Why Does My Dad Keep Yelling At Me

Why does my dad always yell at me for everything and why does he always compare to my cousin?

Sad to say, I have to agree with Connor Duke. An unfulfilled parent will find at least one child to devalue...no matter how well the child does, it will never gain the parents approval.............You have to see your own good work, feel happy for it, celebrate your own achievements and NEVER allow another person, parent, teacher or person to make you feel the best you do is never enough, to make you feel "less than". If you rely on someone else's approval, when you know you have done well, you will be disappointed more often than not. The disappointment will eat away at your self-esteem, diminish your self-worth, and you will grow up to be emotionally broken on the inside, struggling to achieve successes.People who spend time not being able to celebrate other people's successes, no matter how small the successes may be, have control issues because they feel out of control with their own lives, so they find those they can bully and use them as punching bags to aim their frustrations at.....children are the easiest targets.This is a human emotional and psychological problem, common right around the world, not exclusive to any one National culture.

Why is my dad always yelling at me, and never admits it?

My mother never drank when I & my two brothers were growing up but she married a German, who was an electrician & they didn’t drink Monday through Friday day because he worked for the electric company. Starting Friday night at 5:15 they drank until Sunday night when they went to bed. They never got physical but would have drunken arguments with my stepfather yelling & our mother screaming at each other with horribly filthy language & name calling. I only lived with them for a year after they got married; I was my mother’s oldest child. They had a girl my senior year & a boy when I was in college, working & living on my own. When they were 14 & 12 (my two brothers had moved out by this time too) they used a tape recorder to tape their parents fighting. You’d think that would be enough to make them quit drinking (I have a glass of wine with Christmas dinner, otherwise I don’t drink) Instead, when the kids played it for them during the week when they were sober, they were furious with the kids & not at all ashamed of their behavior. I’d get my mother to promise to not drink at all if I flew down to visit; my stepfather would convince her that they were celebrating my visit & one drink wouldn’t hurt. They’d stay drunk for 2 days & 3 nights of my visit. I’d tell my mother I couldn’t handle the drinking & felt so sorry for my half siblings. My mother would promise to stay sober if I’d come down & bring my little girl. I’d come for a visit & it would be the same thing: loud, sloppy drunks arguing. I’d take my daughter, sister, & brother & go to the movies to get away from them. People who yell & call names, never admit they’re wrong, even with a tape recording to prove otherwise. The only good thing I can say is my parents never hit or were physical with us & my mother refused to let my stepfather lay a hand on their two kids (or on us when we lived with them) I never hit my daughter & told my husband, who’d been beat with a belt as a child, that the day he touched either of us in anger or laid a hand on any child we had, he’d be served divorce papers in jail.

Why do I cry when my dad yells at me?

Depends on your age, emotional development, and capacity to embarce the disapointment you experience in an authority figure you hope would demnstrate compassion, understanding, love, appreciation, encouragement and mentoring. You feel wounded and disregarded. You feel emotionally abandoned, bedtrayed and saboaged by a father figure who communicates in such a destructive manner. The anger you feel towards his yelling eventually will present itself in forms of depression (anger inward) then despair, grief, and isolation. Your friends will hopefully bridge gaps so that you do not treat them as you were treated by your father. You also may beome angry at your mother for defending you from a monster narissistic, controlling, intimidating father. Your father could be doing to you what was done to him… He could be hurting inside and refleting out to you the quality of his own empty vacant heart. You must find in the community or church responsible families with fathers who model healthy encouraging relations in order for you to properly develop emotionally, cognitively and socially. It gets worse if dad has addictions of drinking, druging, porn, or envy and greed to achieve, etc.