My boyfriend’s friend keeps on asking me rude questions. What should I do?
Tell your boyfriend that you are uncomfortable with it.If that doesn’t work,2. Tell the friend directly, and in the presence of your boyfriend that you are uncomfortable with it.if he doesn’t stop,3. Don’t hang out with that friend - Even if your boyfriend is around. Just make it a point to avoid him, so that you can send a message that you really don’t like what he is doing.If your boyfriend insists/forces you to,4. Find a new boyfriend - if he can force you on this, he can start to force you on anything else. Once he knows you can be pushed, he’ll push you moreOn a totally unrelated topic, I’m singleJust kidding but hope this helps!
Why does it seem like every time I ask my mom a question she always has something rude to say or answers me in a rude tone?
She sounds like a rude person.There’s two things it could be:One, she has a problem with you. Maybe she looks down on you for whatever reason, and feels offended to have to ‘deal with you’ speaking to her, putting you down when you have the audacity to. Maybe she blames you for something that’s happening to her. Maybe she’s blaming you for something that’s nothing to do with her, and is rather to do with you living your life on terms that do not align with what she has in mind for you, and she resents your defiance.Two, her problem is not with you, but with other things going on in her life, and she is taking it out on you. The term for it is displacement.Displacement involves taking out our frustrations, feelings, and impulses on people or objects that are less threatening.Displaced aggression is a common example of this defense mechanism. Rather than express our anger in ways that could lead to negative consequences (like arguing with our boss), we instead express our anger towards a person or object that poses no threat (such as our spouse, children, or pets).Link: 20 Common Defense Mechanisms Used for AnxietyHer irritation for whatever it may be may be bleeding through itself and into her relationship with you, since you are her son and are in her immediate life’s sphere. You may be being scapegoated because you seem like an appropriate weaker party through which her behaviour can be deemed as permissible, or at the very least, ignorable, and as your mother, she may feel justified in her exertion of this ‘authority’ simply because she decides so and feels you have no choice but to put up with it.I hope you handle this in such a way that protects you from this situation devolving into something more toxic, because this behaviour seems somewhat passive-aggressively psychologically abusive. If your mother isn’t willing to resolve this issue or look at things from your perspective, do not be too afraid to stand up for yourself. Or you could avoid communicating with her — why communicate to be met with unpleasantry? — and wait and see if she ever cares to figure out why. Remember that, before being a son, you are a human being just as worthy of the same respect she expects you to give her, and it is not your place in life to be spat upon by someone if she’s abusing her place in your life. It’s not very motherly to treat a son so derogatorily, and that’s something she should know.
Why does my gf get mad at me when I ask her simple questions?
She is annoyed and doesn't seem to respect you. When a cabe no longer cares about the impression she is making on you, then you know that she is indifferent about what you must feelIt's time time you out your foot and tell her she is mean and rude. Retract our question. And leav her presses when she does that.You at her BF. Yoh do things for her that nobody else does. Now imagine the courtesy and respect she extends to others that are way less deserved a de home she is way less familiar with. Sounds unjust, doesn't it?Ironic how we not only take our loved ones for granted, but we treat the more poorly than we treat our friends and acquaintance. Stupid?!? It's just Crazy.Don't stand for. If tears won't changer her, trust me, your contempt st being treated like that WILL.It works for me and it makes her love me more (she has her Moody times. I did t sign up for tag while courting her. She respected me enough then to keep her temper it in check. Why would I allow it to creep into our relationship when it wasn't there to begin with?
Why do strangers ask me where I'm from? Does it not seem rude and extremely unnecessary? (like they stop me and ask only that question)
I’m glad that you asked this question. I’m in the same situation. Although I don’t look foreign (white female), as soon as I open my mouth, people wonder where I’m from. It just happened again today. I went to a store to pick up merchandise that I ordered. When I came through the door, the sales lady greeted me saying “hi, how are you?” I answered “thanks, I’m fine, how are you?” Then she added “I love your accent”. This tells me, that after living almost 20 years in the US, my pronunciation of American English must still be so bad that it is noticeable in a short phrase. I’m getting asked where I’m from by sales personnel in stores, waitresses/waiters and other strangers that I never saw before and that I have no business with. When I politely and truthfully answer the question, they engage me in a conversation about relatives or ancestors from my country or them being there for a visit or planning a visit. I would really not mind, if it happened once a year, but it happens once to several times a week, depending how often I go out.If someone comments on my accent, or asks me where I’m from during a longer conversation, it’s perfectly fine. In this scenario I find it absolutely appropriate and not annoying at all.
Is it rude or polite to say: "I am sorry for many questions. Of course you can answer whenever you have a time”?
I find it toady and annoying. Presumably you’ve written me a bunch of messages with questions already. So I have to make time to read and answer them. Then you waste my time by apologizing and making me read another message for no reason?It’s obvious I can answer whenever. No need to say that.When I ask someone questions I put “important” in the subject line if it needs immediate attention, and “unimportant” if I mean she can answer when and if she feels like it.
Asking someone if their child is adopted ; rude or not?
I was reading an advice column and a woman, who was Caucasian wrote in about questions she gets about her daughter from strangers. Her husband is Korean and their daughter looks just like him and almost nothing like her. Not odd, just obviously the husband's genes are dominant. Strangers will make comments such as "How nice that you've adopted from a foreign country" and she said some one even argued that her child couldn't possibly be her biological child for the fact that she looked nothing like her. I understand why some people would think her child was adopted - but isn't it a little out there to actually ask someone ? I don't think I would ever ask a person, unless I knew them REALLY well, if their child were adopted or not. And even then I would feel it a totally inappropriate thing to ask. What do you guys think ?
Learning disabilities, ADHD and one RUDE teacher. How should I deal with such a situation?
Oh my she is certainly being very unprofessional and rude, no teacher has the right to belittle or insult a student for spelling mistakes etc. As you have a IEP, you should be given some form of appropriate class room guidance and support. Has your parents seen her comments on your assignments? These sort of comments, would have me down on the school teacher like a ton of bricks, (there have been many times I have blasted a teacher) my daughter has ADHD/ODD and Dyslexia (I have dyslexia too). My daughter, like you would spend up to 3 hours a night revising and trying to complete her home work, I would help her as much as possible. Some of her teachers just did not understand how she struggled, I overcame this by gathering as much information about dyslexia and learning disabilities, and how to support a student in the class (I refused to mention her ADHD, due to pre-conceived ideas). May I suggest you speak to your parents, and tell them that your trying your hardest, and feel hurt and disheartened by the teachers comments, if they are unable to talk to the school, then talk to the school counselor and show them the comments this teacher has put on your assignments and tests, also do you have anyone in the class who will verify the teachers disparaging comments to you. This in one of the reasons I became a qualified Youth & Disability support worker, to support young people like yourself, who is being failed by the education system, and feel there is a better way of supporting students in the class, often with simple strategies. Keep on trying your best, as you can achieve anything you wish, it may just take you a little longer, but you will get there with the correct support. Good luck
Is it rude to ask...?
my grandmother if she's afraid to die? like always hear her saying " i cant take it anymore " [ she's 73 ] . im scaredd i dont want her to . i want her to be there for me atleast until i graduate highschool. so... is it?