How do I react when people talk behind my back?
Here are a few ideas -Plug in your earphones. Squint your eyes and like a ninja, quickly glance left and right. When no one is looking, discreetly turn down the volume to zero. You’re a sneaky little devil, aren’t you? Crafty too! Everybody around you thinks that you’re listening to music. That you can’t hear what they’re saying. So, they’ll immediately start bitching about you. But you, like a pro ninja, would be listening to every word they utter. Every ten seconds, start headbanging or swaying your shoulders to further enhance the illusion.Buy a cell phone. Actually, buy a hundred cellphones. Turn on their voice recorders. Then visit the homes of all your friends and relatives who you suspect bitch about you behind your back. Ask them for a glass of water. Wow! You’re a master spy. James Bond would be so jealous of your moves right now. When they go to the kitchen, plant a cell phone under their dining room table, ’coz… u know… dining room is where the bitching takes place. If you want to be on the safe side, plant a cellphone in every room of their house. Boy! you’re gonna need a lot of cell phones.Ask your tailor to sew a microphone in the back of your every t-shirt. Develop a machine learning algorithm to analyze the data that your microphones collect throughout the day and identify the most bitchy bitchers. Sell that algorithm to Google for a billion dollars. Retire and spend the rest of your days in Hawaii, basking in the sun on sandy beaches, sipping virgin Mojitos and bitching about your old friends.Or you could… you know… just stop giving a fuck!
Why do I feel jealous when my girlfriend talks to other men?
Its because you are INSECURE. And to be honest, we are all humans. So , NOTHING WRONG IN IT. ITS IN OUR NATURE. NOW how to overcome it ? How about some reverse psychology.Speak with other girls, make a strong friend circle which includes women. It will help you in the long run.Well relationship with friends or girlfriend is like investing in stock market and creating a diversified portfolio with number of stocks in different sectors instead of one particular stock. If one stock goes down other stocks can help you to cover up losses.Imaging "A" is your girlfriend with a probability of .5 of dumping you.She speaks with 5 guys on an average.You try speaking and making friends with 7 to 8 girls, to keep you on a safe diversified zone. Appreciate there ability, there intelligence, qualities but never hit on them. Girls love to have friend zoned committed guys like you. Never flirt , keep your character intact. Just never ever flirt with them!! Express at times that you miss your girlfriend, she is talking to other guys and makes you feel insecure, get some emotional comfort from your female friends. Automatically you will observe you have a space full of good female friends, and you are giving less time and space to your girlfriend. She will understand , she will miss you, she will feel insecure too. Now if she comes back its your gain, your favourite stock in which you invested have actually given you profit. Worst case - she didn't feel jealous, dumps you, goes out with another guy. Well the other stocks in your portfolio, that is your female friends who knows how honest you are when you are in a relationship will automatically come to your rescue. be a man and cry like a bitch in front of one of them, tell them how your ex has played with your feelings, at least 90% chances are there that out of those 8 girls one girl will fall for you. P.S. - often look out for proper timings, like break up of one of your female friends at the same time of your break up. Remember the 2008 recession ? Leyman brothers got bankrupt, imagine the stock market crash, just imagine how rich people are who have invested then. its similar, support and comfort each other after break up, good times are ahead. Even in relationships.
Are most Capricorn people this egotistically jealous and unsupportive?
This guy I used to be friends with, close Friends with is always trying to bring me down. Ive noticed, anytime I'm in the midsts of dating someone he adds his unwarranted opinion basically being condescending and trying to make me feel bad saying that because of my issues i shouldn't be aloud to date. Nobody asked him for his input.. at all. I know myself better than anyone else does. Sure I have some issues, but I work through it day-to-day, and Its not affecting me unless I let it. Why does he ALWAYS try to bring me down whenever someone else is interested in dating me? Always tries to make me feel bad, always tries to guilt trip me into exaggerating my issues so that I could feel inferior to him and not date anybody?! Why would I let my "issues" stand in my way of anything!!! He's a Capricorn btw and I am so sick of this disgusting thing that he always does. It's like he does it to feel superior. The issues that I have are trust issues from my past. How on earth am I supposed to learn toopen up, share my feelings with people and well just take risks and trust people if I let it hold me back? I have to open up, experience, pain and hurt and know that it's okay that these are normal human emotions, to feel hurt sometimes instead of running away all the time. So what's his problem!?
How can I avoid feeling insecure and jealous when I see my boyfriend talking to other girls?
If your boyfriend has ever shown you signs that he is open to cheating on you or otherwise deliberately upsetting you by his behaviour with other girls, why are you still with him?If you are uncertain about your boyfriend, even though he has never given you cause to suspect him, then you have a conversation, sharing your lack of confidence and asking for his understanding. He may give you reassurances, which you accept with an open heart, because you are an adult.If you know already that your boyfriend would not stray or deliberately hurt you, then it is your problem and not his (except in the sense that you make the relationship unpleasant). Jealously is a giant flashing alert that all is not well with your self-esteem, and that it’s time to deal with it, preferably with a professional counsellor or therapist.
I’ve become really insecure and possessive when my girlfriend talks to other men or goes out to meet them. I trust her and know she won’t betray me. The problem is with me. How do I stop being insecure and possessive with my girlfriend?
Hi Rohan! Firstly I appreciate the honesty with which you've accepted the weakness in your behaviour. (Few guys do that). Your problem is genuine it happens with a lot of people (trust me even girls are very possessive about their girlfriends). The good thing is you want to rectify.Now, coming to the solution. The only way you can overcome this problem is to let go of this sick possessive idea from your mind. And you can do it if you try. At first, look at the bigger picture. You trust her and you know she's not going to betray you. Don't bother yourself if she talks to other guys as long as she's being loyal to you.Secondly, look for reality. Do you really think its possible for her not to make friends with any guys around. In today's date its just not possible. Even you must be having female friends, how do you expect her not making friends with any guys?Thirdly, try to control your mind. The moment you start feeling insecure tell yourself its a mistaken idea. Try to relax yourself and take it casually. Each time try to get a little better. Confess to her that you are letting go of your fault slowly. Tell her again and again that you trust her and are trying your best. Ask her to appreciate you in this. It will really help.And lastly, value her. You already told you guys had had good fight over this issue and still you're together. It means she must have endured various blames knowing the fault is entirely yours. I personally say this, its hard to find such level- headed girls these days. If you guys have good tuning, do not waste this relation. I hope you don't want to lose her just for a sick idea.There is a fine line between protective and insecure. Try not to cross it. If you need any futher help feel free to talk.Good luck. :)
Is jealousy a natural instinct?
In my experiences, jealousy seems to be a biological trait linked to emotions. Liking someone causes you to experience the emotional underpinnings of the emotion, love. As a result, you want to be part of this persons life, you want to be their only focus and as such you will feel upset and hurt when you dont. Its a part of friendship that most people feel, some ignore it. I am jealous every time my best friend talks about her boyfriend when she talks to me.