Why do me and my bestfriend constantly argue over little things?
Me and her have been best friends for 3 long years. We have laughed together,cried together, and told are deepest secrets. Recently this year we have been arguing over little things. Last week we came back to school from winter break, we were eating breakfast her being across the table from me she asked "Can I see your extensions", since I had just got new ones, I told her to simply wait until we were done eating, (4 minutes) She then started to flip out saying "I just wanted to see your hair! It's no big deal, just get up!" Saying things to the other girls at the table. After that we hadn't talked the whole day. I always apologized for everyone of our arguments. Though I was tired of it, In my mind I have not done anything wrong, NOTHING. Me and her older sister are close, so I called her a few days ago, and It turns out that my friend I was arguing with had told her sister about us, and that I had even switched lunch tables. Her sister laughed at the stupidity and said "Why are you guys always fighting over stupid things?! Just be friends again" While I told her everything and I told her to not say anything. Recently Iv'e been having dreams of my friend, us In the beginning not being friends but somehow becoming friends or hating each other more..... I really don't expect an answer, Maybe this is just a way to get out my frustration. I miss her, I tell her things Iv'e told no one else. I will not apologize first though, I just want our friendship back....
My dad always argues with my mom over little things. What should I do about this almost broken family?
Learn from this. Study respectful communication techniques. Make your own relationships - with friends, classmates, colleagues, and eventually your spouse - NOT LIKE THAT.Sadly, you can't fix other people's relationships for them. Ain't happening. If he becomes violent, you can call the police, if you witness other forms of abuse you can talk to your school counsellor or other appropriate adult, but just squabbling all the time is out of your hands.Promise yourself that you will never be that. It's all you can do.
My girlfriend is always starting arguments with me?
First off, I apologize your girlfriend starts arguments with you. I can relate to having a girlfriend that would give me grief except I had it much worse. I had a ex girlfriend who was older than me (7 years older than me) who was just verbally abusive-making cruel jokes about me, criticizing EVERYTHING about me and getting mad at me over small things often. She kept me a secret from her family and didn't want me to meet them. She did some underhanded things such as secretly keeping in touch with her ex boyfriend before me and going on a personals site to find another boyfriend. She would ask her coworkers and one of her managers at her now old job if she should dump me. Despite telling me that I was her most mature and sweetest boyfriend, she never said, "I love you," only "I like you." She ended up breaking up with me through text messages. I was 23 years old when she dumped me back in 2008 and she was 30. Looking back, she was just unfortunately a miserable person who was jealous that her friends were engaged or married. Heck, she was even jealous her brother was getting married. A couple months before she dumped me, she cried in front of me saying if she wanted kids, she would have to be with a guy around her age. She would just complain a lot. I threaten to break up with her at times but she didn't want me to leave her for whatever reason. It was hard for me to accept that "relationship" was one-sided and toxic. I think you shouldn't make the mistake I did of staying with someone who doesn't really appreciate you and disrespects you. Your girlfriend is going to stay irrational until she realizes she needs to change by not getting mad for petty things. You shouldn't stay with someone who makes you feel miserable or unsure if you're happy being with her. You don't need unnecessary drama from someone if you didn't do or say anything wrong to that person. I hope that I've helped and take care of yourself. I mean it. ~ Alan
My mom and I almost always argue about small things, what should I do?
Speaking from the perspective of having a parent that preferred the last word in all conversations, you will need to pick your battles. You speak of small things. If they are truly small, then they don’t matter in the bigger picture and it’s usually best to close the conversation before it heats up. Choice of subjects may also be edited or even eclipsed all together when a sense is developed of what might set off a conflict of opinion.I was into my early 30’s before I developed a carefully stated response of “we’re going to agree to disagree on this”. Before then, being young and bit full of myself, I all too often pecked at disagreements and, ultimately, it’s a chronic stress of many tiny spats with little relief. She rarely liked being shut down at first (time mellowed her) and often challenged with her frequent forays into suspect news items. However, she couldn’t argue with a shrug and reminder, “hey, as an adult I have my own informed opinion.” All too often, this parental mindset is still wrapped around you being the “child” of the relationship even if you have your own home and perhaps even a family of your own. This is not likely to change.Be polite, calm and reasonable. Even when she’s frustrated and unreasonable because she feels all those younger must bend like reeds in respect to an elder’s storm of advice. Let the words blow past you. Give her the small things. Stand stalwart on larger issues that are important or needful to you. Plainly these suggestions are based on the attempt to maintain a relationship albeit in soft shades of dysfunctional.Honestly, I can’t think of anyone I’ve met and come to know personally that had a pristine and smooth existence with parents or their own children. Standing hard as the only right voice against every separation of opinion versus picking the larger concerns will keep a relationship reasonably afloat versus foundering and becoming lost.Be the bigger heart and remember, even when she doesn’t have all the facts, her voice, her words mean something in her own world. And there was a day when her words were your world.
My little sister is always arguing with me and undermining me by talking to mewith no respect, how can I show more dominance and authority over her for the sake of both of us?
First of all respect is a two way street! You won't get you won't give.You want to be respected then think about reasons about why should anyone respect you, what have you done that is so special and note worthy that someone should respect you.If all you could think that since you are older hence you automatically deserve respect without showing any respect to your sister, then your argument is seriously fraud. It means that since you were born a few years earlier than you have some extra privileges of which she is not worthy coz she couldn't make it on time.If this is your idea of respect than you will struggle all your life with everyone one, because the world doesn't identifies with it any more.Now coming to the second part “ how can you dominate and exert your authority”This is a seriously disturbing sentence! You need to dominate and exert authority because you are older, seriously flawed notion. First of all you are not living in nazi Germany where you would just dominate it doesn't work this way, the more you will act on your stupid idea of domination more she will react and rebel, it's human nature you can't just suppress her. If you continue to do this you will eventually end up having alienate your sister there is no other future with this kind of thinking.On the other hand if you sincerely want good relationship and have reasonable expectation of respect, mind it respect does not means complete subjugation that is slavery. Then you can start by mending your relationship with your sister, give her space establish rules of engagement, ask her to behave respectfully and assure her that you will also return her similar curtesy.You might want to controll her with the idea of saving her from all the ills but first of all it is useless as people do what they want to do and secondly the more you alienate her the more she will do things to spite.
How do i stop arguing with my sister?
Fighting all the time makes for a miserable home doesn't it? Since you are the one taking the initiative it will be up to you. You cannot MAKE her get along with you. The only person in the whole wide world that you can make do anything is you yourself. I get the feeling you two have already locked yourself into some sort of pattern where one of you reacts to what the other has said or done. So for you I think the key will be to stop reacting to the insult or complaint or criticism. It is easier said than done. You are going to have to realize what is going on and stop yourself before you react that first time. One way to do this is to simply agree with her. Cut you own self down. That will take all the fun out of it for her. I guarantee it. Here is an example. She looks at you and says "Your hair looks like crap today. Don't you ever even try to look half-way decent? How would you normally react to this insult and criticism combined? In a hostile way I'm sure. Know it to be the bait you fall for. And then you say" Yeah I guess it does look like crap today, doesn't it?" You have to say this in a matter of fact way - the same way and tone you would use when you announce dinner is ready. Your sister will have no idea how to respond to this. She might even be speechless. All the fun has been snatched away from her. Her victory is hollow and meaningless. What you have done is given up your right to be the correct one. That does not mean she really is correct but you have simply given up the right to be the one who is correct. And you were the only one to take a step toward maturity. Try to catch yourself each time and then simply agree with her in the mild tone of voice. You will goof up from time to time but your fighting days over trivial stuff will be over. There is a small book called "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff... and it's all small stuff" Simple ways to keep the little things from taking over your life. It is by Richard Carlson Ph.D. copyright 1997. It was the #1 selling book of the year about 10 years ago. Try to get a used copy of it off E-bay or amazon and read it. It will give you tips on how to deal with your sister. Good luck. I think alot of you for being the one making the first effort to get along. It says alot about you.
How do I get my sisters to stop calling me names? ?
First, everything that your sisters are doing is about THEM - not you (I wish I could underline that). Hurt people hurt people. Your sisters have some frustrations that they're not equipped to deal with in any other way. They are bullying you, and that is not the answer. I really respect you for being only 14 and having such a great attitude about this. You don't need to starve yourself or do away with yourself - you are wonderful just the way you are! Talk with your mom again about this and let her know that this is truly a problem. When there's bullying in the family it creates a poison, if not a type of cancer that erodes and destroys the family. Does she not care about her family? You might be able to ask her this in a very respectful way. I would see if your mom would be willing to hire a really good family coach to work with your WHOLE family - all at once. A Family Coach will come to your home and work with the family as a group. Therapists generally only take one client at a time, and the problem is a family issue, not a personal issue. By the way, my family was a lot like yours only many many years ago. We're not very close today. If you find that your mom really doesn't care, you just care for yourself. And don't take what your sisters say to be true. Only you get to decide what is true of you and what's not. I wish you the best!!
Why does my mom keep arguing with me over little things?
Well, im a girl, and I'm 16 coming to the end of my junior year. Recently we've had at my school a moving up ceremony for the juniors to get ready to be seniors. Well lately my moms been arguing with me over little things saying I don't respect her authority and she keeps rubbing in my face she's in charge but that's a given. I just re did my room and she kept coming in so I made a comment about it and she said well this is my room , my names on the paper work I allow you to be here and all this other stuff and just now I didn't want to try a shirt on and she went off on me saying I never listen to instruction so about time I get a job and go on my own. I have no clue why she keeps arguing with me over power and authority. In return to her arguments I made a statement under my breath that referred to the fact I'm about to be a senior their for about to move out and she got really MAD! I don't know why though she's starting things for no reason. Also if it helps I'm a very distant person I stay in my room listening to music barely around her.
Why does my mom always in a bad mood?
I get tired of mom my always putting everyone in a bad mood. I have an older sister and my mom always picks little fights and arguments with her which becomes extremely annoying (this is daily). I feel that im always walking on egg shells not knowing if what im about to say next will piss her off. She is also very bitchy when people aren't around (i.e. As soon as someone leaves the room she begins to ***** about them and the worse thing is she begins repeating her self 10x and always says negative stuff about people that she actually does herself without realising). My family is well off with money but she still always seems to stress about EVERYTHING even things like what will happen in the future. I also get nervous when knowing she is in a bad mood when I get home from school, etc Please help because its becoming very annoying and old. When she is in a good mood she is nice but as soon as someone does something she doesn't like she gets very angry. Why does she do this is, is it stress? or she finds it entertaining cause she doesn't have an interest in anything else?
Sister and mom always argue about money. Can I cure the situation?
The income one makes belongs to them and not to anyone else. In some cases, as a person with Alzheimer’s, a mental disorder or another entity which make them uncapable of managing their money, it can be discussed whether this task would pass to another person, taken that it is a trusted one and mostly a family member. Even that though needs normally a legal desicion to be done.So, shortly, I would say that your mother doesn’t have the right to take your sister’s money, even if your sister tends to spend it unwisely. It depends though also on other factors, as if you live all together, if the spending of your sister is so careless that it could be considered as a behavioral disorder, the age of your sister (if she’s not an adult), etc.So, I think that the solution of the problem lies, first on the independence of your sister, meaning that she would live in her own place if necessary, or become an adult if she’s not, and secondly on the advice to her about the significance of a wiser money management. The very fact that they argue about it, means that your sister isn’t willingly giving that money to your mom, so this shouldn’t be continued, because it will poison your relation and lead to unpleasant situations. On the other hand, when the problem will be solved, it will be your sister’s decision and only, if she wants to help your mother financially.