Why Does My Mom Loves Our Neighbours

Do you love your neighbor? If no, why not?

I mean, when you got neighbors like I do, it’s pretty hard to love them, or even like them in any way whatsoever.First off, my family always hears my neighbor, an old grandma, screaming at nothing whatsoever. She screams at her children, grandchildren, husband, and probably the Chinese soap opera she watches at an obnoxiously high volume.One afternoon, and me and my brother are playing some basketball in front of our house. Suddenly, the old granny runs up to our house, and starts throwing random balls and objects at our gate, while rapidly swearing in Chinese. My brother and I are confused, but the old hag continues to scream and throw things. A little confused and scared at the same time, I bring my brother home.Another day, right after school, my friend (who is also on Quora) wants to play basketball on my hoop (because I recently lowered it, so we could dunk). It’s around three o’clock, and we are having a good and relaxed time, with an occasional laugh or a clang from an unsuccessful dunk. Suddenly, the granny comes again, with her husband with her. They start yelling at us again, calling us “wild children” and stuff like that. We get scared and the fun stops.Now, when my friends come to my house to play, I either tell them to not play basketball, or when we do, just ignore the triggered neighbors. The only down side of ignoring is that when we film a dunk on Instagram, we have angry and rapid Chinese in the background. My parents are searching for a new house, so this BS will be over with soon.

I love my neighbor, but my mom is against him, and we are both single. What can I do?

If you are an adult, then you are free to do as you please. If you live with her, however, then it may be difficult. The question is: why is she against him? Is he a decent person who treats you with respect? Also, how do you know you love him? Have you spent time with him, talked with him, dated him? These are questions to think about and answer. Talk with your mother as to why she feels this way. Often times, parents try to direct their children to live differently from them. Often, they have insight that we, when we are younger, do not have.

What should I do if I saw my mom having sex with our neighbour?

You can congratulate her and tell her that she has set a nice example for you to follow and wish her all the success in the future.You can buy her gifts as well when you are conveying this message.The main thing here is for you not to carry a burden that will affect your life. Things like this happen all the time and since you think only others do it, it will have scarred your moral thinking.Try to get rid of the guilt you feel and know that you are nowhere responsible and the as adults, others have to live their own life.You too will have your own life and sometimes have affairs as well or not . So best is to spill it out or swallow it . Choice is yours. It all depends on what kind of person you are .but definitely should not carry this in your head for a long time . So throw the feeling and incident out of your life as soon as you can in whatever way you want without raising your voice or doing anything that will hurt another person.

Have you ever had crush on your neighbour?

I remember a while ago my Mom had a really hot neighbour living across from her. I never officially met her but I knew she was really attractive. I was 26 and she was 36, and I always kind of fantasized about her every now and then. Skip forward about a year of living there; One day another one of our neighbours had a birthday party for their little baby and invited me over. She was there, she came up to me right away and the first thing she said was, “wow you look like a model, do you have a girlfriend?”. I remember I kept looking over at her face while we were all playing poker, and kept thinking primal thoughts that a cave man might think. She told me she dropped her chapstick in the bush outside, and asked me to help her find it. When we went outside, her face was right in front of mine, smiling, so I went in for the kiss. I spent the rest of the night at her place, and it was incredible. Although we didn't end up seeing each other again, it was mind blowing to have my fantasy fulfilled, and it is something I will fondly remember for the rest of my life.

My neighbor calls me "Mom." Should I be offended?

There’s a very reliable test you can run to answer the question “should I be offended?”. It never fails.It goes something like this:Ask yourself “Am I offended?”If no, then no - you shouldn’t be offended. Because you’re not offended.If yes, then yes - you should be offended. Because you are offended.The silent question behind this one though is something like “what should I do with my offence, or lack of it?”And that one’s a little trickier.You’ll need to analyse the details more finely. So let’s delve into your exampleSo your neighbor calls you Mom. You’ll need to gather more information.Do they say it with reverence, or kindness, or some other positive adjective? If so, then there’s really no need to do anything with your offence. The sentiment behind it is good. They meant it as a positive thing, not an attack. They reached out to you with kindness. Place that as more valuable, if it’s not already.Do they say it as an insult, a jibe, or some other negative adjective?If so, then being offended is the obvious natural response. It was not said with good intention.The next question is “How do I respond?”Typically, if it was meant as a positive thing, I think you’ll live a happier life if you take it as a positive thing. If there’s something about it that upsets you, like maybe there’s an implication that you’re old enough to be their mother - or you’re a man, for example - then you have to ask yourself:“If they meant it as a genuinely nice thing, but I felt it like a nasty thing - what’s more important?”If you can’t get past your negative thoughts and feelings about it, or if it’s a regular occurance, then it’s probably best to explain that you don’t like it. But recognise their intentions before anything else.Remember, you’re trying to critique the behaviour, not the sentiment.If it was meant as a negative thing, then you’re in very different waters.Typically, it’s often best to take it as a positive thing anyway.Remember, if someone says something deliberately nasty to you, then they want to wound you. If you can deflect those wounds, you’ll be surprised how many of those people will end up being your closest friends - and they might even respect you more than anyone else does.tl;dr: probably not. Life is very short. Take the positives as positives, and put the effort into reframing negatives into positives. Being offended isn’t a useful tool, nor part of a healthy heart.