Why are girls harder to get along with/talk to than guys, on average?
Avoidance is always good when you don't really get along with someone. I think women have to prove to other women their worth. Men will talk to you because they want to talk to you--it's more on a simple level. Also, women have the whole competition thing going most of the time. Even if you're not into competing, they'll still want to be better than you. So when they first size you up, they're trying to find things that are better on their own body than on yours. I hate that! Not all girls are like that, though. I went from working with a bunch of catty women to working with women who are more down-to-earth...and I LOVE IT!!! Also, working with guys is easier for me because they leave me alone and I leave them alone. They don't feel like they need to talk every few minutes and they just do whatever they feel like doing. If a guy has a problem with you, he's going to tell you to your face instead of acting like he's your best friend and then stabbing you in the back in front of others just to prove their own worth.
Seriously I wish I knew, it's like we have to have perfect social skills in order for a girl to be receptive to us, even if we are just being ourselves, that does not always work. Girls can use almost any opening line to break the ice and start a conversation with a guy, us guys have to come up with something creative, original. In reality, it is much more difficult for a man to meet a woman than it is for a woman to meet a man, women are able to approach men and are also able to wait to be asked out. Men can not wait and rely on women to approach and ask for the date because men WILL NEVER BE ASKED OUT, or at least very rarely, because I've heard in some cases the gender roles are reversed, but still it is very rare. Men have to do everything in order to get anything with a Woman, sadly. When a man gets rejected he has to shrug it off and his friends would tell him to “be a man”. On the other hand, if a woman gets rejected, she would most likely take it as a personal insult on her inner child and her friends will comfort her. I'm not saying I would cry after being rejected or emotionally traumatized, like I wouldn't go to my friends so they could cheer me up, because I am not that childish. A woman is automatically accepted by society as a woman; whereas men have to prove themselves at every turn. A shy woman WILL get asked out without having to over come it. Men have to work more on themselves than women do. Men must have confidence, real self confidence, that is not based solely on how they look, but rather understanding and acknowledging their self worth in order to approach. Building up this type of confidence takes time and understanding.
Why is it so hard for me to talk to girls?
Me and a couple of my friends went out to eat last night and their was this super hot waitress serving our food. My friends were keeping a nice conversation going with her while I mostly just sat their and listened didn't really say much. I finally started talking to her but our conversation didn't last very long as we ran out of things to say and talk about. I just wish it was easier for me to talk to girls or talk to anybody without getting so nervous.I want a girlfriend so bad, but every time I talk to one we never connect or I don't even approach them and wind up kicking myself later because I didn't talk to them. So frustrating I'm 25 just wish I had girlfriend in my life. I don't know how to stop being so nervous when talking or being around girls.
It goes same for males making friends with their own genders too. It’s usually more easier to make friends with males for us because and admit we say this a lot “we just don’t want drama”. We know a lot of females usually likes to start drama.. I personally don’t like it too but that’s not the reason why i can’t make female friends. I’m not super opened with anyone, for example If I find someone rude/goes clubbing/drink/openly sexual/selfish/overly sensitive/always talking trash about another girl personality I don’t mind them but i don’t see myself being friends with them that goes same for males. I have also tried making a female discord & constantly asking out females I want to get to know, I’m always asking questions about themselves so I know what their interest in; I felt like they weren’t making conversation with me. It’s always 1–2 words per reply.Sometimes females I’ve met are super judgmental out of jealousy, they would judge from what they hear or what their mind say. A lot of girls that i know ALWAYS talk shit about other girls sometimes made up stories like how this girl got a plastic surgery when she is just naturally beautiful.Finding a close friend with the same gender is very hard because as you grow older you’ll realize you can’t trust a lot of people.People are fake, we only show partial of us because we care what people think and want to be careful with the people around us.Just go with the flow with life. If it’s fate you will meet a good friend.. I’m an adult and I don’t have close female friends… I go pokemon go by myself all the time otherwise i would’ve beat level 4–6 Pokemon by now for the first time.
Why does life gotta be so hard?
Don't understand why life has to be so hard. guess i just need to let everything out here. my name is brandon im 17 years old live in new york most of my life but i can't seem to have anything go for me everything i do im bad at and everything i want to do seems to just fail. I grew up pretty rough raised by my mom single parent in poverty basically. in new york seems like everything is based off looks im 5'10 250 pounds yes i know im obese but i have been trying to lose wait its just so hard i hate my image because it seems like that all everyone or at least what girls like. i never had a girlfriend or even my first kiss, lived with my mom alone all brothers moved out so i have basically no one to talk to dont want to talk to my mom she is already depressed as is dont want to worry her. i have a somewhat ok social life in school im not the most popular but im not a loner either but im pretty funny i carry myself clean clothes wise. but i seems like i have no luck with girls i know its cause my weight but as i said before kind of hard to lose weight because no one around me supports it. also cant get a job so i can support myself im so tired of being poor seems so unfair how few people get lucky and become famous and become so rich worry free while others are struggling to keep on moving. got kicked out of our apartment about 3 years ago i have to live with my aunt while my mom lives with her sister half way across the city and it seems to get harder my cousin/and basically best friend the only one i could talk to about anything without being judge died on july 19 8 days after my birthday of 2011 from a rare disease and i just feel like its going to get harder my mom isnt young neither is my aunt i know the inevitable is going to happen soon and i just cant handle it too much stress on myself. im also always stuck in my aunts house because of the no money thing so i dont go out with friends much but i wish i had someone that i can tell this too like a girlfriend or more of a bestfriend because most people dont care and i just find it so unfair that out of everyone i was chosen to have such a hard life. i know most of the people here are going to say man up or deal with it or you'll get through it but its easier said then done, guess i just wrote this to get it off my chest who ever decides to read this thank you for taking the time to even hear me out really appreciated
Why is it so hard for me to talk to girls? i'm already in my early 20s?
Hey man, I've been there. I know exactly what you mean about not being able to do it in front of other guys. Before the new year I was shy and couldn't talk to girls, never had a real girlfriend. Then I went to a party and saw this beautiful girl, but there was guys talking to her so I thought to my self, "me... her? yeaaah right!" But then I noticed that she kept looking at me and she even came up to me and introduced herself. Keep in mind I said only a few words. Later I found out through my brother that she had a crush on me. So coincidentally her and I went to the same concert and I started talking to her, while there was no one around. We've been going out for about 7 months now and I'm turning 21 in February. Point is, you don't really have to do much to get a girl. She'll like you for you and not some douche bag that can sweet talk his way with her. Being with her made me realize that girls aren't any different than guys. Just act like you're talking to another guy, just don't be immature or weird. Don't get to anxious while you talk to her. I mean you're just talking, nothing serious yet.
HOW COME TALKING To PRETTY GIRLS IS SO HARD?
If you do talk to a less pretty girls and not many guys talk to them then they will welcome any guy talking to them. I know this because I have a lot of fat/ugly girls friends and I always talk to them. I feel bad for them because they are all single and no guys like them. They like talking to me because hardly any guy wants to talk to them. So, I go over and talk to them about anything and they welcome the company. Now, what's the difference with talking to a pretty girl to a ugly girl is a lot of differences. You can't talk to a pretty girl about anything you can talk to an ugly girl would talk about. Pretty girls are hard to talk to because they get talked to by every guy out there and they heard it all. They have been approach by 100 guys out there and they are bored all the time when a guy comes up to them and start talking about the same thing they hear 30 minutes ago. You think you're the only guy out there that trying to talk to that pretty girl there. lol NO! So, the next time you go over and try to talk to that pretty girl, you better be coming with some grade A material or you get blew off like that. Hope you understand now.
Most people do not feel that way. Most people feel that the hardest part is talking to other people face to face. Personally I find talking on the phone the easiest next to texting. My ex hated talking on the phone but I started making her make the calls so that she would get more comfortable talking to people on the phone. This ranged from calling my parents to calling to order a pizza. Practice, practice, and more practice.
Girls, is it really as hard to talk to you as us guys think?
It shouldn't be but its only natural to feel that way. it's hard on both sides and very nerve racking. you don't want the person to blow you off or think you are weird or anything like that cause it would be a blow to self-esteem. But yes its possible and rewarding when it works. just have to push yourself and hope for the best. you just never know what will happen.
Are asian girls hard to get??? What...?
As a western guy who speaks fluent Chinese, I can say that no matter whether you speak their language or not, i find them incredibly difficult both to understand and have relationship with... Firstly, they almost all seem to have some kind of "princess syndrome", meaning that no matter what, they will always act as if they didn't have the slightest interest in talking to you, in such a way to make you feel "YOU ARE THE ONE ASKING FOR IT", for example: they add you on QQ or Wechat after having seen a message on a forum you posted, looking for friends, language exchange partners and so on. Once they have added you, it will always be for you to go and say hello, you'll have to try at three days in a row to get a one-word answer, like "Ni Hao", after three tries you get a "hao". They'll never start talking first. Then, it's for you to try start the conversation, so you ask a random question, if you're lucky, after 30 minutes you'll get a short one-word answer, like "Yes", "No" or "Mhh". So you try another question, same story. She'll never ask you a question about yourself that you can answer and start build on. She will instead say something like "Why does it feel like you are interrogating me? You present yourself", in this imperative tone. Like "strip naked in front of me". "Well, aren't we supposed to have a dialogue, a conversation? not a monologue?"... I'm a man, i won't strip in front of you. That's the first thing, which makes them tiring to talk to. Then, according to my understanding and experience, in China the guy must provide for everything (Money (some kind of a precondition to a relationship in lots of cases), a house, a car, a business, ...), and must accept to endure absolutely all tantrums their chinese girlfriends throw, be ready to accept all their demands (like she wants something you must buy it for her, you must carry their handbag outside in public, sometimes even both her handbags, you mustn't show you're annoyed, coz if you do, their "you're not a man", she'll say. So yeah, i think being a guy in China must definitely be a painful thing. These girls are beautiful, but really they shouldn't behave as if they were some kind of princesses or godesses, so F****** annoying and detrimental to the image they give. A "western" guy who is tired of going after girls who are his age but behave so childishly and stupidly.