My mom's favorite child is my sister?
Sounds like you are clear about the way things are. Sorry she didn't respond to your effort to improve things. I would definitely pull back any hope for change but would without mentioning it to anyone. I would simply respond positively to any caring gestures on her part without initiating any of my own.
Me and my twin sister have different fathers?
twins CAN have different dads. only if they are fraternal twins... (dizogitic) but she should treat you the same. is she half white? if you were my daughters i would treat the one who wasnt getting in trouble differently too.
Favoritism among grandparents? Anybody else have this problem?
I know that this is hard for you. My grandmother has always shown major favoritism. I was the oldest, and I was her favorite for a long time. My brother, however, wasn't so lucky. My oldest cousin (a girl) get's the short end of the stick as well, while her younger sister is treated much better. And the youngest grandchild is now the #1 favorite. She won this spot when I (not so nicely) told my grandmother off for treating my brother so badly. He barely speaks to her today. And my grandmother also picks favorites based on the parents of the child. I was the favorite because she thought my parents were too young to have kids and tried to raise me herself. Brother wasn't the favorite because my parents wouldn't let her raise him... So, I think you should say something. And not just once. And maybe say something to your cousin's parents. Make sure they know that you don't believe it's the child's fault. Ask them if they see a difference in the way your sister is treated. And ask them to speak up as well. My whole family calls out my grandmother. Children should be loved, no matter what. And your grandfather should be ashamed.
Why are my parents so illogical?
No one give you a manual on how to raise children when you have them. Parents make mistakes just like children do, but they try to do the best they can. Teenagers are tough to raise, because one day they act like an adult, and the next day they act like a child. It is hard to determine just how much freedom you can give them. If you give them too much, they may end up misusing it, and ruining the rest of their lives. If you give them too little, then they become too dependent on their parents. It is tough to know where to draw that line. Try doing things around the house without being asked. show your parents that you are growing up. Then write a note and ask them that if they can meet this guy and get his parent's phone number as well as his, if you could just go to the movie sometimes.with him. Tell them that he is not a bf, he is a friend. If that does not work, just go with the girls and meet him there. They may not be ready to let go of their "little girl" yet. You will survive this just as we all did. (I had a 10:30 pm curfew until I was married. It was horrible then, but now that I am older, I look back an laugh about it) You only have a few more years of having to be there anyway. You will be going to college and enjoying your freedom soon. Just a note for you. ALL parents argue. They do not all do it in front of their children, but here are a lot of them that do. It is normal. Just remember that it is one of the things you do not want to do to your children, so that you can break the cycle. Just think, you could have been one of those poor children that had parents that did not care at all about them, or abused them.
My daughter is purposely doing bad in school to annoy me?
My daughter is 17 years old and she is currently in her last year of high school. She is going to college next year and I want her to do well in school so that she gets into college and hopefully gets a good job in the future. Last year, which was her junior year, she didn't study and she didn't do so well in school. She got A's in English and Social Studies but got B's and C's in Math and Science, which are the most important subjects. I kept nagging her to study last year but she just didn't. This year, I have kept telling her that she needs to study for school as well as her SAT's and she confessed to me that she wont so she can revenge all the bad things I did to her. She even threatened me that she might not even go to college, saying, "When I'm 18, you can't force me to go to college!" Which unfortunately, is a true statement. I admit that I did get angry at my daughter in the past, because as a child she was such a brat who was rude and had no respect for authority. I did show favoritism with her younger sister, who had a better personality, so that I could motivate my daughter to be like her. Two years ago, I told my older daughter that her sister was prettier than her when I was angry at her. But parents get mad at their kids once in a while, and my older daughter should gain some self esteem and deal with the fact that there is always someone better than her. She is already a big girl. Don't you think she is in the wrong, and not me?