When a man whom you have feelings for is angry at you does it mean that he hates you?
Absolutely not. It means he cares enough to have feelings about you. From a woman's point of view, the most important aspect of a man is that he be absolutely gone on her. Any sensible woman knows that the time will come when she's got the flu, she's pregnant out to HERE, the other kids are leaking at both ends, the house is hip-deep in diapers, and she's too sick to do anything about it at all. If he's really smitten with her, he'll stick around and help her through it instead of running off.That said, every man knows that a woman can give him the joys of heaven right here on earth, but very few realize that she can make him no happier than he makes her.It's so simple to make a man happy that my wife can explain it in under a minute. Note, I didn't say "easy." It's simple to walk from Maine to California - put one foot in front of the other, repeat until you get there - but it's far from easy.There's no simple formula a man can use to keep a woman happy. If, however, he opens his heart to her as sincerely, as deeply, as widely, as patiently, as attentively, as often, and as gladly as he expects her to open herself to him, they will come to belong to each other over time. Once they belong to each other, each of them can give the other a taste of the joys of heaven, right here on earth.If you want to move things along, you could look at what my wife told me before she'd date me and while we were dating. What she said made me want very much to marry her. What My Wife Told Me Before We Were MarriedIt worked - we've been married since 1971.
Feeling indifferent towards my husband....?
I did so much for my husband, left my family for him, got a place for us when he came back to the country to stay with me, like a list of things that I can go on, loved him like so much, but he doesn't treat me like how i should be treated, he is very disrespectful, i cant take him to a social gathering because he will embarrass me, he doesn't greet my parents nor my friends but remains quiet and distant, and only talks to ppl of his interest. He complains all the time, and barely ever appreciates me.. I feel like i made a mistake marrying him, but idk how i could get out of this because my parents are on one end ready to watch me fall so they can laugh at me and feel good about me being hurt and my husband on the other end just not becoming better. He is not the kind of person i thought he'd be after marriage, i do not like who he is as a person... i am actually missing an old friend and am starting to grow feelings towards him and i know it isn't right but the way my husband is i do not even feel like being with him.. getting out is hard staying is also hard.. what is the best thing to do according to islam when a wife is not happy and her husband is just too difficult to deal with? salam
What should I do if my husband doesn't bother or care if I cry?
I'm in this same predicament… For me, I cry when I'm feeling overwhelmed or unappreciated or just flat out alone doing everything by myself. It seems as if they provoke it, they know exactly what to say or do to make you feel exactly the way I described above. Instead of holding you in their arms and telling you everything will be okay they laugh at you or tell you to stop crying or don't even care to react at all. But expect you to hold them and talk to them while they cry. Relationships aren't double standards, and if she is crying for attention who fucking cares if she's not getting what she needs from him in other ways being consoled is one of the best and easiest ways to feel better about your situation. Being hugged and told everything is going to be okay is sometimes all a person needs.
My brother doesn't want me to be a part of his life. Should I accept the indifference of my brother?
You must understand that just because people are “family” related by blood, that does not give them a default Loyalty and Love setting. Family can be as different as if they came from different parts of the world! There are many, many, siblings, parents, aunts, cousins, etc who are selfish and self-absorbed to the core of their beings who don’t (actually literally CAN’T) feel much of anything for anyone else in their family or the world around them. Some are simply born narcissistic. Sometimes they grew up with the impression that they were more special than others.Some family members are just that way and it has NO, zero, nada, zilch, bearing on how lovable or worthwhile YOU are. It is simply the way they are. And the sooner you accept that fact and begin to fill your life with people who ARE capable of love, and able to feel love and respect for others in the world, the happier you will be. Don’t waste your time moping about your brother. He’s not worrying about you. Life is far too short and the possibilities of kind interesting people, happiness and fulfillment YOU can find for yourself is endless. I wonder if it is possible for you - now in your early thirty’s - to move out from “under the same roof” as your brother and go live in your own place? There is an old, and true, saying “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” Apply this wisdom to your life.Ultimately, in the long run, they (these naturally self-absorbed) people will get back the same amount of love and respect they gave to others. God always levels the justice out in these types of people’s lives. I had a very selfish, childish, immature family member who was never nice to anyone in her family except her two favorite grand-daughters (who could do no wrong in her eyes) And interestingly, the granddaughters she favored above all did not once go to visit, or comfort her at the old-folks home where she spent her last years. (Hmm, like attracts like?)When she died, all alone in an old-folks home, we did not even have a funeral for her because there was nobody who would come to it. We had her body cremated, and gave the plastic box of ashes to her favorite grand-daughter (of the two she favored) to dispose with as she wished. The moral of the story: This person didn’t expend herself for others and in the end she died as she lived - alone.
I don't think my boyfriend cares about my feelings, and if I try to talk to him about that, he turns it around somehow so he looks like the victim. Why does he do that? How can I stop letting this affect me?
Look at where you're starting:"I don't think my boyfriend cares about my feelings."Imagine if someone close to you said to you "I don't think you care about my feelings."Of course he's going to get defensive. If you DO care, that really hurts. My experience has been that many young men and some young women, when faced with the sense that they've disappointed their partner, tend to withdraw if they don't know how to fix it. The kicker is not to talk about what HE is doing or not doing. The kicker is to talk about *what you need from the relationship.* Examine what makes you believe he doesn't care, and just flat out ask for it in a calm and.Example: "Hey, could you ask me about my day sometimes? I feel loved when someone wants to know and seeks it out. I'm not the type to just talk about it."Or: "Hey, I'm feeling angry about something at work; I'd like to talk to you about it."If he still makes himself out to be the victim if you're asking for something directly and with no accusatory tone, then you have a deeper issue that requires you to have a hard look at what you need out of a romantic relationship.
Is it right that my husband constantly compares me to his ex?
She was his first realtionship, I am his second. We are totally different people, she is a partier, didn't do right by her kids and gave up her son to my husband. Anytime we disagree on anything he brings up she did this or was this way or let him do this. SHe cheated on him which was the fianl straw in their relationship. I am now married to him. He is a person who wants everything his way and apparently she gave it to him. I don't believe any healthy relationship should be one-sided. He says he is over her doesn't love her, but to be honest I am sick of hearing what she did or I do that she din't. How do I tell him to leave that in the past, to realize we are not the same person? Its to the point I really am not even caring anymore