My girlfriend's parents are racist what should I do?
its not worth it, esp. for 2 weeks, talking to her parents makes no sense, you can never change their mind about what they think about black people esp. black men. even if you speak to them and try very hard to "erase" all the negative stereotypes in their head, its then even going to be hard for you to live up to the "goodness" or what they then expect of you, and they will wait for you to then mess up. step out now b4 you develop more feelings for this girl. afterall its young and in some sense her parents are giving you a "warning", precaution is better than cure, you dont know her parents history of dealing with black men,the more you are with the girl the more upset the parents are and who knows if the realtionship between you and the girl her parents might take a more strict precaution like saying that you raped the girl ten you are in prison etc. it happened to many other black dudes out their with a situation similar to yours. so your life is worth more than the girl, think quick and smart, its your future. i truly wish you the best and hope you make a decision for YOU!.
My parents are racist?
Yep, your parents are racist. Remember, they come form a different era. I'm Indian, and my parents will frequently talk badly about Pakistanis, because that is the norm in India. Try to ignore it.
White guy dating a black girl. My parents are racist, I need help?
I'm a 22 yo man dating a beautiful 18 yo woman who happens to be different racially. My parents found out today that she was black and was not a bit happy about it. The problem is that I really have feelings for this girl, we've been dating for 3 months ( I know it's not long, but I have a great feeling about her). I've never dated someone of a different race before so this is new to me and doesn't help that my parents don't support me at all. My parents usually only want what is best for me and they're there for me no matter what, except on this matter. I would still consider them the best parents I could ask for, but I don't see how I can convince them into accepting my girlfriend (which they have never even met). I'm from an isolated country area that is mostly white and interracial couples are rare in that area. My girl and I believe in the same things, we're both in school making something of our lives and she's the sweetest girl I've met. Still, my mom blows my mind by texting me 3 times and calling me 4 times while I'm taking an exam in class. She say's word for word: "So your girlfriend is black? Have you lost your mind? I can not take another minute being put thru this with you. I don't know what is wrong with you but we need to sit down and have a discussion about whats next. I suggest where ever you are you call me now. I don't care if your in class. I just wonder if you dont care at all to break my heart. You know better than this. Its such a shame and disgrace and some day you will open your eyes and regret it. Haven't I taught you anything at all?? Have I failed you as a parent in any way? I just need to know this." I know this is a really long post, but I really need help on this. I love my parents, but I can really see myself with this girl for a long time and if I ended this relationship to keep my family in my life and happy, it would really hurt me and my girlfriend. I just don't know how to make this right. It's all I've been thinking about. It really hurts me that my family is ashamed by me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
Why are my parents so freaking racist?
Ok, so i've been dating this white guy for 2 years now and all these two years my parents didn't approve of the relationship. I'm Asian, my parents wants me to date Asians. In the past my older sister had a bad experience with a white guy, but that has nothing to do with the guy i'm dating. So anyways, I'm currently full-time in school, working part-time, and living with my parents. So today, my parents were yelling at me about my bf again. This time they made some really racial comments about every other race. My bf is moving to MN to be with me, and he'll need to stay at the house for a week until he can find a job and move out with me. My parents said yes it's fine before, but today they said "NO! He's not our kind. He's our enemy. Why are u dating other race other than your own? Don't you know he'll either end up killing you or leaving you? That's how White ppl are. So, choose either him or ur parents." I'm llike WTF!!!?? Why the hell are u two so f**king racist? Just cuz he's not Asian, u two are gonna criticize him? No one is perfect! So, if i'm being mistreated by an Asian guy it's ok? just because he's Asian? F**K that. I'm usually a laid back and patient person. But my parents are getting on my nerves. I mean everyone girl in my family dates/married to a non-Asian, and why is it that i'm the only one getting criticized for it? My parents told me to take the money i'm saving and get out cuz they don't want a white guy living there. The thing is that they made me use up my savings for house bills just a couple of months ago. I pay my share of bills at the house, but somehow for 3 months they didn't want to pay bills. So, i ended up using my savings for this. I have nothing left and starting over with saving. They said if i choose to stay with him, ima find my stuff outside one day. Why are they so freaking racist? I cant get any peace for dating a white guy. Why the f**k is that? I love him; he can be a pain in the butt sometimes, but isn't everyone? We always argued about my parents being racist and i always defended my parents. But this time im siding with him. Anyone knows why my parents are so racist? What should i do?
Do some white girls really get pregnant from black guys just to piss their racist parents off?
Of course some white girls do this. People do stupid things. Some girls take their pants off and place their azzes on electric fences. Never underestimate the stupidity some humans are capable of. Yep, some white girls go into rebellion mode and decide to get pregnant by a black guy to teach their parents a "lesson". That means they don't love the guy they use like a sperm donor or the children. They will most likely get disowned by their parents and eventually, they they will be single, raising those mulatto children on their own. And who suffers the most because of this "rebellion"? The innocent children who did nothing to no one. Guess the parents aren't the only ones taught a lesson in this situation.
Racist Parents...?
dvz is a moron. Humans are not birds. But using his reasoning: Have you heard of Chinese marrying Blacks or Black marrying whites or American Indians marrying whites or different breeds of dogs inter-breeding? Your parents were raised when racism was more overt. You may not be able to change them, but don't let them change you either. You can try discussing the absurdity of it with them and show examples of why THIS boy does not fit their stereotype. You can still speak with the boy at church; tell him how your parents feel and tell him that your are underage and still live by their rules. When you are of age you can date whomever you want.
Why do I feel bad when I see white girls dating black guys, am I racist?
Yes, you are.Here’s the good news: You have enough self-awareness to ask that question. That means you can change.I honestly don’t think it’s possible to be an American and not grow up being severely twisted up about race, no matter where you live, how your parents raised you, or how much pigmentation you have in your skin. All nations have their problems with racism, but the good-old USA, which likes to think of itself as having “solved” racism, constantly shows that it is one of the most racist nations in the world. Racism permeates our culture and poisons each and every one of us.But as individuals, we can choose to overcome it. I recommend, first of all, make some black friends. Or really any nonwhite friends. And be honest with them about your confusion once you get to know each other. Now don’t turn them into your guru on race—that’s not being a friend. Just be friends, and apologize when you screw up, and LISTEN TO THEM when they tell you you screwed up and why. And grow from it.Next, get your hands on pretty much anything written by James Baldwin. There’s a whole lot more writers out there who are amazing about race, but Baldwin really, really gets it, and he writes beautifully too. Baldwin, if you really read him and listen to what he has to say, will make you feel pretty awful about your racist feelings…but on the other hand, he holds out hope—not utopian kumbayah fake hope but real, practical hope that Americans can overcome our racial divisions and just be Americans.Being racist is lazy and weak and a really lousy way to live. An adult, one who is awake to reality, sees these poisons for what they are and works to purge them. Good luck.