What does it mean when a girl talks to you about her problems and leans on you for support? I have a crush on one of my close friends who is a girl (I'm a guy). Am I friendzoned or could she actually want to see where things go with me?
First, I feel you. I’ve been here. I’ve been the shoulder, the advice-giver, the confidant, to someone who I wanted romance from but was getting mixed signals, instead.In my unrequited-romantic past, every time I’ve over-explained someone’s actions I am not looking at the clear honest truth that is in my gut. My friends do the same thing.The “talking her through some of her insecurities and issues.” Ugh…my stomach turned over at this sentence. Like really did a tornado-twist that made me almost not reply.There’s this great episode of Friends where Phoebe is dating a therapist, played by Fisher Stevens. She ‘loves him’ because he’s so insightful, and she introduces him to all of the gang. He dissects all of their ‘insecurities and issues’ and so well that they all immediately hate him. Even though he’s right. When she tells him later that her friends don’t like him, he explains why, and hits it right on the nose. She then hates him, too.No one wants you to talk about their insecurities and issues unless you’re their shrink, and even then some people will fire the shrink so they don’t have to look.We learn what we have to fix about ourselves on our own…the hard way. That’s the cut and dry truth.It’s so not hot for a potential lover to do that. So that makes me think you’re not a potential lover. However…You might be right - and I mean this - that you might be in the friend-zone because you are so far away. Maybe.Only one way to find out.My best suggestion is this: Be less available. Don’t talk about her other relationships, with men or women, and yes both are equally real, no matter what she says.Leave her issues for her future therapist if she pays for one.Be a guy she’d want in her life romantically. Be charming. Be complimentary. Shut down the drama. Shut down the gossip. Be a little elusive. Wait and see what she does because she will show you how she feels. Stop listening to words and start listening to actions.Step back so she can see you. Really see you.As who you are, not how you can fix her.Start to use my belief in what you have to offer, until you believe it yourself.I believe you can be loved, and love, for real.I believe you can have a woman — or a girl — who doesn’t want to kiss anyone but you.But you have to believe that first, and act like you believe it, until you do.Borrow my belief, and treat yourself like you’re the king of your world and worth everything your heart desires. Even this girl.xx,Faleena HopkinsAuthor Faleena Hopkins
Kimora lee, does she have thyroid problems?
Nah, that's just fat on her neck. Plus I don't like her...she's too fake!
Does she have a staring problem?
Ummm I think SHE is the creeper. It means she might like you, trust me you may want to keep bothering her, girls always like guys who give them any attention, they just don't want to admit it. Go ahead and just tell her straight up that your sorry even thought you didn't do anything.
Does she like me..or have a staring problem?
ok...so ive been in school for about two weeks now...and i have this crafts class in sixth periou...i sit in the table close to all the supplies..so like everyday when everyone gets supplies..theres this one girl...she always turns around and looks at me..ive noticed it a couple of times...and my friend saw a couple of times too...so then today..i was wearing a purple shirt..and i went up to get supplies..i stood next to her..and she looked at me..and didnt notice i saw her..so then she tells her friend "i need purple" turns to me and says "hey... youre wearing purple!" and i go "yeah" and we go back to our tables...and later on she went to get supplies..and to my belief she bent over purposely...and then left... so what do i have on my hands here..does she have interest in me..or does she have a staring problem?
How many hands did she shake? A problem solving question.?
Stacy and Sam Smith are having a party. Five couples are present, including the Smith's. The attendees were cordial, and some even shook hands. We have no idea who shook hands with whom, we do know that no one shook hands with themselves and no one shook hands with his or her spouse. Given these facts, a guest may shake as many as 8 other hands. At midnight Sam gathered the crowd and asked the nine people how many hands each had shaken. Each person gave a different answer. That is, someone didn't shake any hands, someone else shook one hand, and so on down to the last person who shook eight hands. Given this outcome determine the exact number of hands Stacy Smith shook. I am looking for an answer and for an explanation of how this works exactly.
Does Rachael Ray have a drinking problem or a problem with alcohol?
There is a debate b/t me and someone over whether or not she has a drinking problem and I just wanted to get people's opinion. This not to disrespect her in anyway.
PLEASE HELP!!!!! Math Word Problem?
Latisha needs 60 square feet of cloth. She has a rectangle piece of cloth that measures 3ft by 9 ft, and a square piece that measures 5ft on a side. Does she have enough cloth? if not, how much more does she need?
Why does my so called friend only call me when she has a problem?
She's wrapped up in her, not you. These personalities can be narcissistic, self-indulging and focused only on their own needs. I have a friend like that. She feels she can call me when she can't sleep, and any advice I give her is ignored. I don't take calls after a certain hour, so she'll leave messages, as if it is an emergency. Since she has been an acquaintance (no longer a dear friend) for years, I take her with a grain of salt. She yelled "Wolf" too many times. BUT, our mutual friend takes her calls, listens to her moan and groan, and repeats the advice over and over again. I'm talking about years. What is the difference.? I have a life, my helpful friend is single and feels needed. I set boundaries. She doesn't feel close enough you, she just knows you will listen. When you are assertive or set boundaries, she eventually will find someone else to call. These individuals have a terrible time making decisions, so they poll all of their friends, or at least the ones who will take the calls. My friend(acquaintance) was a mommy's girl, and very dependent on Mom helping her with every decision. Mom recently died, so she is looking for someone to replace Mom. Your friend is immature and needing to lean on someone else to help her decide, rather than growing up and taking the responsibility for her own choices and decisions. A lot of energy can be wasted on these types of relationships. It is a choice we make if we want to do the dance with them or not. Sadly, it isn't that we are valuable to them; if that were the case, it might feed our egos to be there for them. But, when I stopped taking my friend's calls, she simply found someone else; She now calls our mutual friend twice as much. Sigh...how I love the freedom of knowing I'm not her wailing wall.. By the way, this is all about our friends with personality disorders. If a friendship is taking too much energy, we need to look at what WE are getting out of it. We all need to be caring but those with personality disorders, everything is still not enough. Don't do for them what they can do for themselves is a good thing to keep in your thoughts. Have a good day.
Why is Shashikala Binamis being raided? Does she have any problem with the BJP?
no she deosnt have any problem with bjp. moreover aiadmk had good relation with bjp during the time of jayalalitha. but bjp tries to threaten the aiadmk which is right now without great brave leader jayalalitha. bjp wants create unfame to aiadmk which almost weak right now. their intention behind this raid on shasikala binamis are to demolish the one of the big party of TN. and to capture the position of aiadmk in TN. may aiadmk vanish from TN politics but TN people wont or support bjp . basically tamilians hate bjp policy