Rock and Pop- do you find it funny, sweet, or weird when you hear a child's voice in a song?
I always find it annoying. I'm sorry, but it always throws me off rhythm and takes me out of the song, even with 'Another Brick in the Wall' I didn't like it. BQ: When I was 6 my first grade class sang Christmas songs for all our parents in the cafeteria. I remember this one girl spelled 'Christmas' wrong on her hat in glitter and I told her she was stupid ;p BQ2: Composition. No matter how creative you are, if you don't know the intricacies or at least the fundamentals of composing, than you're just banging away at an instrument. Edit: Ok, I won the 1st grade spelling bee, and then we all get Santa hats to wear on stage, and we're supposed to write stuff on them with glitter, and this moron spells Christmas with a 'K'. I mean, it was an insult to my championship. I had to correct her XD Edit 2: Ummm, excuse me, I won the spelling bee in 1st, 2nd, AND 3rd grade. Like a boss! I only lost it in 4th grade because the teacher cheated! I spelled 'Greyhound' correctly, but I just said 'G' instead of 'capital G'. What a stupid technicality. Edit 3: Actually, I'd prefer an ice cream sundae. *Claps hands* Chop chop! I'll eat it while I stare at my certificates of victory.
Why are peole so offended that I don't want children?
Some people get offended because they misinterpret your declaration to not have children as an indication that thier decision to have them (or want them) is wrong. I assume that you mean no such thing, so you will have to leave them to deal with thier own issue because you can't fix that for them. If you can't make a different choice than I did without me feeling upset, then that's not really your problem, right? Some people really just love kids so much that it's unfathomable that someone else doesn't. They don't mean to offend with thier comments anymore than you mean to offend with your comment about not wanting kids...it's just thier thoughts coming out. I could possibly fall into this category from time to time with friends. They might think I'm judging them by being surprised that they don't want kids when really I'm just surprised to hear it from that particular person. Some folks have really sad reasons that they don't have kids and thier own pain probably makes them more defensive (and possibly offensive) than they intend to be. If you are starved and see someone trash a sandwich; it'll affect you a little differently than if you are full and see the same thing. Just pray for those folks. Oh and for those wonderful people who say you are selfish to not have kids (that's just rude), you can politely remind them that it's probably more selfish for them to insist that you have a child that they don't intend to help you birth, pay for or raise for the next 18 years. How off is that??? To tell someone to take on a gigantic responsibility that they will have to deal with and not you. As much as I love kids, they are a LOT of work and a lot of responsibility and I can certainly respect that not everyone wants to take on that particular responsibility.
Are people who don’t have children less youthful and fun as they get older?
One of my aunts is 41, and has never been married. She looks like she’d only just hit 30, and that’s one reason I’ve always felt closer to her. She hasn’t gone on many dates in her life, but she has always been great fun. She learns Japanese as a hobby; she travels a lot around the world for fun, or just visiting her friends who moved overseas. She enjoys life even if there are always troubles. She is the fun aunt I know I can discuss anything with if I want to.With that said, most people would assume that she wouldn’t be a motherly person. Yet she loves kids and has been a babysitter for all her friends and family since she was a teenager. I still remember she was the one who took 5-year-old me and my little sis to the hospital to see our newborn brother. She spoke casually, but also gently prepared us to visit my mom after she’d had a difficult birth. She helped with taking care of her brother’s children, because the whole family is still living together (their parents, my aunt, and my uncle’s family) and had proven to have much better parenting skills with my little cousins than their own mother.Youthfulness and maturity are not mutually exclusive qualities of a person.
Did your child ever hear you say a word that they now repeat?
My daughter was playing by herself, and suddenly she said “fuck”. My wife asked her what that meant. She said, “It means the sink is broken.”I never use that word, and neither does my wife, so I assume she heard it at school or at a neighbors house …I told this story once to Art Linkletter, author of the best selling “Kids Say the Darndest Things”, and he began including it in his repertoire for personal appearances. I was in his audience once when he didn’t know I was there, and I heard him use it. But he substituted the weaker word “shit” for the actual 4-letter word my daughter had used.I haven’t heard her use it again.For my children, we also frequently say “oops” when they drop or spill something. It quickly becomes part of their vocabulary. My grandson would hold his spoon, say “oops”, and then throw it on the floor.I’ve also been on the other side of this phenomenon:Some years ago, before my mom died, we were talking about foreign language use at home. She spoke in her parents’ tongue, Slovak, whenever she wanted to communicate with her sister and have us not understand.I said to her that the only words that I remembered her saying was something that sounded like “Yezus moy, marry mackabosa.” She was abashed and embarrassed. She said those words meant “My Jesus, Mary mother of God”, and were used as swear words. (I guess I knew they were always used in anger or frustration, but I had never known their meaning.) She seemed horrified that she had used those words so often that even though I didn’t know what they meant, I remembered them.
Is it my imagination, or are Indian children really loud?
I'm not trying to be rude...although I'm sure I sound it... It just seems to me that when I'm shopping or out and about, if I hear a child being loud and out-of-control, often times the child is Indian. And while the noise doesn't really bother me (I have 3 busy kids of my own), the parents' response does...they do nothing. The kids will be running around, screaming, having fun in the store...much to the demise of the other shoppers, and I never hear the parent try to stop or discipline the kids???
How to deal with naughty neighbor children?
have one of those squirty plant watering things to hand when they're over.. then when they step out of line. Squirt them in the face whilst screaming "ENOUGH!!!".. Then just go back to acting normally.
If I name my son Zed, would kids at school make fun of him?
Name your child a name you like. Don't worry about other people. I named my kids “boring” names that have been top ten names for decades. Why? Because I love those names. My stepdaughter has a very unusual name. As far as I know, she's the only one in the world with that name. She loves it. Nobody teased any of them much more than normal. (Even with the name Ann, I got teased a bit, it's part of being a kid-I'm not talking about bullying, which is different)A few things to consider: unusual names sometimes require explanations. People mishear them, and so they must be repeated a lot. People may not be able to spell it easily. And, a name starting with Z means your kid will stand at the end of the line in elementary school, back with all the Zachs. :). You’d think people would remember it easily but it seems the opposite is true. An unusual name doesn't stick in the memory banks as easily as a common one. So know those things going in, and if you have the patience for it, name away.If you are going to get irritated every time somebody says “Sed?” Or “Zeb?” Or “Interesting name, is it a family name?” “Zed? How do you spell it?” “Zed, you mean like the letter?” or any number of questions, then rethink. Because you will hear those questions a lot, forever.Zed sounds cool to this American. I don't associate it with the alphabet, so it's just a unique name to me. Where did you come up with it? ;)
Why do kids make fun of me so much? and how can i stop it?
I know where you're coming from. I too was bullied when i was younger. First, try and talk to your parents about what's been going on and maybe they can talk to the principal at your school, and if that doesn't work maybe you could consider home school. (That's what my parents did for me when everything hit the fan). Another alternative is you could practice with someone on what to say to stand up to these mean chicks and/or guys and when you feel good and ready - let it out. Also try and find a way to block them if they harass you online. I would suggest blockpages or turning off the IM if it's the chat thingie on FB I hope this will help you! Good Luck! :)
Bragging Parents and Childless Couples.?
As a Childless couple visiting your friends with kids, do you ever get tired of their bragging? I have alot of friends with children (my wife and I are waiting) and whenever we visit, the parents cant help but talk about how exceptional or how much smarter their child is than most other children. I am always polite and agree, but in all honesty, it is beyond tiresome. I understand being proud of your kids, but seriously, while their kids are great, there is nothing as far as intelligence or development that really sets them apart from any of the children of my other friends. I would never say anything to them, but do you experience this and does it irritate you? For once I'd love to have a conversation about something other than how their kid was the youngest kid on the planet to ever walk.