Scorpio men: Does it bother you when your girlfriend/wife dresses provacatively in public?
For example: showing cleavage or the majority of their breasts are showing except for the nipples, wearing miniskirts, high heels, etc Personally, I think it's not fair to us. I see that as an open invitation for other men to look at her and think disgusting things about the one we love. They might even be as bold to hit on her right in front you because of the invitation. I found that most women do not understand this concept and they will fight to the death about it saying that they can wear whatever they want. and that it's not their fault that men are disgusting. But if they already know what kind of response they are going to get from other men, then shouldn't they keep their bodies more private in public, and only reveal themselves to their significant other? Just wondering if anyone else shares my views on this....
I beat my girlfriend, how do I stop blaming myself?
my (ex) girlfriend was a very beautiful very intelligent manipulative girl with serious issues.. boulimic.. cuts herself.. drug abuser.. sucky childhood and she likes to play with men.. she totally drove me crazy, one day she would tell me she wants to marry me and the other she would say I'm a loser, I'm not good enough for her and she wants to use her looks to find a rich man.. she earns her money by dating sugar daddies.. she says she doesn't have sex with them but it hard to believe she gets 10 grand to stay for a weekend in paris and nothing happens... she confessed to her best friend that she really loves me but she loves making me crazy too.. once I punched a hole in her door.. now i found out she loved that.. it makes her feel powerful.. I just can't understand why.. I did EVERYTHING for her.. she would call me in the middle of the night.. crying bcuz of her boulimia and I would come over to help her, no matter when or where I was always there. She destroyed my life, tore me and my family and friends apart on purpose. she would make up stories just to get me mad. The other day she got me so mad that I just grabbed her by the neck and smacked her a few times.. now it's obviously over between us and I just feel sooo guilty.. was it my fault or did she provoke? I never thought I'd hit a woman EVER!
My girlfriend blames me for everything! I need advice from you women.?
Very simple. Your relationship is acrimonious, not harmonious. You don't want it. You have already established patterns in your dating life that would continue for you both into your marriage. You have an unhealthy relationship with each other. No one speaks. Your Q says many times how she "yells" at you. That's not communication. You deserve a PARTNER! A COMPANION! someone with whom you want to listen to and who wants to listen to you and you both want to understand each other, not always lambaste each other. So, back to the simple part? Do what you wanted and start 2012 in a positive way - by being free and clear of this toxin who was your girl. Let her find someone better for her and let yourself find someone better for you (that part won't be hard at all). Best of luck to you and remember there's a healthy satisfying relationship out there waiting for you! Don't be tied to one that is immature and unhealthy!
Can you blame my husband/wife for cheating on me when I neglected him/her for almost 8 years of marriage?
I am going counter conventional wisdom here, but remember this…a well fed cat seldom if ever, strays. People cheat for myriad reasons. Some will cheat when they have a gorgeous and attentive spouse just because it is there or is a challenge. Some will cheat with a person they don’t give a crap about and justify doing it because of this…the guy who tells his wife that he did not love the girl and she was nothing to him….and some will cheat with the one who will turn out to be the love of their life….and I was that person.My first husband had untreated PTSD from four tours in Nam and an unbelievably horrid abusive childhood. He was a wonderful person who I will love until the day I die and he is my son’s father. But after our son was born, he walled off into television non stop, was largely uncommunicative and uninterested in sex or for that matter, anything. Totally on disconnect….turns out he would leave the room if our son cried…and he did this in fear of doing to him what his father did. I met the man who was my husband for thirty years until he tragically died of cancer last year. And I was not catting around on him….Neglect in a marriage to me is more toxic than cheating, though. It is said that if a man treats his wife like a thoroughbred she will never turn into an old nag. One cannot put sports, hobbies, the kids, drugs, alcohol, church or any external activity above one’s spouse for eons and then expect to pick up where they left off. One would not neglect a best friend, and one cannot neglect one’s chosen partner for life….does not work that way. Too often cheating is a symptom of something far worse…be it a character defect, or emotional/physical/mental neglect. I hear many guys say their wife let herself go after the kids were born…well, both of you cannot be gym rats and leave the kids at home. Someone has to be there…and too often it is her.And the same holds true for women…girlfriends, kinder/kirche/kuche….or in English, children/church/kitchen should not supersede the spouse. It is too easy to get married and think you are retired…think again.No one can keep the fevered pitch of lusty romance at all times…we are human. But one must create time for your spouse or partner…no TV/computer/phone/toys just the partner…to keep the spice flowing.Do I condone cheating? No. Do I understand why it happens having been on the receiving as well as doing end…Yes.
Why do women wear revealing clothing?
I am noone's boyfriend or parent. But I am well-qualified to answer this question since I am a woman myself.I would never date or marry someone who believes that he can "allow" me to do something. I am not a child, I am a grown woman. I don't mind someone close to me suggesting that a particular type of clothing might not be appropriate for an occasion or a place, but I am also free to ignore the suggestion. I don't ask anyone for permission to wear what I want to.My mom does give her opinion about things I wear sometimes. Most of the times, I agree with her and sometimes I don't. But thankfully, she is also quite aware that in the end, what I wear is my choice and she can only advise (and not order me) to wear or not to wear something.I have a sister and I give her advice about what to wear when she asks, else I keep my opinions to myself.Why should I confine myself to "comfortable clothing"? What is "comfortable clothing"? Some of the clothing you described sounds comfortable enough to me. In the question details OP you say that you don't think revealing clothing leads to rape. Then what's the problem with wearing the clothes you describe as revealing? Or is it that you think that it leads to other sexual offences such as sexual harassment, etc. (sections 354A-D of Indian Penal Code)? As with rape, men who commit these offences don't commit them because women wear revealing clothes. Those who want to act in such a way do so regardless of what the victim is wearing. It seems a lot easier for the Indian society to blame women for attracting "unwanted attention" instead of placing blame on those who do pay such "unwanted attention". It's really simple, my body is my own and I can wear whatever I want to wear as long as it does not violate any laws. Your body is your own and you can do whatever you want with it, unless and until you invade the personal space of another person, such invasion may be unlawful and may lead to legal consequences.Men themselves can certainly wear shorts and walk down a street without being sexually harassed because of it. And noone's asking them not to. So "revealing" clothing is not the cause. So the question is why shouldn't women wear "revealing" clothing if they want to? What harm does it cause?
Why do older men date younger women?
As a man that is in a relationship with a younger woman (as distinct from girl), l can probably say the following with some confidence and in no particular order:older women tend to be set in their waysolder women tend to be less interested in sexolder women are usually more autonomous and self reliant, which is a good thing as well as being more experienced when it come to accepting differencesyounger women have less life experiences and are generally more idealistic which plays to being less accommodating or acceptingolder men can see through certain behaviours to the resulting consequences with greater ease due to their own experiences and can thus, if they’re grown up enough, chose how to respond. This could piss some younger women off of course.it takes a particular type of younger woman, in terms of her emotional and intellectual maturity, to have a relationship of any consequence with an older chap. Some younger woman just prefer to be with someone that is more stablethe rule of thumb is, in terms of optimal age (x) difference, the chaps age (a) divided by two plus seven: x = (a/2) + 7. Anything beyond this and it starts to become creepy and frivolous. This formula can, in fact, be universally applied to any mans age (within the usual conventions of course). This is simply because women tend to mature more quickly than men.younger women tend to gird older chaps to being a little more conscious of their health on both mental and physical levels. This is not meant to say they’re in denial it just reduces the rate at which older men get too old in their heads and general disposition.some older men tend to be more experienced sexually and less inhibited when it comes to sharing and exploring in bed, which younger woman tend to like.I could add some more thoughts but the main reasons and associated issues from my humble perspective are summarised above. Additionally, I’ve just ‘sense checked’ with my significant other as to why she likes being with an older man and her response kicks some of what I've just written into touch. For her it's more about the chemistry as she doesn't necessarily prefer older men. It's just that, in this case, it happily works for her. She says it helps that I don't look my age and can engage with most people irrespective of their age, race, background. Nice touch on her part.So, at the risk of being a little trite in closing, it is sometimes said that a chap is only as old as the woman he feels!
Do any Blond men like Blonde women?
There is no way I'd want my son to possibly have blond hair. It is pointless to even date a blond woman that prefers blond men, because than the proceeding generation (my son) would have to "scavenge" for the few women (At least in "Western society") that like blond haired men. I wouldn't want my son to be east Asian either, perhaps Middle Eastern, African or Indian. Black hair is a must. Sorry, blame society, not me. but most men seem to prefer blonde women not dark hair. Blonde women are universally loved, but blond men live in a somewhat different reality. Truth. -_-
I notice a lot of women getting together and blaming men for their problems. Why is this?
Society really hits both genders hard. The media portrays men as cheaters and women as victims a lot. This is the big problem. You know how girls snoop through your phone but it's so wrong if you Snoop through theirs? Yeah, it's pretty ridiculous. The rest of it is not just an issue of trust and loyalty, but rather attraction. Girls see the media portray and encourage a certain kind of look and see that most men tend to be attracted to a specific look. So, they blame men for not liking how they naturally look. However, when a girl is called out on it, it's wrong. Same thing goes for a guy. If you aren't born looking like something, it's not your fault or anyone's. It's genetics. Also, in the court system, it's horrific. Men are constantly seen as the abuser when sometimes men are and sometimes women are. Then the women in most divorce cases gets whatever instead of the man who deserves it in certain cases only because she's a woman and assumed to be a nurturer. Life has unfair ways of treating both genders, and the media certainly doesn't assist us on making it more fair and equal.
Why do women get so mad when their men watch porn?
I used to feel that way when my husband (boyfriend at the time) would watch porn, but now I realize it was stupid and I'm secure with it.. so I've seen both sides of the fence. Allow me to explain. It used to bother me because I was insecure. I was insecure with myself, thinking that the whole time he was just wishing he could be with a girl like that instead of me. I was insecure with him, thinking that he didn't like me at all but was just with me because of whatever reason. And I was insecure with our relationship, thinking that if he had the opportunity to be with anyone like that, he'd jump up and run away first second he got. Then, I got sane, and realized how retarded that was. So what if he watched porn? It didn't change how he felt about it, it just meant that he liked to whack off, lol. We've been happily married for a year and a half now, and things are going great. My opinion about this changed before we even got engaged - I wouldn't suggest getting married if it bothers you that much! Anyway, just a little insight for you!