I can't get her off my mind. Does this mean I am in love or is it being foolish?
That is definitely not love. Let me tell you about lust and love.Lust means the desire to satisfy your own mind and senses. People may say they love someone but when asked about the reasons, we get to hear these answers"He is a nice person and I like his personality" "I like him just because for who he is""Because he takes care of me""He gives me what I need without raising his voice""She is the prettiest girl I have seen and I like her nature"This is not love. This is nothing more than being in love with your own desires and feeling some kind of appreciation for someone who fulfills your desires . And of course you may feel obliged to do something in return to satisfy their desires. It's like saying "You scratch my back, I will scratch yours". This is nothing more than a business transaction wherein you have defined the property of your subject and when your subject acts according to the property, you "feel" loved. Wrong. You feel your lust is satisfied.However, if that person stops satisfying your desires or does something to disappoint you, your feeling of Love changes its form to anger, regret, depression, hate and eventually, separation.This is Lust. This is both sexual and asexual in nature. This is called "Moh" and from "Moh", "Bhram" is produced. This Bhram traps the mind and makes you think you are in love, while in reality, you are in Lust. You are lusted by your own desires. You are lusted by what you think you want in order to feel being loved. The moment your subject changes behavior (and of course h/she will in due time), poof...that feeling is gone and what you are left with is regret, anger, hate and sadness.This hankering and lamenting of the mind is what causes "Maya"O son of Kunti. All "Maya" have a beginning and an end and so the wise men does not delight in them (BG)Then what is love?Love is the feeling which emerges in your heart, when you lie in a detached state and think about the time, place, people, memories that gave you warmth. The reality is understood in the absence of your subject. When the subject is no longer there to distract you and your mind enters a state of trance and still feels affection, that is love.
Married and in love.. but fancy someone else?
Keep in mind that I don't know you. So this is based solely on what you said and nothing personal. I just wanted to give you an answer from a different perspective. You'd be surprised by how many people flirt without thinking anything of it. I do it all the time with people that I have no intention of ever actually dating. It sounds cold, I know, but it's human nature. This guy probably doesn't have any feelings for you at all (cold, I know). Of course that is only one possiblity as I don't actually know either of you. He may even flirt with you, because you're dating one of his friends. It may be his way of boosting his own self-esteem (if so then don't ever flirt back). You're probably attracted to this guy because he shows you attention that you want from your husband. Talk to your hubby about doing more romantic stuff together. Be with him more often and the other guy will leave your mind. Also, get a hobby. You may depend to much on male attention, because you don't have anything for yourself. If you kept yourself more satisfied you wouldn't look for it elsewhere. BTW is anyone else sad by the number of people on here that are having affairs?
Am i fool for wanting this guy? (im 18 hes 35)?
He is notorious for telling the ladies what they want to hear, but im believe him. I do not want to go into detail, but he excites me more then any fine guy out there. He is pretty well known in his career and very popular. Very successful. He is not the best looking guy I have been with, but I find myself only wanting him. Most girls my age just want to get with the major hottie of the day or whatever, but they don’t even attract my attention. I feel very odd for liking this guy. I am 18 he is 35! BIG AGE DIFFERENCE I know, but I have always been more attracted to older guys. Just never thought this old. Could this just be like a major crush? I mean I feel stupid cuz I cant get him off of my mind. Everytime I see I have a new message I get excited thinking its him. But when its not I get sad. Lol He says things to me that I have never heard before.(and I have heard a lot haha) I get all clammy talkin about him or to him. When im with some guy friends I just wish I was with him instead
What does my small engagement ring mean?
My fiancé and I have been together for three years. This past Valentines day he proposed. I was very excited and of course said yes!! However for the past few months Ive been very bothered about the ring he got me. I’m def. not a gold digger, but I feel like “what the heck!!” Since we have lived together (2 ½ years) We have made many purchases together adding up to a total of about 100k!! We have all new furniture, new big screen TV’s, He has a brand new sports car, and makes close to 60k a year!! Were great together and I love him to pieces I just don’t understand why he went so cheap on my ring. It’s a 1/3 of a carrot Solitare in a simple band, costing less then 300 dollars!! His family is in the jewelery business so he gets everything at 60% cost. I know it’s not about the money.. But seriously that’s the amount of money we spend on a nice dinner out!! I started crying one night in front of him and he didn’t understand… I don’t want to hurt his feelings but feel embarrassed when I show my friends my tiny diamond… While his 50K sports car sits in the driveway Please Help need some advice!!
What could it mean if you were dreaming about the same person nearly every night?
The reason you could be dreaming of this guy every night is because you're probably not over him, and your mind is subconsciously bringing this up to you in your dreams because you can't be with him in reality. If you still like the guy you have two choices; tell him or let it go.
I dreamed about a man I like. Does that mean that he's thinking about me?
The thing to remember about dreaming of another person is, it is not that person. It is you. All characters in your dream are you. The person in your dream comes from your mind. While your mind may be conjuring up a fairly accurate version of that person if you know them well, you are still limited to your brain's understanding of that person, not that actual person.It is more common and more likely that your mind's vision of that person is nothing like that person at all. It may or may not be your wishes for how that person might respond. It may even be your brain using an image of that person to represent something else to your consciousness. So not only does it not mean she thinks about you too, it is not even her. It's you.
Does a Married Man Like me?
This might sound weird/messed up but I'm going to say everything honestly. I don't have interest in this guy except as a friend of course because I am not a home wrecker and a cheating man is not something I exactly fancy. So this guy I work with is about 2o years older than me... He's really nice and everything but I don't know if he's trying to hint something to me maybe? This is what he does; - Smiles at me a LOT - Every time he sees me, gives me a hug. - Touches my shoulder/arm a lot. - Always making sure I'm healthy/alright(I'm pretty sure that's just caring) - Whenever I joke around saying "you came to visit me?" [when he's at the job when he's not working) he says "No, you were just a bonus." - Always complimenting my eyes, and saying I'm cute when I blush/embarrassed... - When we talk, most of the times he's EXTREMELY close to me. See, I don't mind the hugs and everything cus I love hugs... but I just don't need to be in the middle of something bad like this. :/ And like I said, I only like him as a friend and I am not a home wrecker. What are your thoughts and opinions on this? Do you think he's trying to hint maybe he has an interest me? Is he just playing around? Or what? He never does this to any other girl at work and he seems to pop out of no where and visit me which I don't mind but it makes me wonder how that happens... No, I haven't asked him if he likes me because that would be REALLY awkward... and... I wouldn't feel comfortable. So yes, answer away if you don't mind! (: