My parents make me feel uncomfortable and awkward?
My mom and my dad make these little comments and statements about things and it makes me feel really uncomfortable and makes awkward situations. I said one time something what this kid did at school, he's a black kid named Dontarious. (Please note that I have no interest in dating any black person in my life, I'm not racist, but I don't think I should. Please don't let that reflect your answer towards me.) after I said what he did, I ended it by saying, "But he's a nice guy." And then my mom and dad got this look on their faces and my dad said, "uh-oh." Followed by my mom saying,"You're going to date Dontarious? I mean that's perfectly fine, but.." And it made me uncomfortable and awkward. With today's society, you can't even say someone's nice without people thinking you like the person in that way. I think it's quite sad, actually. Then a few days later I was watching Rhett and Link on the TV, and my dad hates them. He called them gay, so I stood up for them and said something. Then he turned around and whispered something to my mom. Then my mother said, "Your dad's afraid you're going to bring home Dontarious..." I said, "WILL YOU GUYS STOP!" It made me feel uncomfortable. And my mom constantly talks about me going through puberty and shaving and getting my period and it makes it awkward cuz I'm around my dad when she does it and I feel uncomfortable. Is there anyway I could make them stop? Thank you.
Why does my Dad make inappropriate jokes?
He really embarasses me. He usually makes these perverted gross jokes in front of his friends at the dinner table. Doesn't he realize he makes his family feel awkward when he does this?
Why do I feel awkward when people display their emotions?
I suspect it makes you uncomfortable because you believe they expect a certain response from you, and you are unsure what that response should be. It may help you to know that people who "tell you their problems or display strong emotions" are really NOT expecting you to solve their problems, or respond in any particular way; they are simply expressing themselves, and need someone to just listen. Sometimes the BEST response is not to say a thing, just BE THERE, and show them you are listening.
How do I stop feeling uncomfortable around my dad?
My MOM did the sort of boob thing to me too. I think parents just try to wrap their heads around their kids growing up. The brush of the arm happens ALL THE TIME from now on, it'll get to the point where you don't take it personally. The leg thing was also just an accident, there was probably a lot of flailing! If he makes you uncomfortable, if he does it again just say, "Dad, that's sooo weird! Stop! Seriously!" or something like that; a typical teen-parent complaint, you know? Then if he keeps teasing or commenting about them after that, get more serious about it or tell your mom about your feelings. When you tell your mom you don't have to make him seem perverted, just say his teasing and comments are weird to you or uncomfortable. Don't hesitate to tell your parents your feelings! They don't want to hurt you or make you feel uncomfortable!