters. I also filter my friend circle. If, for whatever reason, somebody cannot stop talking about my weight, I distance myself from them. Mature and polite people do not behave like those. I want to be with friends who love and appreciate me. Anyone else may leave.As a thin person for long time I thought that other people had some right to discuss my body. I thought if I looked so weird, of course, it was okay for others to mention it. I realized it is wrong. Nobody has a right to judge my face, my weight, my body. I am the one who decides what is good for me, not they. Since I understood this simple truth it’s been much easier to reduce skinny shaming in my life.