Why do people always take me for granted?
I try to help everyone, who is in distress and finally they all take me for granted and the relation ultimately fades away. Recently, there was such a case in Yahoo! Messenger. I tried to lift her up from the nadirs of despair in her life, with all my efforts and time, since several months. I challenged myself that I would make her happy forever, no matter what it takes. I always said her sorry and put myself down, because I always value friendship much more than my ego. Lately, she started ignoring me without any reason and today I thought that I wouldn't let my heart bleed anymore. So I stepped out. Why do these things always happen to me? Each time it happens, I feel so much pain and break down for a few days. Why does this always happen to me? Don't I deserve to love and to be loved? :(
How should I deal with people who take me for granted?
Assess then actAssess.Which people? How important are they to you? For example the USA has roughly 325 million people. Of those 324.99 million will never know me and it will make absolutely no difference to my life.What do I need from these people? In general, I would be perfectly happy if most of my corporate leaders (especially on the finance or operations sides) thought of me less often. When I need something from a Dean-Advising, a Dean-Faculty, or the Registrar’s office, I would like them to think of me with a mixture of fear and love; so I can get what I need for my students.ActEnsure that impressions are positive. A few weeks ago, I made it to work (early) and ran into the company CEO. In corporate America, anything can happen.Ensure your work is up to snuff. My numbers as an administrator are pretty good and doing better. This fact is literally more useful than any image puffery than I could concoct.Develop a persona that you can live with. I will never be a perfect apparatchik. I am a history professor who is helping with admin for a few years. Try to develop a simple clear persona that actually fits with your personality.Try to be consistent. As a the 50-somehting history professor, I hit the dance floor for two dances at the Christmas Party. I have 2–3 drinks to show I am a good sport. I do not however tear loose and act like a party animal. While I have helped with corporate pitches, I cannot come across as corporate. Develop a brand and stick to it.Do favors for friends and encourage them to talk you up. Allies are usually helpful Powerful allies are even more helpful.(Carefully) talk up your own case. Do NOT brag at every turn. Develop expertise, however, and use it. Be the expert in your niche. Speak up when you are the expert or have important practical experience. Do not be afraid to mention your previous achievements as bona fides. Use these to show you know what you are saying.Thanks for the A2A, Naveed.
Why is that when you are being nice people take you for granted and walk all over you?
Now I'll tell you an old story…There were 2 sages who were having their prayers across the banks of the river. One of sage happens to see a scorpion that was about to get drowned, so he lends his palm so that ther creature could climb up and save itself. As soon as he touched it, the scorpion stung him. Instinctively the sage withdrew his hand. A minute later, after he had regained his balance, he stretched himself out again to save the scorpion. This time the scorpion stung him so badly with its poisonous tail that his hand became swollen .The other sage saw this and asked :Why are you saving that bad creature inspite if it stinging you?For this the sage replied that:I'm doing my Dharma by helping that poor creature and the scorpion followed it's own dharma i.e to bite and spew venom over me. No one can change this!! Since that's the nature of that being.Now let's come to your situation:—Your being nice is well and good infact I really appreciate that , but always Never expect something in return of your Kindness. The value of the good deed you did decreases!!In the end of the day your going to feel awesome and have a nice sound sleep for your good deeds.Remember every good you have done is noted in that Cosmic Register, You would be payed back in any unexpected way. Be ready to be suprised by Life!!Feeling low? Cause others are treating you badly? Then remember K.A.R.M.A does exist and it would serve them very badly. Don't ever react to bad people since it would decide our karma.Always try to understand the inner true motives of your fellow people i.e Don't be a Jerk by trusting everyone!! If you feel they are exploiting your kindness, then stand against it and never have any sense of regret to such beings.Many In this world think Kindness is a Weakness…So try to prove them Wrong.ThankYou!!Image courtesy: google.com
Why do people take us for granted? How can I stop them?
People take us granted because we allow them to take us granted sometimes. But it’s okay sometimes if someone is taking us granted because you can not expect everyone to do the same what you do for them.If you don’t want to be taken granted then you can follow some basic RULES1:- Stop helping people until and unless they ask.2:- Stop getting attracted to anyone until and unless it is equally happening from both side.3:- Stop overthinking about anything and anyone.4:- Don’t be too much available for anyone.5:- Love yourself first and know yourself better.6:- Don’t expect much from anyone.7:- Don’t give too much importance to anyone in your life because it can be dangerous for you.8:- Don’t cross the line of your self respect because once you do so then no one will respect you much.9:- Always have an attitude like you are the king.10:- Stop to be a nice person unnecessarily because by doing this you attract selfish people more.Savii :-)
Why do we take for granted the people who love us the most?
People whom you love take you for granted because they know that you will be available for them all the time. They assume that you will always help them and you will always support them.However, this makes you feel uncomfortable because then those people then ask you for unreasonable favours because they assume that you will never say no and consequently, you feel burdened.You can avoid people from taking you for granted in the following ways:Help people because that is a good thing but you must also make them sometimes realise the amount of effort you had to put in for them. You must sometimes make them realise that you had to go out of the way to help them. This will make you more valuable in their eyes and they will respect you for that.Learn to say no. If there is something that you really can’t do, then just say no. Explain them that why you won’t be able to help them. Initially, they will feel bad. They may even try to emotionally blackmail you. You must however stick to your ground.This make people not take you granted since they will realise that you are not available for them always.Just remember, a scarce commodity has more value. Become that scarce commodity. Restrict your supply, increase your demand and consequently, increase your value.
Why do I always feel that people take me for granted and I'm never enough for them?
I used to be that person but not now.Deliver only what is asked nothing extra or additional because anything extra increases expectation of others.Give importance to those topics which are important for you like your own life goals and future and let others realize that you have a life and your own issues which needs to be sorted first and you can help only when you have free time. If others are asking you to do those things which they can do on their own then avoid doing those things for them let them do it on their own OR if it's something which you can explain them about how they can do on their own then explain them and say I will not explain it again.Let them realize your potential and your own needs & help only if it's needed OR something they can't do but again do with limitations added. Also learn saying NO that will help a lot.Human nature is like if I can get something without lifting a finger why should I lift finger. Also it's our expectation only due to which humans developed themselves to current stage. Human expectations can not be fulfilled but only controlled at some level and that is what we can do.Now about family, let your family members realize how hard it is to handle everything and how hard you are trying to fulfill those needs. Be little strict and avoid fulfilling unnecessary requirements of family people.Those were my suggestions and hope others may suggest something better..
I have love.but i don't understand why people take me for granted.?
Tell me about it, I have been suffering from the same exact problem, I guess the best way is to keep giving love, those who takes it from granted should suffer the consequences of rejection :)
Why do people, to whom I give importance, take me for granted?
Well there are many reasons for this :-Love: If you have chosen the wrong person and told them what they mean to your life, they will start thinking that whatever happens you are never going to go away. If you feel you're taken for granted in this relationship then its better to rethink about this.You give too much importance to the people who actually don't deserve it. There are people who have the power to make you smile as well as cry and when they become so important in your life, you become weak in front of them. You start living your life the way they want and try to do whatever makes them happy. The day others know their importance they will surely take you for granted. Be strong, self dependent because if you are emotional in nature and keep others first while taking any decisions in life then people will surely take you for granted.Its not bad at all to care for others, I mean thats what human life is all about but never forget who you are. If someone takes you for granted then its time to show them what you worth. I am not asking for any revenge, but let them realize what they miss if they don't have you.The best way to live your life is stop thinking what others think about you. You know yourself, what you're capable of. If you've found someone who is taking you for granted have hurt you, then you should be very thankful to them as they taught you how to be strong and moreover how to be yourself.