Stepparents- Do u really love your stepchildren like your own?
I disagree I think you are able to love your step children as your own. I have a 5 year old son and a 3 year old step son and I love them both to death and love them the same. I have been in my step sons life since he was 1 and I am the only dad he knows and I am in the process of adopting him so I think there is the ability to love your children the same whether they are biologically your children or not.
Why do step children mistreat their stepparents?
I believe most step children mistreat their step parents because they come from broken homes. They’re angry. They have resentment towards you for trying to replace their birth parent. It’s an insecurity & enrages them. Instead of being mad at their bio parents for not making it work etc the blame goes on the new spouse. It’s simple. I am a step mom to a boy who is now 6. He was 1 when I met him & 2 when his mom relinquished custody. He started off hating me. He wasn’t to found of his dad either. Over the span of the last 4 years, that’s disappeared almost completely. He is smart. He has realized it wasn’t his dads fault or mine. No one took him from his mom. She barely sees him & when she does he’s in horrible situations. He’s been abused in her car during the visits he has with her. She’s an alcoholic & codependent. He’s developed a relationship with her like how it was with me in the beginning. After all he’s been through & what most step children have been through, they have issues that got thrown on to the other parent. As they get older, I think it changes. If you didn’t meet your step children till they were teens, you may have more trouble getting through to them & just have to let it go. When they’re adult, they’ll realize.
Why are stepparents often mean to their stepchildren?
They aren't.You confuse frustration with someone being mean to you.You have 2 biological parents. 2 people that will see themselves in you and have innate genetic bonds to you. They will see themselves in all the little annoying things you do. That's because you aren't original, you're essentially a combined genetic duplicate of them.All the little things that may make them smile and get a twinge of reminiscence could be brutally annoying and off-putting to any other person that is in a position of authority over you.Your teachers likely are annoyed some of the time as well, right?But they are paid to be annoyed. It helps buffer their annoyance somewhat.A step-parent is a very special person. They don't NEED to be there helping raise you and paying a large percentage of the household bills that are not theirs. They are doing that by CHOICE.They love your other parent and they come as a package deal. If this relationship is new, give it time, they will love you as well. If you have had a step-parent for a longer period of time, respect the hell out of them.They don't need to be there, aren't getting paid to put up with children the way teachers are, and they don't see themselves in you b/c you aren't related.Trust them when they tell you something. They likely will not sugar-coat any advice they give. And as a result, are the best people to take advice from. They want the best for you, but aren't concerned about stepping on eggshells to tell you the straight goods.They are the BEST people to have in your corner.Sounds to me if you have a step-parent being “mean”, you just need to listen and be more respectful to them.
Should the stepparent love the stepchild?
First of all, you don't mention if he's your husband, so I'm assuming you've been living together. Which doesn't make him your daughter's step father, it makes him her mother's boyfriend. He is absolutely under no legal, moral, or ethical obligation to financially, or emotionally provide anything for your child, since the child is not his. If you guys are breaking up, it is best for his biological child to be with him (since you have no biological tie to the child) and for your biological child to remain with you, since he has no tie to your child. You definitely should let go of your belief that he has to love your child like his own, because she's not his own, unless he adopts her. I don't think a step parent should act as a literal parent either, unless they adopt the child as their own. Up to that point, the child assumably has both a mother and a father to look after his/her welfare, and a step parent would probably step on the other parents toes if he/she presumed to act as a parent. It's a very delicate balancing act. In the future, please be very careful about co-habiting with someone else like this, since you do have children to consider. Children don't understand all the implications to this, they don't understand that there's a higher level of committment in life, and they don't understand when the relationship falls apart. It affects them the same as a divorce between their parents, only usually for a 2nd time--since they already went through it when their parents split up. Please, for your daughter's sake, provide what she needs YOURSELF, don't look for another man to help you provide for her.
How can a step parent adopt their step child? Do they need permission from both parents, even if one is abusive?
It will depend on the laws in your state. In 1979, in Alabama, it was possible. We were able to get my ex’s permission , but had we not been able to, what they required was to publish an ad in the personal ads section of a newspaper, of our intentions. If no objections were made in 30 days the adoption would go forward and a new birth certificate was issued. Since we were on good terms with my son’s dad we didn’t have to do that.When you say the other parent is anusive, do you have any evidence of the abuse? Has Child Protection Services been involved? Does the abusive parent have custody? Do they pay child support? Sometimes just the idea of not paying child support can sway them to sign over their parental rights. Sad, but true.You probably should contact an attorney in your state to find out your options. The clerk at your county courthouse also may be able to advise. I hope this helps.
Are you a stepparent only if you marry the spouse with children or you have to adopt them?
You are the stepparent when you marry someone who already has children and you refer to them as your step-children.If you adopt your step-child, he or she becomes your child and you no longer refer to him/her as your step-child. You become their mom or dad.
Can a step parent enroll a stepchild in Tricare if the child is not in their household?
Child lives in another state with mother. The father is supposed to have insurance for child (according to court), but is trying to have stepmother add child as a dependent.
Can a step parents adopt their step child without the biological parents permission?
I am from Florida but living in the Bahamas (my husbands home) right now. Before I met my husband I had a son with my high school boyfriend (never married). He did sign the birth certificate and pay child support for a year or so. My son is now 5. His biological father has nothing to do with him and owes 7 grand in child support. My husband is the only father he knows. My husband and I also have a 2 year old daugher and we have been married for 3 years. We are having a hard time getting my son insurance through my husbands workplace because he is not his legal guardian. I asked my sons biologiccal father to sign over rights, but he won't even speak to me. I am going to meet with a lawyer when I go back to the, but until then I am just curious on if the adoption is even possible without his permission.
Does a step parent have rights to their step child?
My ex (my sons father) just recently got married. I have been having issues with this woman since the first day that she was in my sons life. My ex and I have joint legal and physical custody of our son so he is with us the exactly same amount of time each week. Any time that I try to have a conversation with my ex about our son, his wife feels like she has to be involved. My ex and I get along great when we are having conversations by ourselves but as soon as she gets involved, she makes the whole attitude of the conversations change and arguing starts. I am a young mother (23), I have a decent job but it is still a struggle to take care of my son and myself on my income. She has it set in her head that I am a bad mom because I am so young, there is no way that I could possibly take care of my son. She constantly is telling my son bad things about me and leads him to believe that I will never be as good as a mom as her. My son is 5, he understands what is being said to him and I don't want her to be messing with his head like that. Because my son is in preschool, the only way to get him in the preschool program that we wanted, we had to use his father's address in that school district. His step mom is continuously keeping paperwork from me that his school sends home and does anything she can to push me out of my sons life. She has talked my ex into trying to get full custody of my son from me and they threaten to do it daily. I'm afraid that my son is realizing that all this is going on. She will text me and say hurtful things to me and post things on facebook about me when I don't respond to her. I've documented a lot and I have a police report filed on her because she pulled my son off my lap while he was kicking and screaming so that she could hold him on her lap and then started yelling at me in front of hundreds of ppl at a sporting event, telling me that i am a bad mom, in front of my son. My ex does not see how any of this is a problem and I just want to know if she has any rights to my son like they think she does. Do I have to include her when I want to talk to my ex about our son? Ah..help!