Why Dont People Want To Be My Friend

Why don't people want to talk with me, or be my friend?

Let this misconception pass over your head.If 5–10 people (Let’s say 20 just to be conservative) out of millions people have become the rationale of your futile thoughts, then nobody can help you but you, by filling some positivity in your mind. You represent your traits in a way, that they, by no means, become wasted and incapable of having some friends. Don’t let some little amount of people be a constant judger of your life. Trust yourself, you’re just an another ordinary man and having all the abilities one normal person posses. Just be true to yourself and the next time you come across someone you want to be friend with, initiate a conversation by giving them a beautiful smile, and let them feel the posititivty you have in your life.

Why don't people want to be my friend?

Your personality does seem likeable enough in writing. Which leaves two possible reasons: confidenceOne: Your "intensity" actually does put people off. Not necesarily all people, I'm sure quite a few would enjoy that you like higher conversations. You could be friends with Sherlock Holmes or John Watson, for instance! Two: Confidence. Regardless of how good you look on paper, none of the people around you are reading that paper. Very few people initiate conversations or just automatically start proper friendships with a random person. You are complaining because you think that others aren't flocking to you despite your brilliance. In a crowd of people waiting, almost all of them will be on their phones. A couple with talk in small groups of people they came with. One, maybe two people will initiate conversation with a stranger. If you want friends, you have to be that person. Tips: Smiling makes people like you. Less guard equals more friends. It also has the benefit of lessening your intensity unless your smile is creepy. (Very possible, by the way. Ask an objective person whether there is anything about you visually to turn them off).Confidence. This is the single most attractive quality in another person to me. There was a guy in high school who was really popular. He had lots of friends and I thought he was cool too, and I don't think much of the whole foodchain thing of highschool. He played with a rubix cube every second I saw him, not just the classic one but the harder versions too. He wore his hair long and wore a leather jacket. He was actaully a really great conversationalist, too. He was interesting. (A rubix cube or other skill type thing is a great conversation starter, leading to making friends.) I don't initiate conversation because I can't think of anything to say to new people. So if someone starts talking to me, I respond and enjoy talking but I won't start conversation without repeated exposure. I happen to know that a lot of people like talking but won't start talking, often because they think they're interrupting something.This is worse with cellphones because people see someone on their phone and don't want to interrupt. For me, if I'm on my phone, go ahead and interrupt. If I'm on my iPad (laptop for most), don't bug me. Also, headphones on, don't bug me.Have a nice day. Good luck making friends. :)

Why don't people like me as a friend?

There could be a number of reasons. Can you be demanding(keep asking for favours,wanting people to stay longer than they want to,want them to come over too much,to text back or answer the phone straight away)? Can you be manipulative(want people to answer the phone straight away and if they don't,have a go at them,say things like "I'd do the same for you." "Where's a mate when I needed one?" "Why not,what's the problem?") Can you moan quite a bit? (Talk about about your problems a lot or talk about the same things a lot) Can you be inappropriate?(pass comments about a mates weight,appearance,mental or physical health problems?) Can you be unthoughtful? (Popping round unannounced,borrowing stuff and not returning it,make them late for something?)Can you be self destructive(which is up to you,but then moan about it to others(keep doing things that are bad for you like taking drugs,self harming,over eating,sleeping around,flitting from one bad relationship to another,over spending?) Or doing things that may impact on others?(Being drunk and disorderly,being violent towards people,stealing from people,vandalizing things?) Or are you an introvert who finds it hard to mix with people and finds socializing mentally draining?(which is not your fault)

Why don't people make an effort to be friends with me?

I guess I might be the right guy to answer this. There used to be a time, when I could even lay my life down for my friends (not literally). I went against my parents for them, put their choices prior to mine, took their requests as orders. And yeah! I was always helpful.As you've mentioned earlier, I was followed by the same consequences. No one even turned back at me.What did I do?I accepted it.Yup, it was hard to accept it initially, I felt left out. But in the end I accepted it.Then I started developing the habit of introspection. I gave more time to myself, trying to understand my flaws and my pros. I took up a hobby (photography in my case) and I am quite good at it. My page on facebook was liked by Manish Mamtani and Tara Lemieux. I won some interschool photography competitions. I gave into reading and spiritualism. Self grooming and Self confidence. I strived to be a better, a more knowledgeable person everyday. And moreover I learnt how to help others without judgement and expectations. That's life my friend. To make someone smile is the most satisfying feeling ever. (Atleast thats what I feel). And I'm trying to expand this satisfaction through Quora.P.S. I opened up to my parents, and started sharing almost everything with them. I have a friend who's been with me for the past 13 years and one other girl who has supported me immensely for the past 3 years. And undeniably My Parents, who have stood by me through all my ups and downs. And Always remember:​​​​​Peace :)** I was in a hurry and read the last line of the details as "How to deal with this?" But I still hope this helps you in someway or the other. **

I want to be everyone's friend. But they don't want to. Why? Is there something wrong with me?

You probably need to learn social skills. Nothing wrong with that. Some people are born with social skills, and some learn. People with Asperger's (mild autism spectrum) and even complete autists can learn social cues and behaviors when they put their mind to it.Are you tactful? Do you know when to speak and when to be silent? Are you confident, but not arrogant? Do you "get" the fine details of your generation's subculture, dress code and power dynamics?  Etc.Wanting to be everyone's friend when no one wants to be yours signal desperation and low social status. If you don't have high standards, people (especially if you are a teenager) will lose their hard-earned social status by hanging out with you.So... your situation is tough, but not hopeless. Surround yourself with books, to learn what those other people already know. Surround yourself with sports equipment to earn self-respect as well as respect of others. Have a life. Pursue hobbies. Become the person you want to be. Make like-minded people look up to you. Never mind the rest; you can't be all things to all people. Help others who are  worse off than you are; there is always someone, somewhere who is. And don't despair if success does not happen overnight. Pace yourself for a marathon.