Why does my mom act fake, friendly when other family & friends are around, but shows her true self when ...?
when you get older you will understand that is how the world works.. you cannot walk around being "yourself" all the time. in other words if you dont like someone or something it RARELY helps to be negitive or tell how you really feel. especialy with family, they are the only ones you have. being young you dont realize that "fake friendly" is actualy courtesy and polite.
Does it seem like the way you act in relationships is the way your parents and previous partners?
For me, yes. Some of what I've been accustomed to repeatedly for years has indeed grown in me, which I HATE about myself. When my parents used to be together when I was a child, they'd ALWAYS argue and never stop. They used to be so loving with each other when I was really little. The same arguement would turn to grudges, so it would be a never ending cycle of barbaric bickering. Cussing is all the worse, when you're little and have such a /great/ example. Once they split up everything goes wrong and later along the rugged road. My father was gone from my life for the next 6-7 years of growing up...My mom was and still is engaged to someone....(This is her 3rd...) Now that I have drastically matured, I found myself to realistically conclude that a soul-mate for one like me is completely fictitious. Such a life is a fairytale...yet growing up I've constantly been exposed to believe that true love within another human being, does exist...I know true love withinn two souls exists...but not regarding one feeling that way back for me... Just me...so it's not a complete 'true love.' Like my mom, I'm lazy and like to have too much fun, (which sadly counts as slacking in this world)...and I'm highly jealous, possessive and take everything seriously like my Dad...and I know I sometimes act like how he does when he would be mean to me, with others... I never mean to...Those are the bad things about me though, I'm full of good that no one appreciates. My Dad had a physically abusive father, but he never beat me. He never had that nerve to, because he told me he doesn't want to be like him. He would only spank me with his hand and things...even when I was distinctly too old for it.. My parents are 10 years apart, Aquarius and Scorpio. I used to know someone who only knew his Father when he was up to 2 then he was gone. That guy is disturbingly repulsive when it comes to relationships and he just wants to use as many people he can and do other harmful things to them. I know so many more people with these issues and issues like mine. They all have parent/parenting issues as well, but I'm not going to type out a novel. So, I think parents or whoever one was raised with and how, can definitely affect their relationships.
Why does my mother's presence make me so stressed and agitated?
I see you have had a rough childhood, but I have seen this dynamic, even when people have a good childhood, with decent parents. My sister loathes my mom’s every move. My mom is a happy, friendly, helpful, kind person. My sister interprets these personality traits as stupid, unmannered, meddling, needy, and weak. She thinks my mom is not polished, nor professional. My sister would like to control what my mom can do and who my mom can be friendly with. To my sister, being aloof and reserved is how you act if you are smart and professional.To be fair, my mom can also push my buttons sometimes. She is somewhat loud when she enters my house and seems to need immediate attention. She quiets down after a while. One thing she does that directly irritates me is groom me - like if we are out and my shirt has a hair on it or a thread or my collar is crooked, she just cannot keep herself from adjusting my personal appearance. It feels like criticism of the way I look. It is probably her own OCD like behavior.I suspect that in trying to define our own selves who are separate from our mothers, we try to move away from the things that we don’t like about them. Who wants to be “just like their mother”? Almost no one. The irony is that most of us do share so many traits with our mother - myself included. That is a source of irritation. That trait or mannerism my mom has (that I wish I didn’t also have and am pretending I don’t) surely is irritating. It is easier to criticize our mom than to recognize it in ourselves.Another thing to consider is that children sometimes feel the most safe expressing anger toward parents who they know will love them anyway.I guess I wanted to let you know that lots of people feel the same way about their mothers and that it might not be only related to your difficult childhood.
My mom acts like a bitchy teenager?
I love my mom to death but she get on my nerves so much. She acts like Regina George from Mean girls. Like she is over weight and she tries to wear my clothes and act all cool and hip. One time in the car she called me Bae. One time Me and my friend went to see The fault in our stars together on Friday for a girls night out. I said she can drop us off at the movies and pick us up afterwards. Then she said (trying to be a smart *** I may add) she said " Do you have a boyfriend I don't know about"