Why are there so many single parents nowadays?
Because back then in your grandmothers times, unmarried women were forced to give birth in secret birth houses and give the baby up for adoption and resume their lives and pretend that nothing ever happen. Back then as well women performed abortions in their own homes!!!! That's why no one ever "saw" single mothers, they were a disgrace to their families and they did everything in their power to keep it a dirty family secret that was not to be spoken of. Many others were forced to marry before birth and pretend the baby was "premature". I even know of a neighbor who raise her grandson as her own child to avoid the social stigma of her daughter giving birth to an illegitimate child. Now, back to the question, today, all you see on TV is sex, drugs and teenage sluts with no clothes on promoting promiscuity. Just look at what middle schoolers wear today: mostly suggestive clothing. What do you hear on radio: songs about taking your clothes off. I'm no prude and I am not old, but I'm proud of my old fashioned upbringing. You will not find any sex tapes/pictures of me on the internet and I do not have any kids out of wedlock and I know who the father of my children is. Third, the lack of education in schools and lack of parental control in rampant. Intercourse causes pregnancy! and if parents do not talk to their children about being responsible and use birth control then who else is going to do it??? They do not even do that in schools anymore because of fear of angry right wingers, religious radicals, lawsuits etc. Last, the glamorization of teen pregnancies on TV makes kids want to do the same, perhaps they think they are going to be on TV, or be married to their 15 year old boyfriend and have a Kim Kardashian-like wedding and continue their lives with no interruption.This generation is completely out of touch with reality. And some people do it to ride the governments gravy boat with welfare, free medical, free housing, free food, free day care. free baby sitter etc. This is a very good question, not dumb at all.
Why do some abusive parents single out one child?
that child reminds them of the thing they hate
Why do parents take out their anger on their kids?
Kids are usually sitting ducks, easy targets. I am not a parent, but I don’t think most parents do this consciously. Though, however, you would think they are doing it on purpose if a clear pattern of emotional abuse is evident.And, for the record, taking out your anger on your kids because you are mad at someone or something else, IS emotional abuse.I think we all can say that our parents, one or the other, or both of them, have been stressed on top of stressed and have, at times, been grouchy and hard to talk to/be around. When you are a kid you don’t have any recourse except to ignore the behavior and do everything you are told to do just so you can have the BEST hope of having their behavior not continue.There are some parents who are more open to criticism from their kids than others, these parents don’t need their kids to tell them that they do not appreciate their behavior in a mild and gentle way. Others, however, NEED to be talked to delicately before they are willing to hear how the words they have spoken, or their actions, have hurt their kiddos.It’s really all about the parents’ ego and pride.Most people do not like to be corrected or told that they have made a mistake in some way, especially when it’s coming from someone they care about dearly. It makes you feel like a loser, or failure, if you don’t already feel like those things already.The hard part about being human is accepting our limitations and imperfections. Parents have a lot of issues within themselves they cannot or are not willing to deal with that has absolutely NOTHING to do with their kids. But often times, they take those issues out on them. They project their own feelings of inadequacy. That’s not good, that’s not right, that’s how life goes sometimes.And it’s hard.The best thing kids can do when they feel those moments coming on, is to remind themselves that their parents love them, regardless of how they may be acting in the moment. Forgive them. Not for their parents’ sake. But for their own. You cannot be all you were created to be by carrying around a suitcase of bitterness. How do you forgive? Pray for your parents. And treat them better than they have or are treating you. It’s hard to stay angry at people you are wishing all the best… and treating with kindness and respect.
Why do some people assume that single parents are incapable of raising children by themselves?
it is surley quality. if you have two parents that treat you like crap you are going to be worse off than if you had one parent that treated you good. it all matters with how good a single parent treats their kid. it is a dumb stereotype that is getting disproven more and more each day
Why do single mothers hide the fact that they have children?
Here’s the thing… and I have personally watched this happen…Lots of men are interested in just having a good time. Hit it and quit it. Likewise, lots of men want a woman with a clean slate. Having “trophies” is the exact opposite of a clean slate. They don't want a ready made family and, as much as it makes them an asshole, they’ll be wondering whether the single mom is even worth spending time on… after all, the last guy got rid of her… I know, right? What an asshole to assume that. But that's how it goes sometimes.On the flip side, single moms don't want to be hurt, they're vulnerable, they're aware that there are a lot of predators and other such human waste, and they want to buffer their kids from that crap.Once in a while… my wife’s aunts case for example, the woman will deny she has kids because she’s self centered and will, at the drop of a hat, ditch their kids at their mothers house and run off with whomever wags a dollar and a dick. Luckily this is a very small percentage of women.I’d say most women hide their motherhood for the sole purpose of protecting them. Even if the guy is obviously not a predator, there's no telling whether he’ll stick around once he knows you have kids. You don't want your kids getting used to a ‘new daddy’ only to lose that one, too.It's scary being a single mom. Us guys should give them a break.
Why do single men without children go on dates with single mothers, then tell her after the date that they don't want to date someone with kids?
I’ll answer this from the other side. I’m a man with children. I have three. I have an unusual parenting schedule. Any woman I have dated knows immediately that my children come first. Now, after a little time I’ve made a concession here and there. The first few years I never missed a weekend. Never. Now, after 7 years I might miss a few per year and fight for make up time. Also, their mom will take them on trips where I’ll miss a weekend. I do not want the kids to miss out on a ski trip or other fun excursion so I don’t put up too much of a fight. I’ll plan “us time” around their schedule. “My Kids will be away X days. Let’s get away and do something.”Women with kids understand. Women without kids or empty nesters understand…at first. Eventually, it wears thin. I get that. My relationships with women without kids never worked out and it was always about the kids, my time and what I put myself through to get time with them. I enjoyed those relationships as each one enriched me in some way, but I have no regrets.To answer your question, I had one woman with whom I had a great relationship who did not have Kids say to me, “I think to myself, he is good and kind. He has amazing emotional intelligence. He treats me great. We have such a great connection. Why should I hold it against him that he has kids?” Ultimately, she was trying to sell herself on me and clearly put my kids in the negative column. It was not the only thing that broke us up. I have to take responsibility beyond the kids, but in the long run, she would never be able to relate. She had never dated someone with children before me. We had a great connection and she thought she could get past it, but she couldn’t.My current (and possibly last) girlfriend has 3 kids, each a couple of years older than mine. She is very understanding of my situation and aware that I give our relationship all the attention I can. I’m lucky we found each other. I should tell her more often.
Why im immature if don't want to date single mothers?
I am very much in support of you. When a mother says her kid comes first and expects you to put her first, THAT is immature. When I am told that I tell her my nephews and nieces come first. You just listen to them call foul. Especially when it comes to something them vs my nephews and neices. When a woman does that, absolutely, I rub it right back in their face. You are NOT wrong. Single women have a better chance of treating you better especially when they are building a family with you. A single Mom has a family already and YOU AINT it. Are all single Moms this way? No. But few are not that way. The ones that are worth it will not treat you as you mention in your post. They will take a more mature approach at convincing you rather then insulting you. Any one that tells you that you are immature, you can look them right in the eye and tell them their values are warped. Your reasons are not immature. They are valid concerns. #1 is more true then false and is completely valid. #2 the child is not your responsibility, it is hers. Only when you get serious should you spend money on the child. You can as small gifts etc, but then they will mention how small the gift is rather then being greatful for the gesture. #3 Can be a very big concern. But 50% left because the Dad was not so great. Stick by your guns. You are correct. It is up to them to show you they are serious and good dating material.