Why does my Mom get mad at me so easily?
It happens almost every day for years. I am a 14 year old girl who makes her mother mad for the small things. Today I came home from playing basketball with friends and I went to grab some food and milk. The milk smelled disgusting and when I told my mom, she said to taste it. I didnt want to, so I told her I didnt want to drink bad milk. She kept saying to drink it, I kept refusing. She started yelling at me. I spilled like two drops of milk on the counter and went to get paper towels. My mom started calling me lazy and careless. i cleaned it up walked to the table and she said: You can't do anything right. I broke down inside. I hated it when she said things like that. So I sat there eating trying to hold back tears as my mom lectured me about how I am lazy and how I dont care about her and how I always want things my way. Now before you think the wrong thing, my mom isnt a bad person. Shes a very caring and loving mother, but when she gets mad, her words hurt bad. My mom only gets really mad at me if I dont do what she wants. If I dont wear the shoes she wanted me to wear, i get a lecture and maybe a grounding for a day. If I dont wash a dirty dish, I get the your lazy and careless, and maybe a grounding for a week. If I dont do chores or I wait to be told, I get a big.lecture, the hurtful words, and a grounding for a week. It may seem stupid, but Im a sensitive person. This has been going on for years. Sometimes she asks me, is there something wrong with you? Maybe she is right. I think that I am the reason to my moms anger. I am the reason why she is so tired every day, why she yells at me all the time. When she says I am lazy, careless, not smart, and greedy, its like I get a scar on my brain. She has convinced me into thinking that I am some sorr of monster. I used to think I could change. But Now I feel stupid for telling myself that lie. I feel like nothing will ever happen. Ive prayed to God many times. He has reached out, but I must have ignored his call.
Why does my mom get upset when I cook for myself instead of everyone?
Because the same amount of effort and dirtied dishes could result in the feeding of more than just you. If you’re living in a house with multiple people, especially when they’re not old enough to cook for themselves, it’s selfish to prepare your meal without offering to prepare an additional portion for them. If you ask everyone before you cook, “hey I’m making pancakes do you want some” then that actually helps your mom. Instead, when you don’t offer it to everyone, it creates extra work for her. Some parents don’t let their kids prepare their own meals. If your mom does, and she gets angry when you don’t feed others, I imagine she’s crunched for time and has every right to be annoyed when you fill the house with food odors, making everyone else hungry and causing her to stop what she’s doing and make more of whatever you just made.
Why does my mom get so mad when I don't speak to her?
I think that you should initiate a conversation where you simply tell her how you are feeling. Let her in on what’s going on.When I was your age (I’m 26 now) I became very withdrawn and hid away on the computer at about your age. Truth be told, I don't really like my mom, but you probably like yours. If not, grin and bare it. So anyway, I felt like I was always in limbo between being a bother to her and not giving her enough attention.I learned that if I started a dialogue with her about whatever was an issue, even if it was with her, etc, that I could make things easier on myself than if I said nothing and waited for her to erupt with whatever negative feelings she was brewing.Basically, just let her know exactly how you feel. Say something like “hey mom, can we talk for a bit?” And then start the topic with “I know you feel that I haven't been talking to you very much and I know that it upsets you. I’m very sorry about that, but I wanted to tell you that’s it's not because I love you less or anything like that. I just don’t have much to say right now and I’m going through a lot that I just need time to process sometimes. So please don’t read my decreased communication as anything personal towards you.” (or however you want to phrase it; just be calm about it).I have a feeling that you are an only child (like me). If so, that can make the whole process of you growing up even harder. But she owes it to you to not keep you down. Just try to help make the transition easier.Good luck with everything!
Why does my mom get upset when I express that I want to live out of my car?
I would like to say that she is concerned for your safety, which is a valid concern. Hopefully it's not a status thing, which it sadly could be.If I could go back and redo my young adult life, I have dreamed of living in my car to save up enough money to buy a house and have little or no mortgage because of it.I have a few ideas I thought of that can be a hurdle with living a normal life that doesn't come with living in a house. For a mailing address that you don't have, get a PO box. I'm pretty sure you don't need a physical mailing address to get one. Get a membership at a gym or rec center so you can use their showers. And so you don't draw attention to yourself and get in trouble, sleep in parking lots where it's normal for there to be cars all night long. Nursing homes and hospitals seem best since people are always working an 8 to 12 hour shift through the night. 24 hour gyms and stores might be good, too, if they are busy enough. But try to change parking lots and parking spaces so people don't notice you. Also, I would have only colored clothes that are durable, no whites or delicates, so I only need to do one load of laundry at a time and not have dirty laundry in my car all the time.Good luck to you. If you can do this and be debt free, more power to you.
Why does my mom get so angry at me all the time?
IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU! You should never feel that you are the cause of the problem!! Remember that.She is possibly frustrated and angry because her life isn't going as she imaginated, or your life for that matter. That is her problem.She is possibly tired because she works too hard and doesn't get in return as much she thinks she deserves. That is her problem.She got into situation that turned out to be a problem and she cannot handle it appropriately. That is her problem.She doesn't understand you are unique individual and you do things your own way which she cannot comprehend. That is her problem.She might suffer from a variety of mental issues that affect her and you. That is her problem.She brought all of this on herself, that is called getting feedback from life for taken actions. Unless there is valid medicinal explanation for her state.The best thing you can do is talk to her, try to figure out what is bothering her, even if she treats you bad, be supportive. Try to come up with a solution to problem together. If nothing helps and she continues to treat you the same, ask other family members to give you a hand or get her some professional help.If she is truly a dictator I am afraid it would be best that you go on your own way. SHE DECIDED TO BE STUCK IN PROBLEM!You cannot sacrifice you're own well being to do as she pleases. I sincerely hope you will find a solution and work this out. ☮️
Why does my mom get mad over little things?
I was in the living room on my laptop and my older brother was in the kitchen cooking fries (she was planning on cooking them with dinner tonight). I had NO idea he was doing this when it was happening but I smelled something, went into the kitchen and told him mom was planning on making those. Mind you, we had other fries (different kind). The fries my mom was planning on cooking were the ones my brother had cooked (the last bit of them). When I told her what happened, just to spare her the heart attack she'd have finding them herself, she got so angry. I told her I didn't know what he was doing until after the fact as I wasn't facing the kitchen. I told her that it really wasn't that bad considering there were other fries (I said it as nice as possible) and she said "yes it is". She then went on to have a pity party yelling at me telling me it was "my fault" (my brother also kept saying it was my fault even though HE DID IT) that he did this. I literally had no idea. HE'S the one who cooked them!! I know it's best to just let this go but this type of stuff happens too much and I always take the blame for stuff and I'm sick of it. So I explained my situation and she was being close-minded (as always) and just shut me off and told me to get out of her room. I tried to be open-minded and maybe see it from her point of view but, if I'm gonna be honest, they're just french fries and we had another bag of them and it's a really childish thing to be mad about. Am I wrong??
Why does my step mom get so mad when I don't like the dinner she prepared?
Every day 1–3 times a day we have to make meals (depends on kids ages), generally we try to make things most of the family will like. I can not tell you the dreary and drungery it takes to come up w meals, shop for meals, prepare meals, get meals on the table, get everyone to the table, get people to clean up and finish cleaning the kitchen. It’s repeative and BORING. But I still try hard to make everyone happy. I have/had two of my kids that never liked what we were having for dinner. Sometimes they liked the meals, but weren’t in the mood for it that day. Then if you compromise by letting them have something else it means the food you prepared goods bad, wasting money. And you need to have the extra food meaning extra money to provide alternatives. I ate what my mom fixed or went hungry, that was the rule. I was not allowed to say anything negative about dinner or the cooking. Understand yet? Offer to help w menu planning. Offer to make list of all the food you like. Offer to cook 1/week if your in grade school or 2/week if you are older. Start w easy preparation food at first (boxed Mac and cheese, or tomato soup and grilled cheese or hot dogs etc.) move up the difficulty. DONT complain about dinner, ever. Sit, do your vest to eat. I find I can swallow a lot of foods w very little chewing. Be pleasant at the table. Don’t taunt others at the table. Come up w one nice thing to say at dinner. “I appreciate your work”, I like your hair, go online to get ideas. Negotiate how many peanut butter and jelly meals- 1/week or 3/month. And then YOU keep track of it when it’s been long enough to forfeit the family dinner for PB and J again. Maybe you’ll need to “fake eat” and then eat PB and J. Having you “rub PB and J” in her face by eating in front of her may be too much. You need to sacrifice your time and energy to contribute to the family meal preparation. Is this helpful?
Why does my mother get mad at me?
You may believe it may be “little" but to mom it just means that she wants you to be an independent thinker, to a degree, and wants you to get it right the first time she tells you so that she doesnt need to remind you again.Mom means well! Its just another thing on her “to do list" that she wants you to be responsible for, so that she doesnt need to keep reminding you about. It is also one less thing for her to remind you about when she has a million other things to do.She depends on you and this is one way, a very big way, to show her that you are there to help her and make things easier for her.Believe me, she will be very grateful for any little help you can give to her and to the family.All she wants is to keep things in order because if mommy is also working, she is more than likely tired and she really will appreciate it when you support her in that way.I know it seems like its such a big responsibility for you and that you are “just a kid" but this is also part of life, pitching in, and helping out the family, most especially your mom!It may be the littliest thing in your eyes, but it is a big deal.Think of it this way, its lessons learnes now to help you and make you the responsible adult you need to be when you are all grown up and have your own family.So, help out as much as you can and try to see it from her perspective as to why you believe she gets mad over the “littleliest" things.Its all good, and its all love, and its all about training you into that responsible and helpful adult you are meant to be!
Why does my mom get angry over the little things?
I'm a girl with a mom who has a bad temper. Here's the scoop: I feel like I've looked everywhere for my mom's "special" hot sauce, well literally too long to be looking for some s****y sauce that wasn't itself going to show up in the cabinet. So then i gave up and gave her a quick alternative. she said no this wasn't the right one. i then nicely explained to her that it wasn't in the place that she put it and then i said "why don't you go look for it yourself ." I guess that was a BIG mistake , because that's when she yelled at me saying something about how she "does everything for me and buys me all this s**t" all the while she's rummaging through the cabinet that i had just inspected. still no sauce. and then after that she elbowed me in my chest. i don't even know why she treats me this way. but i don't think she's being, whats the word...uh... reasonable. I don't think she even cares about anything i do for her. i even apologized and everything. she got so pissed over a bottle of hot sauce. who in their right mind does that!? truth is now I don't care if she found it or not, I'm so scared to talk to her and leaving my room is not an option. But this wasn't the only time she got angry. It's kinda hard to communicate with her all bitchy and mean. why does she do this?should i let it blow over or should i tell her how i feel? what can i do, HELP!!!she is so scary.
What should I do if my mom gets mad when I don't agree with her advice immediately? I prefer to think it over first.
Oh, I’m all too familiar with that one.Since you know she only wants agreement, and really cares not for what you think unless it’s to fully support her, you might just thank her for her valuable thoughts and leave it at that without offering yours. I’ve found that to work wonderfully well with individuals who have to be right, or else!Remember, you cannot reason with the unreasonable. As well, if the need to be right is too great, all others will always be wrong. As such, I wouldn’t ask her to help me with a project unless I fully realized she knew how to do it right because, you know, if she doesn’t, it will be done the wrong way and called right…However, we must also consider if we’re the one who needs to be right? :)The other thing is to consider if it’s a matter of urgency?Good Luck!