Why is it so hard for me to keep friends?
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Well if thats wat is happening it means two things one there is some habit or some thing about you that drives your friends away from you or the second they might be jealous of how you carry yourself and your thought process they might have felt dominated by you if thats the case then in friendship you should give chance to others let them take the lead at times if always you try t prove yourself best it happens to intimidate other friends of yours..so this time make friends with people who have similar mindset as yours or if you befriend others then make sure that all friends have a say in things thats the only way a friendship can withhold for long....its very impotant to not expect anything beacause friendship is not a deal i was compassionate towards you and you should be towards me ..thats not friendship try and give all you can if its worth it your friend might give you back even morehope i have helped .....if you still need help you are free to comment ,follow etc...............
The key to any type of relationship is communication.Most relationship works when both sides are willing to put in the effort to actually maintain the friendship. Yes, you got that right! You have to do something. Nothing gets you nowhere. Communicate in ways you feel most comfortable. I prefer face-to-face conversation with my friends. It works best especially if you have to have "the talk". Why? You get to actually see their facial expression and make sure that they get the right message.Find the right balance where you and your friends are comfortable. This would vary case by case. Too much talking might be ok if your friend is the quite type, but enjoy listening to your stories.When you find yourself stuck and not going anywhere with your friendship, it is time do some self-evaluation. Give your best effort at this and change for the better. Worst case scenario: you lose that friends, but gain many more!Remember: Trust is one of the many important characteristics within friendship, but you don't build trust in a day.
Why is it so hard for me to make friends?
Since the school year is coming up I wanted to know why it was so hard for me to make friends with people. Im shy so I really don't like talking to people much and I have a quick temper so I tend to get mad over things really easily. Its not hard to talk to me but I just don't like sharing my feelings with people. I don't know why but its just like when ever I am at school I just freeze up and cannot say anything or I can't say the right words. I typically stay at home all day and chat online but even now its becoming hard for me to make friends Via internet. Its sucks really. I don't know whats happening to me. When I was in kendergarten I would have no problems making friends but as I got higher and higher up in the school year I just kind of started Sitting in the back of the room and watching everyone else. I want to be able to have friends and I want to cry sometimes but its just so hard for me to talk to others. I can talk to people more easily if I know that they don't have many friends or if they get picked on alot or if I have known them for a long period of time. I cna make friends more easily Via internet even if I have never met them in real life i don't know why but thats just me... So why is it so hard for me to make friends? Because I enjoy going to the movies, having pizza, making friends, I enjoy doing all of those things but its just so hard for me to. I guess its because as time goes on less and less people accept me for who I am or assume that I someone I'm not. Now its starting to happen were ever I go...It sucks don't really know why. So can someone please help me with why I'm so shy about talking to people or why it is getting harder for me to make friends anywhere? BQ: How is your day going so far?
Why is it so hard to make friends?
I went through this for most of my childhood, im 17 now and finally have a good social life. The reason you dont have any friends is because you're surrounded with immature 13 year old assholes. At that age everyone is going to be out for their own benefit and dont really care about anyone else and single out people who they think are weird. You just have to push through this. Keep being friendly, and keep trying to make friends, but remember that sometimes it just wont happen. Keep in mind also that because you're at a small school it is harder to find people who have similar interests, making it harder to find friends. There is nothing wrong with you. I myself didnt really have many friends until i transferred to a bigger school and found some awesome people who accepted me for who i am. Keep trying. Start conversation with random people. I know this is hard and you're gonna be thinking "oh no theyll think im weird", but honestly it is better to be heard than go around like a ghost. I had the same fear about people knowing i had no friends when i was younger - i lied about it too. But dont worry about it too much, you have the rest of your life to make friends, it will happen naturally over time and when you dont expect it. In the end it is just your age and the maturity level of your peers thats against you. You on the other hand sounds very intelligent and i mean that. That said, yeah, you could just try changing schools. This will put you in a hopefully different/larger social pool of people. But remember that even that wont magically make you new friends. When you like someone and think theyre cool, just talk to them. Thats all it takes. And ultimately just waiting for your peers to get a little more mature is the answer. In the meantime, remember that your social life as a kid means nothing when you leave school, its usually the "nerds" that make it good in life anyway.
Why is it so hard for me to make friends?
I've been at a college for over 3 years now and I've made no friends. (it is a commuter school so that may have something to do with it). I've even joined clubs but I haven't really met anyone I've really cliqued with. In high school, I had no friends except for senior year when one girl befriended me. I would like to make friends but I don't know how to. I know this sounds really pathetic but I don't know how to start a good conversation. When I do manage to, I don't know how to keep it going. I feel weird asking random people from class to have lunch with them. And most of the time, people seem to me like they want to be left alone anyway or they don't want any new friends because they have plenty already. What am I doing wrong?
This might sound sarcastic or silly but it's not. But perhaps you find it difficult to make friends BECAUSE you find it difficult to make friends. I'll tell you a story about me:For a long time I had no friends and I was all alone in this world. I connected with nobody not even family. All I had was God (but we'll leave my religious beliefs out of this because that's kind of a spicy subject). I wanted to have friends so bad but nothing I tried worked. Then I realized I was trying way too hard. I was nice to everyone, did favors for nothing in return for everyone, and in the end ended up becoming a doormat for nearly everyone around me. You see we live in a world where whoever cares the most loses.But there was a time when I hit rock bottom so hard I finally realized I couldn't go any lower and that's when it hit me. I had nothing to lose... at all! Why not be completely and utterly myself? I did and sure enough I was seen as weird by a lot of people but you know what? That caring the least thing really worked out because I remember during my last year of high school something my friend told me (that's right I said it friend). I don't know how it came up in the conversation but it did he said "Jordan, you're popular." I instantly denied it but then thought about it for a moment. A lot of people knew me and not only that I had no enemies, I was invited to my share of parties, plenty of girls liked me, and I had a reputation for being the "funny guy."If I kept trying to please everyone else and not myself I would've been nothing more than a pawn. Thing is I'm not one and neither are you! You've got a unique personality and when you decide to stop caring about the things that make you think you have a hard time making friends you'll appeal to people so much more. Don't try to act like everyone else. The world wants you to think that in order to be cool you have to dress like her or act like him or speak like them. You don't just be you because you have something unique to put on the table and maybe you won't attract everyone to you like a magnet but you'll attract every right person to you like a super-magnet. If you act and dress like celebrity A you'll attract friend meant for them not you.I hope this helped.
Why is it so hard for me to make friends?
Be yourself for sure. :) If people dont like you, its their loss honestly, you sound really cool and sweet. Never try to be a person someone else wants, dont change for anyone. stay true to yourself cus in the end your doing this for you. Be really close to your family, cus they can be one of your greatest friends! you dont need "a bunch of friends" cus sometimes they can make you do things that are bad especially now at a young age. I dont really know how else to explain that your a good person and i know forsure later in life your going to have a beautiful life and a good husband. stay in there friend :)
Because that's how friendship and social relationships work in general.We as human beings are hardwired to connect with each other. And like any other hardwired behaviour, it has a purpose. Our survival as a species depends on our capacity for social living. Most of human history was spent in small groups in which each was dependent on the others for survival. This to say that we're only social because of necessity. Thus, if we could survive alone as individuals and remain healthy both physically and mentally, maybe we wouldn't have this characteristic.So, if your "friends" leave once you have nothing left to give, it's because a huge part of what kept the friendship alive is no more available. Some would argue that this is not true, and that these people are just some idiots that were taking advantage of you. "You were just unfortunate, but one day, you'll eventually find some good people" they might add. And by good people, I assume they might mean someone who would stick with you no matter what.Things don't work like that. I'm not saying that friendship or social relationships in general are based on taking advantage of each other, nor that it’s fine to do so. What I am trying to say is that one should realize that we're living in a culture dominated by expressive and utilitarian individualism. When we look for a friend, we're looking basically for two things: utility, and pleasure. It doesn't have to be material. Comfort, validation, company, distraction, acceptance, help, fun, all are things that we can include in these two things. And by them, a friendship is meant to be beneficial. Once this relationship stops fulfilling its role, its existence becomes unnecessary.But, hey! Maybe those people are not that wrong after all. There's a lot of people on this planet, and almost each one of them is looking for some company. That's a common point to start with.