Why am I always angry around my mother?
I would imagine that both you and your mother are trying to get something out of your relationship, but your expectations aren’t being met.We humans are such silly creatures. We think we’re super good at knowing what other people are thinking and feeling, but we’re actually really bad at it.I can’t tell you why things happen within you, but if we were in the same room I’d ask you the same question I ask myself when I get angry: what is it that I’m expecting to happen here? Or: what need do I have that isn’t getting met?Getting curious about our needs can help us understand why we feel things like anger, or joy. Knowing what makes you happy and joyous is just as important as knowing what makes you angry.I can’t tell you what to do here, all I can do is tell you what’s worked for me in my relationships. When I stop blaming people for how I feel and really look at why I’m feeling the feels I feel, then things become much more clear.This works for my upset over silly things like traffic or other people’s bad programming code. Who knows, it might work for you and your mother. ;)
My parents are always angry for no reason. why?
Julie, I really admire you for what you go through but understand this. All families are dysfunctional to some degree because we live in the flesh NATURALLY and this life is AGAINST Scripture. I don't want this to be a preaching moment but a teaching moment and I am NOT a pastor but a father or two GREAT daughters and both are now married and I could not be prouder as their father. Your job in your family is PRAYER. Sound weird I know but GOD needs someone to intercede for YOUR MOM & DAD and it is usually the most less likely family member because He chooses the foolish things of this world to confound the WISE. It seems to me, your parents minds "are PREOCCUPIED" with as you said minor things instead of being focused on THANKS GIVING for the GREAT things and wonderful daughter they already have. God sees such "thinking" as ungrateful and you can be the positive Catalyst to change they WAY your parents think. Get your prayer life going with open mouth genuine prayers and listen to what you pray for when it comes to your family. What this will do is warm your feelings more so to your parents and when they criticize or belittle, you can embrace and smile without adding a bad word. This will confound what your parents think NATURALLY and place YOU on their minds. Once you get on their minds by FAITH, you are in control of their thought life and they can even pray with them and don't ask them just DO IT. That will really confound what they think and you are on the road to victory. Just watch the changes happen supernaturally in you and in your parents.
Why is my mom always angry with me?
Why is my mom always angry with me?It’s very difficult to tell you why your mom is always angry with you because we don’t know either of you. We don’t know if your mom is a fairly normal stressed out mother or if she has mental or emotional problems. If she has a mental illness, she needs therapy. If it’s just that she’s stressed out from raising a child (or more than one child), she’s like a lot of mothers. They can get into a bad pattern of always feeling angry. She might be feeling overworked and underappreciated. Maybe you can have a heart-to-heart talk with her. I empathize with you. I found living with parents very difficult.
My mom is ALWAYS angry at me ... and we never get along ... help ?
I am 13 & I've been having problems with my mom lately. She's always in a bad mood, and she's always yelling at me for something. I tried talking to her, but she is NOT the type of person who sits down and talks things out. Unlike other moms who just calmly tell their kids the problem, my mom will blow up on me, then refuse to talk to me for a few days. Her behavior has been really bad over the past year. I know she's getting put under a lot of pressure since my dad's drinking problem has worsened over the past few years, plus she works the midnight shift at work. My mom is always screaming and cursing at me if I don't do something right, and sometimes she will hit me if she's really pissed. I feel bad because my mom blames me and she says I'm the one who causes all of the family problems. Several of my aunts and cousins have even said that she needs anger management. I understand that she's probably under alot of stress because of my dad, but I just can't take it anymore.
Why is my mom always mad at me?
So my mom would always get mad at me if I question her on something i dont know or have problems with. I grew up not telling anyone about my problems and just trying to figure them out myself. When we moved to my parents home country I didnt understand their language so I kept quiet. Since I was the only one who spoke english I got bullied and stuff for years but I never told my parents cause my big sister ran away a bunch of times and my little brother was still a baby. We moved back here in California I was so happy but I got used to being anti social so my mom gets mad at me. When I go home from school (my high school has a college campus. My classes are far apart too) and I'm really tired and lay down on my bed. She tells me shes tired and I'm useless, clumsy, an idiot, lazy, and why arent I the top 1 in all my classes (I have straight a's).(she doesnt have a job) I do chores, babysit and never get the time to do homework or study (I do them at school) but I dont get allowance. When I ask my parents if I could buy new clothes or stuff (I'm taller than her and my sister. She gave me my sister's old clothes) she says no but if it's my brother she buys him everything. And she buys new clothes only for HER. My dad gave me a phone cause he said I'm responsible enough but she keeps disaproving. My aunt,grandma, and sister told her that I should have one so I happily kept it. Now we are moving back to their country and I REALLY dont want to but I have to. What do I do?
Why is my mom always mad at me?
I am so sorry that you have to go through this. My mom acts the same way but worse. She always curses at me for the smallest things and she doesn't seem to care about how i'm feeling. Just today, she asked me to open a can of beans and cook them. so I asked where is the can opener and she said, S *I T, I don't know look for it! And im like, gosh, all I asked is where is the can opener. She makes me feel like I'm this horrible person, when I know I deserve so much better than how I am getting treated. I hate that we don't have a tight bond... that's my mother. it should be happy times... not confusing and hurtful. I don't know why you mom or my mom pushes anger out on us... it sucks.. but all I can do Is pray that God mend our relationship and to help us not fight or argue all the time. A lot of times I just cry to myself and write down how i'm feeling. And you have to encourage yourself because if you don't you will always feel down... Also, don't rebel or be disrespectful. Remember that is still your mother and you have to show respect. If anything don't say anything and just do what she says to avoid arguments. And pray for better days.. I hope everything works out well with you. God bless you sweetheart.
Why is my mom so angry at me all the time?
HEY SWEETIE I CAN RELATE TO YOU... MY MOM IS THE BIGGEST CUSSER AND I CAN JUST BE WATCHIN TV AND SHE WILL FUSS FUSS FUSS ABOUT NOTHIN. I DO WAT SHE SAY SHE SAYS IMMA BAD CHILD BUT I TTELL MY MOM IM NOTHIN LIKE THEM KIDS ON MAURY SHOW THEM HOT GURLS. WHEN MY MOM CUSSES ME OUT AND TELLS ME THINGS I DONT LIKE TO HEAR IT MAKES ME CRY AND I BE VERY HURT AND IT MAKES ME WANNA DO BAD THINGS WHEN SHE FUSSES AT ME. THEN WHEN SHE SEES ME UPSET THATS WHEN SHE WANNA PLAY AND IT PISSES ME OFF!!! AND ANOTHER THING MY MOMA DOESNT TRUST ME ANY MORE BECAUSE I HAD SEX BEFORE AND IM THE ONLY GURL IN THE FAMILY BESIDES MY BROTHER SO I GET THE FUSSIN AND CUSSIN THE MOST SHE WONT LET ME GO OUT SHE WONT LET ME RIDE MY BIKE OUT HERE IN THE APPTS OR SHE WONT LET ME HAVE COMPANY WHILES SHES GONE AND GUESS HOW OLD I AM ???? IM 17 ABOUT TO TURN 18 LIFE IS A LIVIN HELL HERE I KNOW THIS ONE BOY I WAS IN LOVE WIT MY MOM DIDNT WANT ME WIT HIM BECAUSE HE WAS FROM THE HOOD AND SAID HE WASNT NOTHIN AND LETTIN U KNO IM BLACK AND YEAH I TOLD HER I WANTED HIM SHE SAID WE WAS NEVER GONNA BE BECAUSE SHE WOULDNT LET US SHE SAID SHE DONT CARE IF IM 24 HELL IM GROWN THEN I CAN DO WATEVER THEN I DONT FEEL LIKE IT RIGHT TO CONTROL WHO U BE WITH BY THE AGE OF 18 UR LEGAL THEN U CAN DO WATEVER SO YEAH I GO THREW THE SAME ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS MOTOVATE UR SELF SWEETIE TILL YOU GET OUT UR HOUSE GIVE ME UR NUMBER SO WE CAN TALK AND MAYBE I CAN HELP YOU BUT YEAH DONT GIVE UP SWEETIE YOU CAN DO IT BELIEVE IN YOURSELF OK LIKE I DO SHE PROBLEY HAD A BAD DAY AND TOOK IT OUT ON YOU BUT I DONT FEEL LIKE THATS RIGHT TO DO WHEN U DIDNT DO N E THING BUT I WILL PRAY FOR ME N YOU OK SO I HOPED I HELPED OUT TO SHOW YOU THERE R OTHERS OUT HERE
My Mum always takes her anger out on me for no apparent reason?
hey my mom does the same thing. whenever she's angry with my brother (which is most of the time) or with my dad she takes out her anger on me! and i understand you; it's hard to stay calm when you're being yelled at for NOTHING you did. but i eventually got tired of it and told her to stop. and she did, for now. you need to talk to her. stand up for yourself because she's obviously being unfair. if it doesn't work, i'd recommend you to just shake it off your shoulder. I mean, if you could try to understand her somehow...maybe she's in a stressful situation or stresses easily. Maybe it's not her intention and she's really stressed out and maybe you just happen to enter the kitchen and she calms herself off by taking her anger at you. You shouldn't take it so offensively if that's the case (stress).