Girls of America: Why do you idolize Anna Nicole Smith?
Don't "violate me." Educate me. What is it that makes her so great in your eyes? I've been reading about how you think that she lead such a wondeful life and was such a great role model for women. What am I missing, because what I see is a basically useless life of excess, greed, sex, and pathetic behavior. Tell me about it please.
Why do we idolize and glorify entertainers, i.e., actors, musicians, and sports figures?
Because Like it or not (I don't), people like Justin Bieber are actually gifted. They also don't have a "normal" life like we do, they're braver in some sense and more adventurous (otherwise they wouldn't have become celebrities). Humans like gifted/extraordinary people, and celebrity entertainers/athletes are ones who are very extraordinary in their fields. so I tend to disagree with Trevor Wells's answer by arguing that they are in fact better than us on some level. For example, even if you are a gifted, say, mathematician, you'd still idolize Michael Jackson because he was a very gifted singer/dancer, because he is better than you in both fields, on the other side, some rookie mathematicians might idolize you for being so extraordinary with mathematics, meaning that it doesn't only apply to entertainers, it applies to absolutely everything, including bad things like porn stars and serial killers!I absolutely idolize Steve Jobs for example, he represents someone I look up to. Why? well, he's a very extraordinary person when it comes to business and technology (among other things), all are fields I aspire to be good at, so I think it's totally understandable for someone like me to look up to Steve, though idolizing celebrities is just a matter of liking/looking up to them too much, which we humans tend to do with a lot of things (people also idolize cars, watches, certain weapons, etc). that's it, nothing weird about it, though I still find it weird that some people idolize Justin Bieber ;)
I idolize one of my teachers and fantasize that she's my mother. What does this mean psychologically?
It really depends on your family history and your personal experiences and convictions. Perhaps you lack a relationship with your own mother. Maybe this teacher has reached you in way unlike any other only comparable to a way a mother reaches a daughter. Maybe this teacher represents the things and possess the qualities you insecurely long for in yourself or in your mother. Your teacher may possess nurturing qualities that make it easy for you to think of her in that way. It could be as simple as you having an active imagination and idle time. The truth is that know one knows the answer to this question but you. Hopefully I've helped. Good luck on your soul searching
Tips to stop idolizing my girlfriend?
It seems to me like you are at a crossroads. The two forks go in basically opposite directions. Here's my summary of the two: 1) You grow up and become a man. The man you become sits down with his "girlfriend" and tells her he loves her and wants to share his life with her. They start to talk marriage and family and forever. They talk in adult terms, which include things like absolute commitment, fidelity, etc. They decide that nothing is going to come between them, and that they will stick it out through good times and bad. They become, in Biblical terms, "one flesh" -- meaning one unit standing together against the rest of the world. 2) You don't grow up, and stay a boy who wonders if he needs to drug his girlfriends in order to keep them in their place so he doesn't have to control his actions on his own. Your choice. Now I can see you choosing what's behind door #1, and she hasn't grown up enough to be the woman in your life. That being the case, be thankful you only wasted three months on her, and go out in search of the woman you are now grown up enough to deserve.
I idolized my parents as a kid. I, in my 20s, started seeing their flaws, even when thinking about the past. What should I do?
I idolized my parents as a kid. I, in my 20s, started seeing their flaws, even when thinking about the past. What should I do?You could congratulate yourself on having parents whose flaws only became evident when you were an adult? Many people are only too aware of their parents flaws at a much younger age.Everyones parents are flawed, because no one person is perfect. Recognising and accepting our parents flaws is a good sign that we are maturing and becoming adults capable of seeing the world in realistic ways. When we are children it's great if we are able to idolise our parents, to see them as all powerful gods. It helps us feel safe and secure. But it's not real, and as we become adults we can cope better with knowing that the world is not always a safe and predictable place. We can handle uncertainty better, and cope with the ups and downs our own lives are going to involve.So congratulate yourself as well. Being able to see our parent's flaws is a good sign. Now all you need to do is accept their flaws, and give yourself permission to develop and eventually acknowledge a few of your own.