Why don't guys approach me?
I know. I am a guy in Uni and I approach MANY girls its almost like a game to me. Here are couple of things that discourage me from approaching. 1- Walking too fast, on the phone, with a group of friends, busy. 2- Resting your facial muscles. (psychologically speaking, the human brain turns negative in sensitive situations such as a guy approaching a girl. Therefore, when a guy sees your face resting, he actually sees you mad, even if you aren't.) Make sure you smile, open your eyes wide. 3- Too much make up. You might get douchebags to approach you but real guys can tell everything about a girl who puts too much make up. 4- Too conservative. I am not telling you to wear a bikini. But don't expect all guys to approach you while wearing baggy jeans and a pony tail. 5- Too hot. (okay this one is a bit weird but its not a joke.) Guys get intimidated when they see a really hot girl sitting alone. This is literally what goes in our minds (I want to talk her, but she probably has a boyfriend, she gets approached everyday by tens of guys.) If you want MANY guys to approach you, chill out on being foxy. 6- You're too awkward. This is one of the most things we guys hate about women. If we look at them, they would give us a bad look and look away... don't do that. Trust me, we aren't looking at your boobs, our will is good. 7- and I am really sorry for saying this if it will hurt the modern feminist idea... you're just not hot enough to be approached. This is a fact. Guys who are willing to approach during the day have balls to approach any woman they want. They will always pick the hottest in the room. Work on your looks. 8- not taking care of the little things. We guys notice your nails, toe nails, elbows, knees, teeth, eye lashes, lips, EARS (trust me you don't want to have dirty ears), clothes etc... Things that MAKE me want to approach her: 1- Eye contact and a smile. if all else fails... then approach guys. My current relationship began when she approached my during class. She made fun of the guy sitting in front of us and it all began from there.
Why don't guys approach me?!?
Your attractive and intimidating. So guys keep away. So your self esteem should be the other way around...your too good looking. And using 'big words' only seals the deal. It's not that guys don't like Asians or think they are inferior...it's that they do like them but they get confused by the different culture. Most Asian families are different, and that spooks guys, and that makes them stay away. So your already attractive, and already intimidating and then on top of that (just to make sure) you act very closed(at best) or mean/stuck up(at the worst). So guys run for the hills. And for the 'cherry on top' you don't go out much anyways. And I'll just bet you make it even worse(as you don't have it bad enough, right) by: -In general you ignore guys. -In general you are 'shy' around guys and don't talk to them. -In general, your very socially conservative -You move like lightning, even when you are in public, it's only for seconds at a time.(I know your type well:You enter the coffee house and somehow immediately get your order and then immediately run out. So by the time a guy goes 'whoa look at her'...you are already on the other side of the county).
Guys: Why don't guys approach me?
I think alot of it has to do with being shy. I personally have a HUGE problem with this. I was once asked if I like someone by a random girl. The girl she was referring to was someone I actually did have a HUGE crush on (this was back in middle school) but I said no because I didn't know how to react. The girl who asked me was someone I never talked to either, so it was that much more awkward. Later (years later) I realized she was probably asking me through her friend. DUH! If I had said yes, we probably would have gone out because her friend would have told her. But at that time I never really told a girl I liked her before, or some stranger for that matter. I'm in my first year of college and it still kinda pisses me off when I think about it. Haha So shyness is a big part of it. And there's also the other thing: Fear. I think that (like anyone else) guys fear rejection and it would be a huge strike to their self conscious if they were rejected. Technically speaking, I AM one of those people that can't really ask a girl out. I don't know why it is this way, it just is. Kind of like some people are afraid of heights, and some aren't. It's just part of personality. They may also be scared that any relationship they had with the friend beforehand could be ruined or jeopardized by telling them they like them. That's a pretty good reason too. Other times, it's just luck. If there happens to be someone there who wants to go out, there will be. If not, then another day something will happen. Just not today. Don't worry about it. One day the right guy will come along and ask you out without trouble. Haha.
Why dont guys talk to me or approach me?
You suffer from a common problem many women have, your too attractive. Problem 1-Most guys will assume you have a guy already. A typical guy has gone through the pain of asking out ten 'normal looking' women and have each of them have a guy already. Attractive women are even worse as they are automatically born with a boyfriend. The chances of meeting an attractive single woman is just about zero. Problem 2-The average attractive woman does not like most guys. Again a typical guy has been burned too many times when an attractive woman turns him down as 'he is not her type'. Then toss in your shy personality and get: Problem 3-You don't show guys you like them. And again the typical guy has been burned here too many times. He sees an attractive woman on the beach and she even looks back. The poor guy thinks 'well she would not look at me at all unless she liked what she saw, right?'. So poor guy will walk over and ask out the attractive woman..and she will not only say no, but will rip his heart out and spit in his face and laugh and embarrassed him. So you can see that most guys are just going to stay away from you. They don't want to get hurt..again. So just sitting there and waiting is no going to work for you. You need to take the first step. You need to be a little less shy and quiet. You will need to approach the guys.(you don't need to go full tilt and ask them out..but you could). To keep it more 'classic', just come up with a way to ask for 'help'. It does not matter much what it is. On the beach you could ask the guy to open a water bottle(go buy one you can't open, even). Or ask the time. Or walk near them and drop something(and if they don't notice, wait a bit and come back and say you dropped something and ask for help to find it.(nothing important, of course, but a nice piece of jewelry works great. Get that gold plated dolphin you got when you were 12)) Or ask for help with your car, or your computer or even just directions. And don't just ask for help and run. Make small talk. Anything to keep the two of you talking. And it's important to work into the conversation that you are A)Alone B)Single and C)Looking. (Oh and keep your little set up to yourself...don't tell him)
Why don't guys approach me at the club/bar?
ok well i have a boyfriend and we usually go to the club together but often my boyfriend dosent seem to wanna get into the dancing with me and just have fun and just go all out and just let go and dance your heart out. so i asked if i could dance with other guys he said it was ok.... so i kinda backed away from him a bit to see if i could get any guys to ask me to dance......nope nothing.... and i as well came with my other guy roommate and his friend krista, but the whole time krista had like maybe 6 guys ask her to dance and talk to her...... it was kinda lame when i had this random guy come up to me and and ask if my friend would dance with them........ i just rolled my eyes.... and i just met krista so shes kinda not my friend ...... i really want to dance with other people other then my boyfriend, cuz i would stay on the dance floor all night and dance all night long..... i just don't understand how she dose it... shes about a 5''1 girl very slim sorta attractive and dirtyish blonde hair..... but i'm about 5''4 average and long brown hair and green eyes do guys ask the girls who look easy to dance with or what, cuz i've just gotton into the bar/club scene and i have no clue what i am doing wrong.... i just want to dance with other guys nothing else..... i've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 5 months... so we trust eachother... helpppp
Why don't guys approach me? Any advice?
Are you approachable? There is a science to being approachable. You need to follow this checklist: - Comfortable clothes. Blue jeans, T-shirt or sweatshirt, athletic shoes that don't look like you JUST bought them... - NO make-up. Not even a little bit. No, not even lipstick - Hair neatly styled, but not perfect. A little messy is better - One word: SMILE! - Be alone (not fifteen dozen girlfriends hanging around you all the time) The look you are going for is... (here is your motivation, haha...) You just rolled out of bed, grabbed the nearest clothes you saw handy and dashed out the door.... Guys like to look at girls who are dressed fancy, wearing lots of makeup, hair perfect, etc. BUT, they rarely approach them or ask them out... Guys want to imagine that you would be fun to hang out with on bowling night...or just cuddling on the couch watching 'the game' and slamming a few beers. If you are dressed "to kill" for the club scene....bad. If it looks like you just finished mowing the lawn with a PUSH-style mower....GOOD!
Why don't guys ever approach me?
Ok, so I've been told that I am pretty by friends and this guy that I was friends with said I was in the top ten prettiest girls in our class in high school, but it could also be biased because he had a big crush on me, long story short, he ended up being a big jerk who was pretty gross. But I've been asked out by guys before, but they're all weird. There was this really weird guy that asked me out when I was walking to class my first semester. I'm also pretty shy and quiet at first, so idk could that play a part. I just notice that whenever I go to parties or whatever with my friends, my friends get approached but I never do. It's frustrating, I'm 19 and I've never had a bf or had a real kiss, you know.
I had a friend who was very pretty.I mean she was so gorgeous (no lesbo) you’d think she walked out of a magazine, and this was without makeup. Her skin had a glow with a very slight tan, her eyes were huge bluish greenish brown in that way where you can never quite tell depending on the lighting, and her hair was pin straight with hints of brown. She had a tiny nose and perfectly curved lips and an amazing figure and she didn’t even gym.I couldn’t even be jealous, I was just in awe. She exceeded that level where someone has something you want and you’re like ‘I wish I had her eyes’ because if you compared her with us (normal girls), there was nothing similar so you couldn’t even begin to compare.Oh yes, and she didn’t have hair on her arms or legs. Apparently she showed us once, her hair on her legs were extremely thin and the same shade as her skin. So wtf, how is she so perfect you know. Imagine never having to wax.Guys would stare at her all the time. It was cool being around her because you felt a little like a celebrity. She didn’t even have to try, she could wear anything and she had that effect on people.She was kind enough, she thought I was somewhat pretty which is a compliment coming from her. But guys didn’t approach her, and when they did they became tongue tied and she did this giggle that made them go completely crazy and blush and their eyes would go right to the floor.I guess they found her incredibly intimidating.
Think about your friend for a moment and think about WHY she is approachable as opposed to you.And I bet the secret has little to do with looks.I’ve worked at night clubs and often watch a lot of people interact over the years (my hobby).And what I realise is this:The best looking women often don’t get approached.Everyone is at a club to have fun. If you’re looking like you’re not having fun, why would someone want to be around you?You don’t need to approach a guy to get him to notice you. You can do something I like to call ‘eye f*cking’ which I talk about in great detail here. A well-timed look and a smile will get you what you want.Women looking around for men come across as super desperate. Women will hover around a guy they like for a long time.So here’s what to do:Smile and make prolonged eye contact with someone you like.Look like you’re a lot of fun. Laugh and dance a lot.Don’t seem desperate for attention.Easy right?
If im pretty why don't guys approach me?
well i have dated some guys and they always tell me how pretty i am an that they thought they were never gonna get me.... ill talk to my exes sometimes an their always like 'i bet a lot of guys are trying to talk to yu huh?' and im like hahaha uh no they think im lieng but im not guy friends say its cuz i probably intimidate guys, but really i think that guys are thinking im stuck up or ugly and i hate it when i meet new people and their like omg your like such a cool person to kick it with i thought you were gonna be a stuck up *****! idk it just sucks cuz i like talking to guys and meeting new guys but like the type of guys i like just dont notice me and im nice i just dont know what yu guys should give me advice and tell meyourrexperiencess!