Why do most women only show interest in you when you act uninterested in them?
Being a woman I know.. That women love the attention they get.. It's like our system works that way … We crave to be desirable sometimes even under the cover of being independent , having a damn care attitude . we know what men really want.. For that matter.. Men too ( some men:p) know what we really want .. It's like a human need to be wanted and desired.Well off course some women might say we're doing this for ourselves..and this makes us happy but nothing makes us happier than being appreciated , people looking up to us and wanting to be us and wanting us.However, I also feel it's Ego which is taller than their Christian Louboutins …doing most of the thinking all the time. The need to look good be it how one dresses itself in clothing or in the achievements one has ..which kindles the desire of the other sex.Coming to the question , well women do love being chased.. It's like fodder for women ego.. I mean , my ego would be satisfied if I'd know there were a bunch of men out there wanting me ( not objectifying) and not having me ( I know it's a very very arrogant statement but yes it's the bitter truth ) .And when we're not being chasedAnd nothing satisfies it more than a little praise, knowing there are men who desire the sort woman I am ( and they'd kill to have me :p)It can all be coined to this :having a man who is good for a women's ego nor the feeling of having a women good for a man's ego. Because let me tell you my friend nothing feeds the ego better than this .
Why can't men read the signals women give off when they're interested?
I will give you the best example why. I had a office colleague who in office would always maintain eye contact and smile(whenever we would cross paths), even wave at me if we were far (in the office corridor) just to say hi. She would also be helpful in work and all. The other day I kept a beard and she came up to me to say the beard looks nice. She also constantly tried to strike up a conversation – like if we bumped into each other – she would be like we are seeing each other too often today, or if I would say sorry (on bumping into her) she would be like no – no I am sorry. However, she quit her job after 9 months of being in my office. On the last day she came up to me and said – Hey! I quit!.. You know about it? Me: Yeah, got to know about it! – Good Luck! I smile, shake her hand and get on with my work. Three months later I add her on facebook.. She has every colleague of mine in her friend list. And she hasn’t even messaged me once since the last 6 months (from the time when I added her on fb). Though I have messaged her twice – Hey! How are you? How is it like in India? And Hey! I heard its raining quite heavily (there was news her place was flooded) at your place? Are the things so bad? Her replies have been to the point and nothing more. She hasn’t initiated a message from her side at all. So I took the cue that she really wasn’t interested – I didn’t message her any further too.Now, that’s why guys do not read the signals women give, cause women themselves are not clear what they would want!. I mean – when she(the girl) was in office, she gave me so many signals that she was interested (atleast to have a chat or to be friends and all). (I mean there are so many other girls who work at my office – none of them would be acting the way she did.) But still when I add her up on fb – she goes all cold. So its all very confusing. I am happy on my part not to have acted like a despo in front of her and to have been professional all along – cause after all it was a workplace. As for fb – I have deactivated my account for now & only God(&her) will know what she really thought about me or wanted from me.
Why do women even need men anymore?
I need me, that's what matters most. I don't live my life base on what other people want and/or need.
I have no interest in dating or intimate relationships.?
I am a single, straight, virgin male of 28 years. I have not kissed a girl or even passionately hugged one. Lol, and don't even bother saying I am gay, because most gay men have had more experience with the opposite sex than I have. Gay men love hanging around women, I don't. Lol, isn't that funny? Lol. Anyway, I am only attracted to girls but don't feel such a strong desire for any relationship. I don't like being touched or being right next to somebody (ie. cuddling, ew!). Kissing also just seems like a foul activity! I know I am not abnormal or anything, so I would have to imagine there are many, many other 28 year olds similar to myself. Any thoughts?
How common is it for straight men to wear women's panties?
It never occurred to me too wear panties until I found a g-string in the waste bin in my step daughters bedroom as I was emptying the bins around the house. I tried it on and the string was worn and quite uncomfortable, I guess that's why it went in the bin but it fitted well and it gave me an instant erection and I just loved the feeling of the string up my crack. I wore it for the day and I went shopping in a local Debenhams and bought a Wonderbra g-string, black with a see thru pattern. I rushed to the toilet and changed and it was the most liberating and stimulating experience ever!I bought a few more some days later and I started wearing them all the time. I made some mistakes and I soon discovered what fit and what didn't. This was nearly 20 years ago.My wife had lost interest in sex and she caught me wearing the black Wonderbra thong and she didn't realise it was not a man's!Although I always thought of myself being straight I met a guy who wanted to suck my cock and I thought as my wife was no longer interested I would let him. Then I sucked my first cock and I really enjoyed it and it wasn't long before he was ejaculating.and boy it was a big load and it filled my mouth! I guess on not add straight as I thought, I have only done oral with a guy and my favourite was 69 and I had one three some and that was pretty amazing.Anyway my friend said he had no interest in wearing panties but I persuaded him to try some on and he got an instant erection which I had to take care of and he was the first cock in panties I sucked.Now he is a 24/7 panty wearer. The guy who had said he would never wear panties now wears the sexist little g-strings!So If you are reading this and you are interested in wearing panties then be warned it is a lifelong addiction!
I have always felt a strong desire to be controlled and dominated by a man in a relationship? Do I have issues?
There are a lot of women who feel the way you do. You might like to check out the Taken In Hand website (www.takeninhand.com) which is a site specifically for people who are in, or interested in, male-led relationships. Whether you are a masochist or not is debatable. Do you envisage pain as having any part in your relationship? Are you attracted by the idea of him spanking you for instance? (this is a fairly frequently expressed desire among women who want to be in male-led relationships, though by no means all such women find that kind of thing appealing). Masochism is taking pleasure in pain, and it is possible that there is a tinge of masochism in you if this sort of thing attracts you. But if you are really attracted by the idea of being dominated, the desire for pain is likely to be secondary to the desire to be dominated. If you don't have any desire for pain then you are probably not masochistic. I think the important thing is to choose a man who is going to exercise his domination over you wisely, and not treat you like dirt. There are men like that around. Contrary to what a comment above suggests, there is nothing of a parent-child relationship if this kind of thing works for you. It is likely to mean that you and your partner will be very close and communicate very easily, because there will be no barriers between you. If you try and suppress these desires and live without having them fulfilled, it can lead to great frustration.
Do some feminists think they can shame men into finding older women attractive?
I don't think anyone is trying to shame men into liking older women...but I think there are many who acknowledge that men who consistently try to date women considerably younger than themselves ought to be ashamed of themselves. I hate to be close-minded, but that's just gross. Some old guy is just being pathetic if he continually ignores women in his own age group in favor of younger women. If he doesn't find women his own age attractive, he needs to remember that HE'S OLD TOO!! Old men aren't exactly all that appealing either. Also, young women who date old men should be recognized for what they (all too often) are...money hungry. They're looking for some old dude to spend his money on them. Basically, everyone should stick to approximately their own age group. EDIT: @celtish: A cougar is an older woman who often dates younger men. @Gnu: To be honest, the main people that I have a problem with are the older men who immediately write off women of their own age group as being "ghastly"...if those women are ghastly, so are you, buddy! If two people from very different age groups connect with one another on a level besides the physical, and it's safe to assume those two individuals would still date even if they were close together in age, then I suppose I have no problem with that. It just really bothers me that old women are shoved off to the side in the realm of dating and sexuality. Old women are sexual beings just as much as old men are, and they ought to find satisfaction in one another, instead of the old men going after the young pretties and leaving the older women out in the cold. EDIT: @Lioness: I'm 21, so I have absolutely no problem with men of my own age group dating younger than me. That would be statutory rape. All the same, I can recognize that there is a hypocrisy in old men flatly refusing to date women their own age. If you will read all of what I have wrote (more specifically, my "@Gnu" section) you will see that *to some extent* I agree with you.