I regret not being a virgin anymore. How can I deal with this?
There are things that will always be hard to let go. But always know, you not being a virgin doesn't make you any less of a person. People will make mistakes, and they will regret it. Just do not dwell on it. Find a guy who will respect you for your values and for your morals. There are guys like me who loves a girl with morals. Even if they're not a virgin, because one thing that matters most about caring for someone is accepting everything that she is. At least, that is what I believe. I've made the same mistakes, and I wish I could of waited for that girl who would have really appreciate me. Just do not dwell on the past. Step up for who you are and respect your value. You're not any less of a lady that you were when you were a virgin.
My parents won't let me date.. should I go behind their back?
Okay, before you just immediately answer "yes," or "no," here's a lot of the background info: I've liked this guy from seventh to ninth grade. (i'm in 9th now. I'm 14, he just turned 15.) He liked me back in eighth grade... i just found out about that today. Anyway, I really want to ask him out now. Like, I've been waiting forever, and I just don't want to wait anymore. I just wanna let him KNOW, and be able to spend time with him as a girlfriend... But see, the thing is, with my parents, there's absolutely NO mention of dating EVER in the house. If it even COMES up, I swear I'll be kicked out of the house. They're EXTREMELY religious, EXTREMELY, to the point where they constantly explain to me "You realize you have to be a good girl with good values, in high school. You know that, because you're a respectable girl." I'm like oh...my...gosh. I just say "Yes, I know." but ugh. Thing is, I feel like I really, really, really like him. I've even dreamed about him. I can see he likes me back. Should I go behind their backs? Again, trust me on this one, telling them will absolutely never work. By the way, I'm Indian, he's white... my parents are extremely conservative. No dating, not even Indian boys - but when I'm around 20 or older, I can "find myself a nice Indian husband." pshh, yeah. So not only is dating off limits, but so are white/black/hispanic/asian/any other race of guys. This is so upsetting; he's the sweetest guy ever, and I really, really like him. What do I do?! If I secretly date, how would I do it? Neither of us can even drive yet.
So, I lost my virginity before marriage and regret it?
Like other foolish girls, I thought this was the guy and I lost my virginity even though, growing up, I vowed to wait until marriage. Well, the guy was scum and if I stop and think about it too long, I get angry and sad at myself for not sticking to my morals and values a little more. I regret my decision so much. Has anything similar happened to you? How do you get through all the pain and anger at yourself?
Why does my girlfriend's sexual past disgust me?
It seems like sex is a big deal for you. You are feeling betrayed because she wasn't forthright, but it seems like the number is a bigger issue for you than the dishonesty.You had the opportunity (presumably) to have sex with other people, but you refrained because it was so important. You are feeling like it is somehow cheaper for her - less important, less special. You are experiencing some cognitive dissonance because the sex you're having with her is so special to you and you're assuming that because she has been more casual about it in the past, it is less special for her.I don't think that is the case. I've slept with more than 30 people. I don't know my exact number. Early on I tried to keep track. I can't even remember the faces of everyone I've slept with.I love my girlfriend. I love the sex we have. It is very special and some of the most enjoyable and intimate sex I've had in my life. And I've had enough sex to know the difference.She is sleeping with you now. You are special to her. You are the one she is being intimate with, and only you. And she is the one you are being intimate with, and only her. That's a big deal. Both of you have thousands of potential other mates. You're with each other. Don't underestimate that. Recognize the value of the now, and the commitment you've made to each other, and don't dwell on what she or you have chosen in the past. Now is special, and your life is short. So keep it special.