Friend always wants to be better than me?!!?
So my friend always wants to be better and smarter than me and you don't know how frustrating this is for me. To show you what I mean here's a story: so at school we do this online school thing where you answer stuff that your learning and it times you and gives you a score out of a 100 and shows what question your on. One time my score was 37 I was on my 5 question and it was 2 minutes and my friends score was 22, question 3, and 3 minutes and SHE MADE ME GET LIKE 5 QUESTIONS WRONG just to try to be smarter than me!!!!! Than after she does that she shows my other friends and it's really frustrating and sorta sad because than people have low expectations for me and don't know what I can actually do. I've tried talking to her about it but she always says whatever I don't care. And if I don't get a question wrong she gets mad at me and ignores me. Thanks for understanding and please help! It drives me crazy!
I want to be better! Better than my friends. What should I do?
If you want to be better than your friends, then you need to define better. What do you want to be better at? "I want to be better at Everything"Great...but that is isn't very actionable. Nor does it make sense. That includes being better at bad things.Step 1. Decide what "better" means to you in specific attributes and skills.Step 2. Take a baseline measurement of you Vs. your friends on those important things.Step 3. Research the areas you want to improve.Step 4. Use your research, build a plan with a coherent set of objectives towards your goals (this could include things like skill question etc.).Step 5. Action that plan.Step 6. (Optional) Use regular feedback intervals to be sure you are on track. This will increase your rate of progress.----That's really all there is to it. In fact, this more or less applies to attaining anything that is currently out of your reach, not just besting your friends.---Word of cautionIf you define better as "being a genuine and likable person who people love to be around", then I would think about carefully about this project. Your friends should (arguably) be one of the most important aspects of your life. Diminishing them to people you want to measure up against in every aspect, isn't really an endearing trait.Friendly competition is good, having friends that drive you to be better is great. Just make sure the reasons you are doing it are sound. The way your question is phrased makes me worry about your motives.That said, its not up to me to tell you why you should do what you do or what your motivations should be. So good luck!---Like my answer? Don't forget to follow me.
Why does it feel like my friends are better than me?
Better at what? Specific skills? That's normal. You might have a friend who's better at playing guitar and a friend who's better at knitting and a friend who's better at Call of Duty. We can't be the best at everything.If you mean they're better people than you, what does that mean? That they're more ethical? Kinder? Stronger? Smarter? There are so many useful and admirable characteristics that I find it pointless to rank people. Somebody's always going to be smarter or stronger or kinder than you, and you're smarter and stronger and kinder than someone else. It doesn't mean one person is worth more than another. If it seems to you that your friends are worth more than you, then I suspect the issue is simply that you don't like yourself very much.
WHy all my friends always bully me ???
Dear Sally, Friends do not bully friends, especially best friends. You need to work on your self esteem and find new friends and let new people (nice ones) get to know you. You certainly deserve better than that. Friends are supposed to bring out the best out of us not to make us sad. I heard that no one deserves your tears and the ones who would deserve your tears would never want to make you cry because they love you too much. Good luck! Big hugs
I am always jealous of my friend. She is better than me in every way. How can I stop myself comparing with her? I'm 25, male
I use to be so jealous of my older sister cuz she was prettier, had more friends, skinnier, better hair, etc the list goes on and on… I finally grew up one day and realized we are 2 completely different people for a reason… I am one of a kind and proud of it… you won't meet anyone else that is just like me ever… I learned what I like to do and what I want to be in life and who I am as a person and ya know what, since then, I haven't been jealous of anyone since! I don't care if someone has more money than me or has better hair than me or if I think that they have a better nose than me. I am me and I will forever strive to be the best me that I can be and that's all I can do because I was made to be me for a reason and I have touched many lives and I have done many things because I am simply me.
Why do I hate to see my friends better than me?
The right thing for you is not to envy your friends instead try to learn from them. Since, they are your friends, they will not have any problem in helping you out. Envying them will not help you in manner, instead it will only sadden you more within. Be cheerful in life and do something which will make your friends proud of you. Hating to see them doing well will only make situations worse.But if you really want to know the psychological reasons for your hatred : https://www.forbes.com/sites/wor...I hope it helps.
Why does my friend always ditch me at the last minute?
I only have a few friends that I hang out with outside of school. One of them, we'll call her "M", always makes plans with me but cancels at the last minute. Every weekend she goes to her cousins house and hangs out with her friends. I'm cool with that, but sometimes I wanna hang out too...and she always makes plans but then cancels. This is literally the 3rd weekend in a row she's canceled. And I know it's because she's still hanging out at her cousins house. And it's not just me she's canceling on, she does it to everyone. People have stopped inviting her places, because they know she won't come, but she gets mad at them when they don't?!?!?! I'm just fed up with this, I could be doing something better than waiting all day for her to hang out, only to have her cancel on me. And I can't really be friends with her cousin and her friends...we don't have a lot in common, and well, they do things that I'm not interested in... if you know what I mean.......... Anyways, why does my friend keep blowing me off? Does anyone do this to you? What should I do??? Thanks.
Why does my best friend try to outdo me?
I had a friend like this when I was in high school. She was a very insecure person, and trying to outdo me and be better than me was her way of validating herself. She's using you as a measuring stick to judge her own worth. Honestly, calling her on it will probably just make her mad at you. I'm not saying to ignore it, but let it slide, joke about it and show her it doesn't matter to you might make her realize some things aren't such a big deal...example She says "I'll be driving before you" you could say something like "yay! then you can take us to the mall." Complimenting her on things that are positive about her might help her tone it down.