Why does everything bad happen to me?
Okay, seriously, I don't think I'm a bad person. I don't think that I deserve the life that I get thrown everyday, but I'd like someone else to be the judge. Here goes... I am 16, have an awesome car, awesome life, awesome girlfriend, awesome everything right? Well not for long. Girlfriend, cheats on me, I try to forgive and forget until I find that she's doing it again. I leave. Job - going great, Employee of the Month, manager throws a steak knife at me in unreasonable anger, I quit, he gets jail. Suddenly, nobody wants to hire, even though I have a perfect application. Life, sucks because all my friends keep backstabbing me for their own agendas even though I'm always there for them. Work, I was never late, did my best. Girlfriend, always true to her... she didn't care. Now my car, I always take care of it, and tonight, a drunk bastard hits me at 70+... my car, the one possession that I live for, is totaled. My dad blames me. Why? What did I do to deserve this shithole of a life...?
Why is Allah testing me so much? Why are bad people getting everything in life while I have to keep being patient? Why am I so lonely?
On the authority of Abu Huraira, who narrated: Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, “Look upon one who is below you in status. In this way you will not look down upon the grace of that God bestowed upon you.” (Bukhari and Muslim)In order to feel true happiness, it's essential to be grateful to God. And you cannot show gratitude if you continue to look up to people who have been given more worldly benefits than you.This attitude will keep you annoyed all your life no matter how much you achieve because there will always be someone on a higher level than you.So, when you feel deprived of a particular material asset, think of those who don't even have functional hands or legs. Out there, there are hundreds of people who don't have a proper home, and constantly live under fear. The world is full of people who cannot walk or eat by themselves and depend on others for their daily activites.There are still some beings who have everything, yet have a mountain of guilt in their hearts which doesn't let them sleep peacefully.So realise the value of all things that Allah has blessed you with, like your perfect eyesight, your loving parents, your jacket that protects you against the chilly winter breeze, and your next breath in which you can turn to Allah, and say “Alhamdulillah” (Thanks to Allah).As to your question of why you’re being tested a lot, the following hadith may well be the answer to it:Abu Huraira reported: Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, “If Allah intends good for someone, then He afflicts him with trials.” (Sahih Bukhari:5321)If having patience is still hard for you, shift your perspective for sometime from “what is absent” to “what is present”, and you will find that there are so many things already to be thankful for.Hope this helps you!
Is giving my son everything he wants bad?
my 6 year old son gets everything he wants...he wanted his psp,xbox360,cell phone,computer etc. and got everythinggg pluss!! he gets anything he wantss from me and my X and my parents,my bf and everybody else..is this like EXTREMLY badd or is it like ok badd? i mean if it is EXTREMLY badd i will stop but idk cause every1 i kno is rich so i cant really get help from them cause they are ok with it and so am i but i need to kno if it is EXTREMLY badd..idk wat to doo!
My best friend poked a hole in his condom so she could get pregnant?
Do you agree with me that this is wrong? She used a sewing needle and poked five small holes in the tip of the condom, similar to the pattern you'd see on a dice. She told him it was out of the package so that it wouldnt take so much time to get it ready and put it on when they had sex. How do I tell her that this was wrong to do? She has been my best friend for 11 years and I dont want her to be upset with me.
I have realized that I am a bad person. What can I do about it?
You, too, huh? I'm not being flippant. I'm telling you every "good" person comes to a point in their life where they feel exactly like you do now. I once told a friend I could never apologize enough to everyone I had ever interacted with in my life. That was exactly what I was feeling right then.But please understand, the fact that you are able to regret some of your past choices means you are not a bad person. A bad person wouldn't care. But you do care, deeply. So, you're off to a good start.The thing to do now is go deep into yourself and find what it was that made you behave that way in the past. Until you do that, you may do the same things again. A lot of the time, the problem is solved by you simply growing up a little more. That never ends, by the way.Now, here's something you should not do: Assume responsibility for how your actions affected the other person. You should absolutely take responsibility for your actions, but you are not responsible for how the other person interprets them or how they feel about them.I've heard people bemoan that they ruined someone's life. If only they hadn't done this or that, that person would be so much better off now! What I say to those people is: Get over yourself! Who made you sooo powerful that with one careless or mean action you could completely ruin that person's life? Huh? 'Cause I thought only God could do that.And what are you saying about that other person? Oh, no, poor person! They have no will of their own! If they get hit, all they can do is stay down and cry. Oh, so sad!Gives it a different spin, doesn't it?Everyone has done mean things. Sometimes because we don't understand that that's what we're doing. Sometimes because we're experimenting. And sometimes, just to be mean. Kids do that a lot because they don't realize yet that other people matter as much as they do. And sometimes people do it to see where the line is. Because sometimes, you don't know until you’ve crossed it. But unless you are a serial killer, there is nothing you have done that is so bad that, in a room with 100 other random people, ten of them haven't done the same thing.Yes, you've made some bad choices. And thank God for that! It is the ability to do the wrong thing and to choose to do the right instead that gives us our nobility.So, stop worrying. Just make better choices from now on.