Why Is It Hard For Me To Have Serious/deep Conversations

One common misconception that women have is that men are like us.Men have the uncanny ability to actually be thinking about nothing. Think blank slate. So when you ask him what he’s thinking about when he is staring into the distance and he says, “Nothing,” he actually means it.Men also compartmentalize their thinking and for the sake of illustration, just think of a giant shoe organizer that has a space for, say, 30 pairs of shoes. Each pair has its own little box and they are kept separate from the other pairs of shoes. This is the male brain.there is a baseball box, a world news box, a food box, a sex box, a girlfriend box, so on and so forth. He thinks in one box at a time. (Note: I know that there are some men that are exceptions to this, and kudos to you for your girl-like thinking. We thank you.) So if you want to have a deep conversation with your boyfriend, you need to pick a time when he is not hungry or tired or wanting to play video games or whatever his pasttime is. Timing is everything. Then pick one box and ask him questions, starting with easy questions and building on each question, making sure you stay within the box. Vary the questions so that some can be answered yes or no, and some can be answered with a short-answer response.Best relationship advice I ever heard: Keep it in Cleveland.What this means is that if you are discussing a problem within your relationship, keep the discussion on that problem. Don’t bring up how he forgot your mom’s birthday last year or how he looked at that waitress at the Thai place last week. If you want to discuss spending more time together, talk about spending more time together. Not how he spends too much time watching the Cubs or the Jags. Attack the problem, not the person.Best wishes for a great conversation.

Literally anything. Religion, history, spirituality, dating, geographies, space, marriage, etc you name it.But one suggestion mix few topics which includes both light hearted and serious and deep conversations.You know why it is essential to talk various topics including so called sensitive ones, so that they can get to know about you. Yes your views and opinions are also a kind of filter but mainly it your ability to handle disagreements, the way to behave when you don't know about something, your curiosity and most importantly your relations with your Ego.It is an unconscious way to sense a man's inner game.Another thing is be interested in her as a person.Dating coachPratik

Ah! I think that, in the Western world, we inherited small talk from Victorian times. The rule of the game was that you should avoid embarrassing somebody, so you do not ask anything personal (in case a subject is touchy, like her sister just died and you did not know), you do not talk about anything intellectual (in case the person does not know how to answer), you do not talk about politics or religion (because it is not good for the digestion was the traditional explanation).I would say that small talk dates from the second half of the 19th century. It was a time of great changes in society, and that certainly contributed to the sense of caution that people had. Before that, like in the 18th century in Europe, people talked about anything, and the freedom of communication was only stopped by the state or by the religious authority.The playwright G B Shaw, born in Victorian times, makes of this a very funny portrait in Pygmalion. In the play, Eliza has learned to speak with the posh accent of the aristocracy, but her subjects of conversation are not conventional, she tells it like it is. For instance she tells a stupefied audience how her father is a drunk and comments:”Theres lots of women has to make their husbands drunk to make them fit to live with.” it is followed by the comment of a young gentleman: “The new small talk. You do it awfully well!”There is small talk everywhere I go and I sorely miss the charm of the serious conversations with my parents, who died over 30 years ago. Try to get engaged in a political or social group or to volunteer somewhere: you need new friends.

When they have deep conversations.Having a deep conversation with someone is not something you can plan on. I have been around brilliant people througout my life, if I tried to have a deep conversation with them, it never happened. It would always end up in silence. Other times I would randomly run into someone and a deep conversation came out of nowhere.I have found that some of the deepest conversations I've had were with people that you would not consider smart or successful. I've had them with homeless people, hookers, addicts, janitors. These were the people who knew the most about life, and they were willing to share their knowledge.Deep conversations flow naturally. It can't be forced. Any attempt to create a deep conversation always fails.

Because people are physically and emotionally weakest and most vulnerable during night. Especially late night talks(3–4 am)are most hypnotising. Also most people who die at night,die during this 3–4am period because they are physically weakest at this time interval.The best thing associated with night is silence and silence itself is the most alluring parameter of all. This is the other reason. Lesser the distraction and disturbance in your ambience, more you tend to start imagining things and get emotionally swayed and get lost deeper into the conversation.So it's probably the worst time to converse (if you don't want your heart to land in a deep-shit) and probably the best time to talk if you want things to keep rolling.However ‘what you talk' and ‘How you talk' matters more than ‘when you talk'. :) :)

Thanks for the A2ADeep conversations only require an extensive knowledge of a given subject, whereas small talk is just a way of, for instance, telling someone to have a nice day.Small talk is not as difficult as it seems. It's thanking a clerk at a store for helping you find something, and smiling and saying, "Have a nice day," to a neighbor or stranger walking by.Often, it's the small talk that "traps" you long enough to realize you have a whole lot in common with people. I am occasionally stopped while walking, and will stand and talk for a few minutes. Sometimes, it goes on a little longer than I anticipated, but just as I'm about to leave, they will ask, "Do you play Scrabble?"It seems that Scrabble players can "tell" if someone else plays. Even if they are just people I've met, I have no problem playing Scrabble with them.Right away, the small talk became a game partner~

I love your question.I personally don't enjoy small talk. But i understand that people have limitations, as you and I, and there may be some topics or levels of communication that they just feel uncomfortable with.i suggest to be yourself and relax, don't try too hard to stablish a deep conversation right away, you will always find someone who will surprise you with details of their life, interests and experiences that are unique. Things that you would never imagine.Sense of humor, for me, is an expression of the inteligence. It also can be an ice breaker, if it isn't, well, laugh about it. Sarcasm, playing with words or made creative connection in a conversation can be way more engaging for a lot of people. Laughing relaxes everybody and people can be more receptive.If you really don't find someone to talk about something serious or deep, it is ok, pay attention to their body language, their entonation of their voices, etc. People "say" a lot without words but through their body language.Good luck!