My mom always overreacts about everything. What can I do about that?
If talking to her calmly doesn’t work, the only other thing I can say is that the only thing you can do is learn to deal with it. You can’t change someone else, but you can change how you react to it. Does she ‘go off’ & get really upset? Let her get it out of her system & move on with your life. Sometimes people just need to voice themselves to validate their feelings. Let her. Chances are, you can’t change her at this stage of her life. But you can reassure her, constantly if necessary, that it’s not as bad as she thinks it is.My example is not a mother who overreacts, but one who is very negative. Doesn’t matter what the subject is, she can find the bad in it. I used to argue with her, but it never did any good. The older I get, the less I am willing to argue with my mother. She won’t be around forever. I just let her voice her opinions, concerns, whatever, and I try to interject something positive into the conversation. It might not get us anywhere, but there is no arguing over who’s right. Sometimes I say something to make her think about the topic from another person’s point of view. Sometimes I just let her rant. She is almost 80; she is not going to change.I learned a long time ago not to sweat the small stuff, and someone else’s negative attitude is small, to me.
Why does my mom overreact sbout everything?
My mom overreacts about a lot (in my opinion). For example, one day I didn't get up at the time I was supposed to for school (alarm didn't go off) so she poured water on me, and as a result she said I looked at her really rudely, which I probably did. And she got upset at me. She yelled and cursed and said I was ungrateful, because if anything I should be happy she even woke me up at all. Today, when I wanted to talk to her about something at school, I started talking, and she cut me off and was like, "I need you to hurry up because I'm busy. It better be important." And it wasn't what she said, but the way she said it. Anyways I told her that it wasn't important, but I wish I had more time to talk to her; and basically how everytime I try to talk to her she says she's busy. She got really mad about that too, because apparently she was filling out paperwork for me (and that's why she was busy). She said I'm so ungrateful, because I'm complaining about her being busy, and if I'm being honest I don't see the big deal. It's just, sometimes I feel ignored at home. The only time we really talk is when she's yelling at me about something. Like I"ll do something good, or get an award and she'll find out and be like "When did that happen, why didn't you tell me?" And I don't tell her because she doesn't ask and when I do try to say something she's busy. And it's not like I don't appreciate what she does, but I'm human too. I gett upset and I complain soemtimes: Don't we all?
Hi im 14.. my mom is mad at me cuz im always ebressed of her infront of friends is it normal?
yes i think you're just overreacting aint it nice to have your back and is close to your friends? maybe you have friends who don't have sweet and caring mothers.. be proud of your momma
Why does my mom always overreact?
I just made it out of ANOTHER mom rant, that wasn't even supposed to involve me. So mom asks my sister call someone. And when my sister wants to know why she wants her call that person, mom bursts out in hulk like rage saying 'WHY ISN'T MY REQUEST ENOUGH, WHY DO I HAVE TO ANSWER TO YOU, YOUR'E THE CHILD, I'M THE ADULT, YOU ANSWER TO ME, I DON'T NEED A REASON, JUST DO WHAT I TELL YOU!" And since that didn't stop my sister yet, she said "Sorry, I just don't understa-" Then mom yells "QUIT CHALLENGING MY AUTHORITY!" and it went back and forth like this until my sister broke down in tears. Then Mom says "Oh grow up, you shouldn't be crying for disobeying me" Then she turns to me and starts raising her voice saying " GREAT NOW I HAVE A LAZY CHILD"(She points at me) "AND I HAVE A DISRESPECTFUL CHILD!", Then she walks back into her bedroom and I can hear hear her talking to herself, then she comes BACK to yell some more! And wasn't the only time. One day we were talking about this movie we say the other day, and I said I liked it, but there were some parts I didn't like then she said I was pissing her off with my opinion. And YESTERDAY when my socks were on the ground, she asked me why, and I said "I don't know, I guess I forgot to pick them up." Then she said THAT pissed her off too, she was expecting me to say something like "no reason" or "because I was being lazy". And the problem I have is that I have anger issues, so dealing with mom doesn't make it any better.I NEED ADVICE
Why does my mom always complain about everything I do even if it's something minor?
This is a classical parenting situation and is more common that one thinks. Primary reason rests highly on the parent, in this case the mum, as parenting is in her hands. She can make or break it. When a mum ‘always complain’, especially ‘about everything minor’, it just signifies that real communication is not there. Both parties are just speaking aloud what they perceive and there is no real connect at the deeper level, ie. the level where there is trust, respect and congruence. This begins way before the above is manifested to be a problem. Many reasons for why the mum fails to garner the deep communication, such as the lack of time and effort in paying attention to it, biasness towards certain siblings, dislike of that child because of certain resemblance or reminder to someone or something the mum dislike, arranged marriage, etc.At another level, one that is more personal to the mum, she may already have her own ‘baggage’ that manifest itself through the constant nagging. She can be constantly in an ‘unresolved’ state of being due to some issues that is not closed. This can constantly tug at her subconsciously causing her to be seeking resolution but finding none. Hence, the nagging is a way of expressing that frustration and seeking out for closure or answers in all the wrong directions. She does not better.The child may misbehave or be rendered ‘bad’ and may truly be so [eg. being wayward, gangsterish, doing crimes etc] but that is not the real cause for her to nag. Many times, the child’s behaviour may even be caused by the mum’s manifestation.Hence, the mum needs to find her own inner peace by resolving her inherent issues and letting go of hindrances. She needs to understand that nagging the child like that is not going change anything. In fact, nagging mums just show that she has ‘lost’ the situation and further nagging is just going to bring the child down. This kind of situation needs time to deal and heal, constant attempts at understanding oneself and seeking to amend the relationship and is crucial for the relationship. It can spiral downhill badly if ignored as the misunderstanding will perpetuate in that unresolved state.
Does my mom overreact or am i just being a whiny little brat?
Well.. With that spaghetti incident, I would say that she is overreacting-id say overprotective aswell- she probably loves you and doesnt want you to be sad. But confront her, say to her that you dont like it, hatred is being created between the two because of it, it feels like a prison more than it does of a home,, etc.. Say to her, "you find it uncomfortable and that if it doesnt change im going to have to do something about it" DONT raise your voice as it will intimidate her. But im sure she doesnt want you to leave, if you understand what I mean. Say to her that it hurts you and she is always overreacting. Say to her you dont like it, say to her that she is forcing you to leave and that some point you will. Tell her that she is crossing the boundaries. She has crossed it and is turning more into a enemy than a helpful-loving-understanding mother. Your going to have to discuss this with her. Dont show any weakness, but also dont intimidate her. Talk quietly and calmly. If she says that she want you to have a good life, then tell her the good thing you want to do, tell her the things that are bad which she always repeats. You have to confront her.
Why does my mom bother me so much?
Is it just you or does she annoy everyone? I don't know your mom but some people are just annoying and there is not much you can do about it. If it's just you that finds her annoying then, you should just relax and try to see her in a different way than you usually do. Like try to have a more open mind about her personality and try not to be so judgemental. Everybody is different and you should at least respect that.
My mom is always overreacting and yelling about everything I do wrong. Does she feel like she failed as a parent? It makes me feel like crap especially when she goes tell the whole world my business. How should I handle these situations?
Hey. I know what you are going through. I experienced this as recently as today. I did something dumb in school. My teacher just HAD to email my mother even though I’m clearly too old for that. I don’t understand why my mom yells at first. I just stand in front of her, and then go to my room and cry. But really what happens is that your mom cares for you. I know it’s hard to think that’s the truth, but it is. Remember that no matter what, she loves you. Even if you think she hates you, it’s just until she calms down and collects herself. Talk to her. Tell her why what you did can be improved. Apologize. Hug her. All things I do, with a genuine intention to do them (I have to do this tonight, wish me luck). My mom worries about me 24/7, and that’s the real reason I feel like crap when I do this stuff. I feel like I messed up my parent's lives. I even question “why am I such a horrible person? I deserve to die.” But your parents will be there for you, and they don’t mean to make it seem any different. So even though she may be angry right now, remember that she actually loves you. And this isn’t coming from a mother. It’s coming from a daughter. I may not be able to drive, but I do know that you aren’t the only one with a mom who’s like this. She just cares. So appreciate it.That got a little (ahem, a lot) off topic, but really, I hope this helps you. Now it’s time to talk to my mom!-Vaani
How do I deal with my mom, who overreacts and yells at me for something I didn't do on purpose?
Yeah, it sounds like your mom is wrapped-up so tight that little things have her going over-the-top with her reactions.Do you have brothers or sisters? Where’s your dad? Does your mom work full-time somewhere? I ask, not for MY sake, but to show you that your mom’s stress levels will go up if she has a lot of responsibility and little adult help.Suggestion: work on your sense of humor. I’m serious: when you’re able to see the ridiculousness of your own or someone else’s behavior, then you can make fun of yourself, or exaggerate the other person’s actions until they start laughing at themselves.It seems your mom has too many responsibilities so she’s delegating some of those to you. Do what you can, as best you can, and otherwise stay out of sight until she can get a grip on herself.If your dad is in the picture, I suggest asking him for help. And if there are other kids around, they should have chores, too.Another suggestion: if your mom does the yelling thing again, just stop what you’re doing and look at her. Don’t say anything, just look at her. If she asks that dreaded parental question: “WELL? Do you have anything to say for yourself?” , then keeping looking at her, in the eyes, and calmly say, “I’m sorry I didn’t do (whatever) to your satisfaction.” That’s it.I hope she just walks away, goes to HER room, and has a good cry. It sounds like she needs to do that.
Why does my dad overreact to every simple thing?
There is a problem in the very deep structure of your relationship with your dad that needs to be addressed. Expectations of life, culture etc. do not match?I have similar issues that have gone on - unspoken - with relatives dating back 40 years - not good.If you can, find a mediator. There used to be a government run charity called “relate” in the UK that tried to heal this sort of rift in families.Or try talking in a friendly voice about the problem without aggression or one-upmanship.These things build up as a matter of ego and pride and not one party backs down. We both sides feel agrieved and possibly because of the use of condescending voice tone. Never treat another human with outright contempt -especially family. Saying “sorry” is the hardest thing but soooo worth it.It is good to acknowledge that - in some respect your dad is right and that his views are at least half founded… but point out that you must be allowed your own methods to achieve a good solution that fits both of you.It is also worth noting that inside a family home -that you possibly both subconsciously regard as a safe haven where troubles should not enter - there is a very touchy possibility of each triggering the other’s rage irrationally in a “fight-or-flight” scenario… Battles away from home you can handle losing as you still ahve that safe haven to go to… but at home if you both think you ought to feel relaxed there - you will fight like demons not to be undermined in that space.If your father is the sort of person that is intelligent and knows the need to compromise, you can start to build a better future. If he is foolish and stubborn, he will not take the opportunity and may double up - but the ball and impetus to improve will be in your court. You may have to quietly work your way out of his house and find independence… this is done better slowly and not rushed into as many youngsters find themselves in deeper trouble if they run away too soon (think Naomi Watts and 3 T Rex’s… after 1 Kong).