Women marrying for money?
Now I understand both genders do, but men are few and far between when compared to women. Now I understand there is the reverse argument Men marry women for looks since most women here won't answer the question and just turn it on it's head. Now I would like to delve deeper here. As a guy I feel that for us there is this instinctive need to marry a young hot woman so we can breed. I know we are not animals and are well sentient and can choose differently but it is difficult. Now since I am not a woman I have to ask. Women do you marry for money because it is part of this instinct to find a male that will make you feel safe and secure or is it something different? Or maybe I have it all wrong feel free to correct me.
I have recently read that “Chinese women marry American men for their money?” This seems racist and biased. What do people think?
I think, there are women who are after money or a foreign residence in every country, and China is not an exception.However, I must say that China is obsessed with foreigners nowadays, and a lot of Chinese girls want to date or marry foreigners, just because it is exotic or can guarantee security.And this obsession plus gender structure in China caused lot of violence in Beijing: locals were attacking foreign men hanging out with Chinese women, and a young Chinese girl got stabbed, because some nut thought that she’s married to an American guy.No one can tell the real reasons, why people marry, Chinese or not Chinese, and I think that judging every woman as if she wants to marry an American man just for money is wrong. Especially since foreigners’ conduct in dating or marrying Chinese girls is not perfect either: some guys do it, because they are exotic in China, therefore relationship is effortless, some do it, because they want free Chinese lessons, and some do it for the visa. However, some of those men are simply attracted to Chinese girls and want to marry them.As a Russian woman under 30, who experienced the prejudice a lot of times (a lot of ppl think I am either an escort or a husband-hunter), I can tell you that judging book by it’s cover is not a good idea.And frankly, Chinese people have more money than US Expats in PRC, and local guys are ready to spend them on their ladies.More than that, getting visas to US is becoming easier due to the mutual agreement between China and USA, so if Chinese girls wanted to go to America, they can do so with no trouble.I think US men are safe from scammers )
As a man, what is something that you understand about women, but too many other men don’t seem to get?
I am not gonna type here and pretend that I’m some expert on girls, because I’m not, but I am among the smarter men who actually slowed down to watch and pay attention to what girls do, want, and expect from a man. Guys say constantly, “women are so difficult to understand”, they can be if you don’t take the time to observe them, and TRY to understand them. Here are some things I would love for all men to understand about women.Girls don’t need you to be an “Alpha male” 24/7- an occasional showing of dominance and strength is important for women to see, and it’s attractive to them, they want to know you can protect them and your children. But they also don’t want you living every second like you are “all that” and that you are somehow superior.They want you to express your true feelings and desires- This kind of goes along with not being an Alpha male all the time, showing women that you have the ability to think deeply, and have plans to improve yourself and the relationship, is very attractive to them. Most women want to know how you feel about certain subjects, or how you feel about them, when a girl asks, be honest and open, they love that, and you’ll love that you can share anything with themDon’t expect women to do certain tasks all the time- If you are man who believes the woman should always look after the kids, always clean, always cook, and always cater to your needs, you are not suitable for a healthy relationship. A women will madly appreciate it when you take the time out of your busy day to drop the kids off at school, make a dinner (even if it’s simple), clean up after yourself ALWAYS, and even clean up her messes, she’ll love you forever.Girls want you too support them and love them all the time- this might sound obvious, but some guys don’t even know their partners goals and aspirations in life. Always be there for her to cheer her on, and tell her you love her and that you’re proud of what she’s done, and who she is.Tell her you love her!!- It hurts me when I hear some of my girl friends say their guy barely says “I love you” more than once or twice a day, that’s terrible. Don’t just say I love you back when they say it too you, tell her you love her at random moments and places. Say it often, and most importantly, actually mean it.
Why do men think they need to fight for equal rights?
Yes, woman fought for equal rights. Then they (well feminists) continued fighting for rights which advantaged them. There are many legal practices which favor women over men and very few the other way around. Affirmative actions favors less qualified women over men. Title ix favors women in athletics Draft registration applies only to men There are many government programs which financially support women in business, but none for men. - Similar with health care. Some states have statutory rape laws which only apply to men I beleive women are favored in child custody (though I agree with dark eyes that much of the difference seen is not due to favoritism). Some domestic violence laws protect women, but not men in the exact same situation. I'm not claiming women always have it better, but when it comes to legal rights or legal practices, the rights that specifically advantage women far exceed those men have. To answer your question, the reason some men feel they need to fight for equal rights, is that because some rights or legal practices are not equal. It's the main issue many men have with feminism. ~
When feminists say they want equal pay for women, what exactly do they mean?
I think the usual justification comes down to "work as hard as" rather than "equal work". That is, if Jane works as hard as John, she should be compensated the same as John is. But it cannot work that way in a capitalist society. If John and Jane have different jobs, all kinds of other variables come in to play. If John is able to give more flexible hours but demands less flexible hours, he is of more value than Jane who cannot. If john is willing to commute a longer distance than Jane, he is worth more to the company. If he's been with the company longer (and therefore has more experience how the company does things), he is worth more. All that being said, multiple studies have shown that variety across the work place adds value in the form of reliability and profit. Having men and women, having different races, different religions etc - make the company stronger. All of these different factors make it very difficult to compare any given employees. Fundamentally, feminists do NOT KNOW WHAT THEY MEAN. When you start pressing them on the numbers, even the numbers coming out of their own data, their arguments tend to fall apart. Clearly, there ARE exceptions, but the exceptions go both ways. There are places where men are chronically underpaid, there are places where women are chronically underpaid. Some of that is the market, some of that is simply historical and we haven't caught up. And a HUGE part of that is caused by men being more forthright about what they expect than women. "I want a raise" seems to be harder for the majority of women to say, than the majority of men. Since most management tends to put out the nearest hottest fire, it's not surprising that on the basis of that ALONE, men tend to get paid more than women. I am not saying that is right or fair, but it remains unclear how you could legislate around it.
Do beautiful women only care a man's height, handsomeness, or money, do they care a man's demeanor?
How women see you will often reflect how you see them as well.If you're only interested on her because she is beautiful do not expect her to care as well for your personality. There is a lot of women who are mostly interested about external apperance because there is also a lot of men who only care about her face and body. If interests are aligned I see nothing wrong with that.This situation is no uncommon because we are not looking for something meaningful and deep with every relation women have with men. Sometimes the relationship is so superficial that looks are enough to someone to feel attracted to other person.However like any other human being, women will start to look deeper if they are interested to have a long term relationship. Here personality traits will come into place.What also happens is that at first she is not interested in you by your apperance but after that she gets to know your personality she sees that you two could be a match - for a fun night or for a longer relationship. The thing is, this interaction requires longer time and effort than just an eye-catching handsomess and that is why it not happens everyday.But this is not only for women - beautiful or not. If a men will be attracted by a woman for who she is and not how she looks, he will also need to spend time to get to know her.I, personally, prefer to meet men in online environments where looks do not play a role at all - such as online games. In this case, people are represented by game characters and all that matters is your personality, especially your sense of humour. You will most likely only get to know how that person looks after you're already in love by who the other person is. At this point the person’s looks wouldn't be meaningful at all. And honestly, here I saw way more men caring about a looks to the point they would completely reject a girl if they wouldn’t look attractive enough. Even after they've been talking for months and months through the game chat. For me, I would only reject someone at this point if they seriously lied about their age - which is not uncommon.I meet my partner in a similar environment. I only saw his face in a picture after months of chatting and after I was already completely in love. I consider myself very lucky and in my eyes he is the most handsome man in the world. I wish he could see his beauty the way I see it.
When will men learn that no woman is worth marriage?
I completely agree with you. I am not married and will never married unless the legal and financial laws changes. I have seen too many friends and coworkers divorced, their wealth and sanity gone. Our legal system is so unjust that it doesn't pay attention to the money making techniques a lot of women use. They are using the marriage for pure profit. I know a woman that she married had a kid then divorced. She received 1/2 the house, child support and alimony. Two years later, got married, had a kid, divorced, got 1/2 the house, 1/2 the business which the guy paid her cash to get back, child support and alimony. Another 2 years goes by, you guessed it rinse repeat. We even told the last guy not to marry her, that she would take him for everything he had. She is worth over a Million just by marrying and divorcing regular guys. She has never worked in her life. My question is: how the court cant see that this woman is making profit using the system? It is because the court do not care they just want to screw men and get their court fees. Marriage has become a permit to steal and a mine of gold for lawyers and gold-diggers. Are all women like that? Certainly not specially if you go out of the western societies but I would not take that big risk. It is like playing the Russian roulette but instead of having 1 bullet in the gun you have 5 and only one empty chamber. Divorcing for profit has become a way of life. If the legal system do not change in the next years we will see the marriage institution decline until became extinct.