My roommates/friends are rude and mean?
Hey I recently moved to New York from Georgia for volunteer service for a year. I get paid a low stipend but it’s great work for the community of Hispanic people. I recently received my masters in public administration. So I hope to find a professional position soon. Well the point of this post is that....my roommates/friends are very rude and mean. They make fun of my accent and upbringing. One of my friends said I didn’t know how to read. They make fun of me for not knowing certain food dishes. They consistently underestimate me and make it seem like I am unintelligent. I don’t know everything but at least treat me with respect. I put up with it because I can’t afford to live on my own. Which I would prefer to do. I may move back to Georgia because I can’t take the people here in New York. Being around unfamiliar things isn’t great. I thought my friends would make it better. But I again, I have to dea with this because I don’t have anywhere else to go but back to my hometown.
Why are rich people so rude?
I hate to generalize, but when I was in my late teens I worked as a delivery boy and mop guy at this shop on 5th avenue so I know exactly what your talking about, the worst was when this guy physically tried to put his garbage in my hands, like it was nothing. Some rich people are weirdly racist too, this black girl I worked with got put down all them time over nothing, like every so often, a high income customer would address her and they would speak in jive, genuinely believing it was appropriate, though she was also a medical student so the joke was kind of on them. I also hear rich people tend to be the worst tippers, I had a teacher who used to bar tend at a country club in the Hamptons and he actually made less money off of tips there then he he did bar tending in the working class areas of Queens. To be fair though I know a few rich people very well and they're actually really nice, I think it boils down to your background, those fifth avenue types are typically very waspy and entitled, exclusionary, old money, have mistresses, cleaning ladies, constantly travel, never really worked much, But I find with wealthy people who come from non metropolitan/average Joe back grounds like 3rd generation immigrants, while still sometimes flashy and excessive tend to be more humble, as far as their personality goes. But no group of people is perfect.
Why are kids at school so rude?
I would go out of my way in school to be friendly to people. I even shook hands with one person. A lot of people refuse to talk to me. I was upset but now I don't care as much. I have even tried to ask teenagers around my age (16-18) why they will not talk to me. They won't answer or tell me to f*** off or something. I have a few friends at school, all girls. For some reason, the guys at school absolutely despise me and I don't know why. I seriously don't want to be friends with any of these people now, but I still want to figure out how they tick? Why do they act so rude? Do their parents let them run all over them? Are they all spoiled? I have heard stories and these people pretty much doing as they pleased and doing drugs and all sorts of stupid crap. It makes me glad that I am not close to them, but if I had that kind of freedom, I sure as heck would not abuse it, I would treasure it. In particular, there is this boy at school who treats me like crap. I loathe him. He tries to intimidate me and makes fun of the way I speak. He studders and talks monotone when he mocks me, and I don't studder or have a monotone voice. I have a clear and normal sounding voice. He is mad because he liked me and I told him that I can't like him because of the way he treats everyone. I don't want to be with someone who is not nice to others, because I don't want to be treated badly as well. Also, all of these black girls totally hate me, and one wanted to fight me because I looked at her. Not to be racist, but I have two really good black friends, and then the rest of the black girls glare at me every time they see me. So weird. Kids will also act like I am ugly, when I am cute and in pretty good shape compared to a lot of people these days. Not to brag, but I am not ugly. I guess they are trying to put me down, but I do not understand why people would not want to be friends with someone who goes out of their way to be nice and introduce themselves. Apparently there are "reasons" for not liking me which I apparently I am not obligated to know it's none of my business. I am apparently not good enough to know or something stupid. I think it would be my business to know because it concerns me, but whatever. Does anyone understand why these kids are so shallow and rude for no logical reason?
Why would someone walk into a friend's home without knocking?
People have different upbringings. After living in Israel then coming back to the US I retained many Israeli traits that just seemed more right for my personality.I will tell you the flip side:I expect my friends to just walk in if the door is unlocked. I don’t want to be bothered getting up.If they don’t comply I will usually take longer and longer to let them in each time until they comply.Just eat my food if you want - don’t create an awkward situation. Chances are it is there for you. Just don’t be a cock and eat something you know I love… and expect to be called a cock when you do with out knowing…
Why are Parisians so unfriendly?
Unfortunately, I agree with you. I say unfortunately, because it's such a stereotype, the cold, haughty (and racist) Parisians. But this has been my experience, too. I can't answer why they are the way they are, but suspect it's a superior air that's related to insecurity over the way that the French language and culture are in decline in the world. I don't think that American culture is better than French culture at all, and I love the French language and French literature and art, and I just wish that the Parisians would loosen up a bit. They seem rather sour. If you want to see beautiful and warm people with a beautiful city go to Rome, or almost any other Italian city. If you mangle Italian, they'll still smile and praise you. Yes, I'm an Italian American, so I guess I'm somewhat biased, but this is an opinion shared by all my well-traveled friends. Another thing is that the Italians really seem to enjoy life but don't seem to be doing it in a self-conscious, strained way as if it's an art form. And they do it in a way that includes others, doesn't exclude them. Spend your Euros in Italy and by-pass "the gray lady" as Paris is called.
Is it rude that I don't want to befriend anyone who is friends with a former friend of mine that really hurt me in the past?
Not at all. I do it all the time. Back in my home town people looked down on me because I couldnt afford the way of life they lived. I was talked about and treated very unfairly by many people there so much I moved to another city. I have been very happy ever since because people here in my new city range from millionares to homeless people so there is a wide range of people to mingle with. Peple from my hometown are always asking about my whereabouts and how I am doing but I always tell my family members to tell them I said it is none of their business. And when they look for me on Facebook I just politely delete their requests. Please remember this one thing if you dont remember anything else I say… People in the past need to stay there!!! If you let them follow you to the present they may sabatoge it God forbid. So keep them in your past and enjoy the now moments with now people. They dont call your now moments the “present” (which is a gift) for nothing Hope this helps
Should I forgive my friend for hurting me?
My ex bestfriend moved out of our hometown for college, and a year later I moved out to the same college with her. We both had our own place, which I diding mind. We had been friend since 11th grade and we are in our mid 20's. To make long story short, once I moved she started to be rude and mean to me. I thought we would hang out and be there for each other when we needed eachothe but it was the total opposite. She would just hang out with her boyfriend at the time and would totally ignore me. Once our lease ended in eachothers seperate apartments I thought we would move in together but nope she forced her bf to move in with her. The last thing that got me so upset and hurt was on my bday I had a lil party and she did not show up. That really hurt me my own "best friend" could not go to my bday party. I did everything for her, I would always go out of my way for her. Anyhow I stopped talking to her about 2 years ago, and now that her bf broke up with her she started texting me and facebooking me. She wants to hang out and honestly I really dont care too. Is that bad? I feel like I lost total interest in that friendship. She hurt me so much and left me on my own when we were suppose to be in this new city having the time of our lifes. Im glad to say I have been on my own and done everything on my own but the times that I needed her she was not there for me. Should I forgive her and hang out with her? Please let me know your opinion. Thank you :)