Why Does The Thought Of Spending The Rest Of My Life With Someone Make Me Depressed

Why does thinking about getting married makes me depressed & at the same time thinking about not being able to get married makes me depressed?

I have the same problem.The prospect of getting married is really exciting to me. You spending the rest of your life with someone that loves you and you loving them.But then again it could be one god awful mistake. Divorce. They get everything even the custody of the kids. Or you could be stuck in an endless loveless, mean marriage.I think my response was because of my own parents. They were so good together. Then things happen and they should of divorced years ago! Its sad but honestly, it would be so much better for them.Also if you dont get married. Theres no big romantic declaration of love.Answering this question just made me realise… i dont want to ever get married!

The thought of working every day for the rest of my life makes me feel depressed and trapped. Why do I feel like this and how can I get out of it?

Dipression is very simple decease but if you will not treat himself, it can convert into mental illness.First if i say you are in jungle and leopard is front of you and you can not run away. What will you do, if you don't have knowledge about leopard you can not save to himself.I give you knowledge if the situation comes in your life, just hands up because leopard don't know about man and he just attacke by reading his height with his brain system, this is knowledge now how will you use this knowledge, it depends on you.Now Depression is just like a leopard and you can not run away, in this situation i try to give you knowledge about mind.We compare our mind with computer, if you will feed in computer that if anyone will slap, then robots will also slap, robots has no idea either hand was his owner or others, it will slap. Computer has memories and command.I am try to tell you in your language, not in sprtiual language while spiritual language is better then your language.If some one slap you, what will you do.You will check the person if the normal person will slap you, your reply also will be in slap and you will be full in aggression but if police commissioner will slap you, you will not slap him and you will not be aggression, you will be with full of fear.How our mind works.Our mind has three portion, 1who command to body for actions 2 one gives order that what should do 3 which calculate the situation and tells that portion which gives order.Two portions never comes in mentally decese 1which gives order2which gives command to body ,A mad person also use two portions, his third portion has failed.Your One portions is taking a load, and when some chemicals comes in unbalanced position, you comes in depression.That portion has to brake your thoughts by calculating what is right and what is wrong, for deceason it has to consume some chemicals, over thinking finish this type of chemicals or unbalanced of your mind chemicals.

How do I get over the depression of losing the love of my life? She was my everything and she left me. I can't possibly move on with someone else without feeling even more depressed. No one comes close to her.

First of all let me say that I'm sorry about your loss. It is not easy getting over that person that seems to be the most perfect person you've ever met in your life and true there is no one that can replace that person. However, I started to realize something after I was left more than once in my lifetime. The people that I gave my best to that treated me poorly all have had the same tendency to later call me and try to be friends with me. I realize there's no one else like me either and I like who I am and I don't like how they treated me. You have to spend time with yourself learning to appreciate who you are and what you are about. You may have to be by yourself for quite a while but that is when The Healing Begins. You need to learn to appreciate yourself for what and who you are, you need to let yourself heal and nourish yourself Body and Soul. If it's a recent breakup you certainly may not want to do anything but curl up in a ball close the curtains and stay in bed hoping the world will go away, that's understandable. This is a good time to learn who what you like to do and what makes you happy. Make some goals to try to attain. You have to learn to love yourself to be able to love properly and not be torn apart. Treat yourself kindly, when you're up to it get your nutrition and Health in order go workout to burn off the frustration and steam you've been building up. Take yourself to a nice scenic area be at the park the beach the forest wherever and enjoy relaxing with nature. Don't let depression take the best of you because there is someone out there for you don't rush it.

I married the wrong person. Thinking about spending the rest of my life with an incompatible person is making me severely depressed. What do I do?

Everyone in this relationship have their own sweet spot to feel that they are perfect and right to their decisions. It can be for him or you or either of your family members. But what I see as most of the marriages go wrong is that every one in it try hard to pamper every other person and themselves that they are married and need to act like one.So for you it looks bad and for your husband its so great going so far. And eventually both trying to dwell in to make everyone feel good about being together while knowningly or unknowingly both of you are feeling crap. Reason is because you both I guess stopped being friends. A base of strong relationship is being best friends to each other and that leads to great communication which most often leads to good things being together and yeah even sex too.The scenario of you two being Indian probably make it hard to consult a doctor or psychologist or counselor, which Im not sure. But what you both can do is keep aside acting to be married couple and try to be thick and thin friends. I don’t know how things will be in future and wouldnt say to go for divorce right way.. But see to it if there be a feel good communication happens between you two to let lose lot of negative emotions.I really wish you both find a cord which fine tunes your relationship this way and if nothing works obviously you would than be more mature enough to consult a doctor or counselor to see how a professional can help to do what is required at that moment.Best of luck ..