I feel like there is a second voice in my head - sounds really stupid?
We all refer to that "voice in our head" at some point, but I feel like there is this stranger, second voice in my head now. It sounds really stupid, but its creeping me out. I'll just be doing something, like homework, and I get this overwhelming thought to like, for example, bite my arm. It entirely spontaneous and happens every once in a blue moon or something. I've been wanting to draw this picture, but I can't really put it past an idea in my head that goes without words, but this voice is like telling me I can't draw unless I puke (weird, yes, but its true) and all week I've been feeling like I have to throw up. Maybe its just my voice in my head, but it kind of creeps me out. Should I just keep ignoring it? Thanks :D
Why does my voice sounds different?
I learned about this in voice class! It's a concept called "acoustic deception". What that means is that what you're hearing in your head is not what the rest of the world is hearing. There are so many sound waves bouncing around in your head when you speak that you don't know what you actually sound like to everyone else. For example, ever watch the auditions of American Idol where the people say they're really good and then they're awful? That's because they hear amazing singing in their head, but it's coming out as terrible singing. I find it to be a rather interesting concept.
What does your 'inner voice' sound like?
According to Wikipedia (I know, I know, so reliable), inner voice or “internal monologue” is thinking in words. [1]I don’t know how my inner voice sounds like exactly. I had to think. I don’t “hear” the voice, but I do feel it, if that makes sense. I know that it’s there.It’s a she.She sounds like me. Well, at least what I think I sound like. When I record my voice, I sound nothing like what I think I sound like.She sounds like me, but more confident, more firm with her words. She knows what to say, and when to say it. She’s clear, concise, and exactly how I want to portray myself.She’s everything I want to be.But I mess up. Whenever I think and hear what she wants to say, it sounds so brilliant in my head. On its way out of my mouth however, the words get jumbled and sometimes go missing.Her eloquence is something I lack, something I so desperately want to acquire.Why can’t I speak like she does?Why do my words get messed up when I speak them?Why can’t I always be clear, concise, and confident when I speak?Footnotes[1] Internal monologue - Wikipedia
How do I turn off the stupid annoying little voice in my head that says I have to find a man and settle down like, now, or the world will end?
I'm in the same position as you, although I'm older,38. You don't need to turn off the voice, the less you try to think about something you will achieve the opposite effect. Allow the thoughts to come, and just observe them as thoughts you've had before and that they will pass. Try and be philosophical about them, you know the world will not end if you don't settle down immediately. I'm not particularly bothered about finding a partner; I quite enjoy my homelife with my daughter as is. I'm grateful for the good things I have in my life; my health, my family and my friends. You have a lot to be grateful for, so try and focus on that. Lots of people have partners, but don't have what you have, and are miserable.When I was younger, I thought along similar lines to you, and trust me it's not the end of the world to be single, in fact life can be quite joyous without a partner. Over the years I've witnessed various relationships and very few are harmonious long term.I've been there with the over analyzing and driving myself crazy over every little thing a boyfriend has said and as you know it achieves nothing. When you find yourself doing this, step away from the phone and focus on something else! Something you enjoy, exercise etc. I've found meditation a good tool for clearing the mind and getting rid of unwanted thoughts.It sounds like you have a very good life, so let that give you confidence and ease your mind. When you meet someone new, enjoy it and get excited about it, tell yourself if it works out, that's great, if it doesn't, then that's ok too, I've a great kid to go home to. Re-assure yourself that whilst it might be something you want, it's not something you need.
I can only sing in my head voice!?
Okay, you'll think I'm trying you make you feel stupid here, but I promise you this works. It will also treat you proper breathing. Bend over at the waist with your head between your legs. Sing. You'll note its hard to. Or try lying down on your stomach and singing (turn your head to the side). When you breath in reach your hand below your ribs and on your abdomen. Feel it expand and recede as you breathe. When you sing push the air from there. You can always tell what voice you are in by where you are pulling the air from. Diaphragm, chest, head, etc. It will be a bigger sound when not in your head voice, so theres no need to force more volume. Hope it helps.
I have a strong head voice but weak chest..weird i know (more details)?
Having a weaker chest voice verses head voice is NOT abnormal, nor does it neccessarily have to do with breathing correctly. Its just how your instrument is set up. Most 13 year olds don't have a strong chest voice. Many sopranos don't have a strong one either. And yes, at 13 your voice is not fully matured. Your voice doesn't hit its full maturation state until close to 40! So you have a ways to go. This doesn't mean you don't have a mature voice for your age. Some young singers do have a good firm foundation at your age. What I can tell you is to continue to vocalize and make sure you a using proper singing technique in your singing. Eventually your chest voice will strengthen, and it will become reliable. Don't let anyone tell you that's weird. I've had many students with your same problem. Continue to explore your voice as you age. I promise you it will be temporary if you work on it.
Why is it that when I write I sound like a genius, but when I have to speak I sound stupid?
Ah my friend, you only lack practice. And, failure-immunity. See What is 'failure-immunity'?Back to speaking in public, like I said: practice! I recommend Toastmasters! You'll gain more ease and confidence over time with lots of encouragement.Absolutely a storytelling class could be a great help too! I took a workshop with Portland Story Theatre and told a story called Turning Poison into Medicine. Kim Breas: Poison into MedicineTips for expressing yourself verbally in a clear and comfortable manner are:To project confidence always (always, always, always) stand/sit straight with your shoulders back and head high (or in very casual situations still remain in a confident posture!)Smile! (my favorite trick is I know that if I stand up straight and smile, I'll be well received. No matter how 'off' I might feel, my total confidence in this trick makes me smile. Then I'm off and running.Speak about 15-20% more slowly than you want to. This is hard - but people will pay more attention when you speak more slowly, and it does give your brain a little more time to figure out the next words that are supposed to come out of your mouth!Now go practice!Kim"Everyone has the right to make an ass out of themselves. You just can't let the world judge you too much." HAROLD & MAUDE Watch Harold and Maude (1971)