Why do some people get really annoyed when they hear another person talking with a foreign language?
I think people feel threatened or uncomfortable because they don't know if they are being talked about. But to be honest their reaction is only justified in one scenario. That is, where they are standing in the same group as those speaking the language they don't understand. In that scenario, it's quite impolite to speak in a language that one person might not know as they are then excluded from the conversation.However, people who object to people speaking a foreign language in a public space e.g. On the street , in a bus etc. really need to chill out and learn some manners. They are not included in the conversation so they have no right to object. Especially when the conversation is being conducted at a low volume and is obviously private.I personally faced this irritating scenario in the U.K. A friend and I were sat at a table and having a chat (at a conversational volume) in a restaurant. We were talking in Hindi. A red faced and unreasonable guy came up and said “You need to be speaking English over here”. What the hell?! I really lost my temper and said to him : “Excuse me!! We are having a private conversation and it's really none of your business!”. As if I was going to make it easy for him to eavesdrop!This incident really upset me because it felt like an invasion of my privacy. In retrospect I think the guy must have been drinking or something to have behaved in such an outrageous manner. Thankfully the manager told him to leave the restaurant and that was the end of that. People should realize that the world doesn't revolve around them!
Does it annoy you when people ask nosy, personal questions?
And then act like they want a direct answer right away about it? I hate this so much. I feel like they're trying to force me into telling them stuff that I don't want to tell them. I know I don't have to, but if I don't then it comes across as rude, stubborn, and like I have something to hide. I don't want to seem this way. I just hate being coerced into letting everyone know everything that goes on in my life. What do you think about this?
Why do people find me annoying?
because more than likely you are
Don't you think stingy, cheap people are among the most annoying?
There's annoying to me like a cheap person. My Godmother has money, but is so cheap, it's disgusting: We've been renting from her for 4 years now, we'll have a barbecue, christmas etc invite her (she lives downstairs) but she has never offered to bring or contribute to anything, but will have no shame eating. I don't mind her coming and neither would I accept if she offered anything, but the thought says a lot.When I had my son, she didn't even buy him a thing, again the thought. She can't be that broke because she goes to the casino at least 3 times a year. She's a senior citizen, but well in her mind etc. My Godmother is even to cheap to fix her house up. Broken windows etc. People who also annoy me are those who are too cheap to buy food or clothing. People who walk around the supermarket with a calculator, how depressing can one get? I know saving money is essential, but who wants to deprive themselves? This is my view on money: If I want something, I'll get it. I like good things. What is money for if I can't use it to help others and myself? Why hold on to something you can't take with you? Are you a cheap person? Why?
Why am I easily annoyed by other people's loud eating / yawning / burping / stretching? I can't stand people.
Well, you've received many "you have problems" answers, let's try something different. 'google' "coarsening of America". Today's society is more coarse, less refined, than it has been in many centuries. People believe they should be allowed to be whatever they want to be ("free to be you and me"), regardless of how offensive their behavior (or even appearance) is. Hence, there is this thing called "NAMBLA" - the national man/boy love association. Yup, men think they have the right to have a sexual relationship with boys. Hey, they just want to be free to be who they are. This is today's society. Eating with your mouth open, profanity in public places, huge stomachs over tight clothing, underwear showing, sneeze without covering their mouths -- these things did not happen in public 50 years ago. And when they did, everyone condemned it. So ... you're not a wacked person. You appear to be someone who has a finely tuned sense for propriety and manners. You should consider going into sales training - because you see the defects in the way people interact, and you could teach a sales staff to be more effective. Or ... you could move to Japan or Singapore. Asian countries still have a high regard for propriety and good manners. Good luck. (P.S., a friend of mine, with a similar attitude, walked around one Saturday with one of those portable air horns. Everytime she saw one of these events, she blew the horn. If people came up to her and complained, she just said "I'm being who I am ... kinda like your fat belly sticking out of that shirt." They would have nothing to say to this (How could they?) At the end of the day, she reported to me (It was my idea.) it was one of the most joyous days she had ever had. Perhaps, give it a try - you and a friend.)
Do you find it annoying when people touch you while they talk? Or stand really close to you?
Like... Those people who will touch your arm, your shoulder or your leg, and whatever else while in the midst of a conversation? ... And those people who will give you ZERO personal space? Whether they're in front of you, behind you, or to your side...? Having no personal space bothers me more than people who like touching... Even though, I'm not a fan of being touched *anywhere* by people that I don't know well/at all [I can't help it].
Why do I feel like I am really annoying?
We all have certain characteristics that seem natural to us, but that others find irritating. I’ve been annoyed by someone reading over my shoulder. He was astonished when I told him and said he hadn’t realised. A friend who frequently interrupts what I'm saying and finishes my sentences with what he thinks I'm going to say, gets my back up. He thought I would be impressed that he knows me so well. He doesn’t do it any more! A workmate came to dinner and made sickening noises as he ate. He’s lived alone for years and had no idea. A woman I worked with had bad breath so everyone avoided her. I used to seriously irritate my partner by always offering to help. When, after a serious shouting match, I was told how annoying and insulting it was, I realised and stopped.Most people will not be honest if you ask them if you are annoying them. They’ll smile brightly and shake their heads. ‘No, no. What made you think that?’Some people act annoyed at people with the ‘wrong’ accent. There’s no limit to the things that annoy people. Usually they hide it. Perhaps you are more sensitive than most, and you’re over reacting to normal, robust social intercourse. Lots of sensitive people feel like that, which is why they tend to avoid social activities.Do you get the impression that everyone is annoyed by you, or only some people? If it’s only one or two, it should be possible to carefully and discretely ask them why. But… if they tell you, do not deny it, or bluster, or offer excuses. Even if you think they are wrong, smile and thank them for their honesty and then go away and consider carefully what they said.When I was a teenager I was frequently told to shut up, because I had a tendency to prattle on, [like I’m doing now]. I learned to restrain myself. I also tend to talk too loudly in public, and that embarrasses people… Fortunately, I’m the sort that people dare to tell the truth to, so I do learn eventually.If none of those things apply to you, then find people who are not annoyed by you and stick to them.
What's your sign, and do you get annoyed by flirty people?
HEY Rachstar!!!!! I am a Sagittarius (you know this already-lol) with a Leo moon and a Gemini rising and no flirty people do not annoy me. I kind of like it actually if it is all in good fun and I don't think it makes a person superficial. I am just a friendly person (to guys and girls) and can share a drink or a chair or give someone a peck on the lips and that is okay if someone does the same to me. I wouldn't give it a second thought. I don't like it when the person is overt or aggressive with their flirting and I don't like it when they are disrespectful of their significant others. I will scale back my friendliness if the other person seems to be taking it too seriously!!! Me: Sun: Sagittarius Moon: Leo Ascendant: Gemini
Do you think preppy people are annoying?why?
Many of the young people your age will be jealous of you, and you could be displaying an attitude to others that you are better than they are. Try to help others who are not as fortunate as you, i.e. coaching, mentoring, and tutoring. By helping others, you will hone your skills even more, which will help you when you are older. Word of advice--learn to write properly and check your spelling. You indicate you are smart, but your writing does not support it.