Single parents:do you want your kids to move out after age 18?
I would actually prefer my children to live with me after 18 (or at least have their permanent address at my home in the case of living in a dorm). The reason for this is because I want them to go to college and get a degree (or more) and it would be so much easier for them to either live at home or in a dorm room while going to college. I don't know many people who can easily make it on their own while attending college. Of course there are loans but I think it would be nice for my kids to go through college with the least amount of debt possible. Of course if they join the military I would support them and be fine with them moving out to be on base. I will never allow my child to just be at home with no job and no education. But if they are attending school or trying to save up some money for a down payment on a house, I would be fine with them staying at home.
I want to move with my dad? parents are divorced. please read.?
Okay hon, you will get a lot of advice on y answers but you have arrived at an adult point in your young life. Yes, it will hurt your mom's feelings... she may seem mad because it upsets her, but remember...your father has been hurting, missing you too. Make sure you are ready to deal with that then go ahead and talk to your mom. Be sure you involve your mom in all your plans once she gives the go ahead. Be considerate of her feelings too. Things may not turn out to be quite the way you remember them. Our memory tends to play that sort of trick on us. Think very seriously about the whole thing. I think you have done some good thinking thus far. You might want to throw in how much you love your mom and that you know you will miss her. Also, mention a long vacation with her next summer.....better yet, maybe trying it out with dad for the summer would be easier to take for everyone right now. Your mom will miss you if you go live with your dad, no getting around that. If you are really sure that you want to try it, enlist your fathers help. Be very reasonable with your mother and expect her to react emotionally. I would be upset if my daughter wanted to move away. GOOD LUCK
Why do my parents say I'm lazy when I'm really just tired?
I know how you feel because my parents are like this as well, no matter how much effort I put on things, I’m always lazy and stupid.Last year I moved to Japan (came back a few months ago), sometimes I used to work for 36 hours straight with monitored moments for bathroom, meals and zero rest, but for my parents I was lazy, complain to much and I victimize myself to much.When I moved back I moved to my parents house cause I still cannot afford a rent (Brazil’s crysis is hitting on all sides, so everything is over taxed/priced but salaries got lower). As consequence: we are arguing to much and I’m not fitting on my house anymore. Also, I think (not sure) that my mom has NDP and my dad is in her total control, when I asked him to keep somestuff secret between us, he told her every detail.I’m still uneployed and spend most of my time doing house chores or studying, so I’ll give some tips of what I do:Think about why you are tired! - Even thinking and worrying a lot can take a lot of your energy, believe me! I have Psoriasis and Disidrosis, both for worrying and getting stressed. I know that I’m tired also because we argue all the time and they diminish me a lot, the stress they cause is tiring, right?Try getting out of home: can be a job, a new studying group, or even volunteer. Being out of home, away from my parents can refresh your mind, keeping yourself busy can help your parents seing you as lazy.Try to do some yoga poses and meditation. There are several videos and books to download about those subjects, this is kind of helping me, and why not give a try?Have people to support you, even internet friends. Yes, it helps a lot, I have a small group of friends that we have controlling parents, we kind fo help each other there. I don’t have family anymore in Brazil, just my parents and most of family who are living abroad (Japan/USA, etc) have somewhat a ressentment or being hurt by my mother.Get a hobbie. I like paiting, sometimes I draw figures of my mind of how I feel, not bothering what people will think about it, like “Omg what an ugly drawing.”Give you time as well. Never forget about it, sometimes we need to cry or vent.Sometimes when I want privacy, I close my door’s room and pretend I’m studying. If your parents are invading, like mine, is better you have a note to pretend you were studying.So those are a few advices I can give you, I told you my story so you can see that I have something in common with you. Hope it can help.
When should a child move out of their parents house?
By answering this question I’m gonna assume your between the age of 18–25?I believe there is stigma in America for moving out at 18. False.You should move out of your parents house when you feel ready to move out.But that’s the tough part.When you feel ready doesn’t mean waiting till 36 and feeling like now is the good time. Feeling ready is when you have some-what of a stable income and can provide for yourself (for the most part).Moving out when you feel ready does not mean leaving when you have a long period of feeling comfortable. I suggest leaving home the moment before you begin getting too comfortable.I personally believe the sooner you can financially leave the better for two particular reasons:You’ll learn to become more independent.You’ll taste the real-world and be consumed by daily challenges.My kids technically moved out at age 17/18 for college, but they moved back in after school and stayed still they were between 22 to 26 (I have 5 kids).My husband and I didn’t put any pressure on them, but we made sure they found a job, and started saving some sort of income so that when they were ready to move on, they’d be able to.BUT…If your not going to college and simply want to “grind” and work 24/7, you get a long with your parents, and you don’t feel restricted living at home, then by all means, stay at home till when ever.You’ll save a TON of money that you could be spending on more important things, like your first house!Once you have a sufficient amount of income saved, rent an apartment. This could be at age 23 or even 27. It all depends on the situation.
What age should a person move out of their parents' house?
my brother lived at home for free no rent nothing..until he was 44 years old...now thats tooooooo long. it depends on the maturity and where the person is at. if they obey the parents rules and pay their own way or pay rent and help around the house and obey the laws and not cause trouble then I think they can stay until around 25 unless they are attending college full time or like you saving for a home and paying down debt. as long as you pay your way at your parents, pay rent buy food help around the house...then I think your fine for just a couple more years. but around 27..time to move on out! at 18 you're an adult by 27 if you havent got your act together then its time to get out there and fall on your face and get right back up. wise people learn by their mistakes...you may need to make some mistakes down the road and put your nose to the grind stone sort of speaking...if you fall, just get right back up and keep going..
At what age did your parents let you drink alcohol? When will you let your kids drink it and why?
In the U.K. it is legal for children to drink alcohol with parental supervision from the age of 5. That’s not a typo; not fifteen, five.I had sips of my dad’s beer or my mum’s wine at that age or earlier. Alcohol never held a forbidden status, and as I grew up I had wine with beer or shandy (beer plus lemonade) or hard cider, mostly with meals. Consequently I never felt the need to get wrecked or to go mad with binge drinking.I knew how alcohol made me feel and I was entirely capable of embracing moderation.With my own four children, I did just the same. They could taste alcohol whenever they wanted to, it was always available and it was never a big deal.Now my kids are all adults; three of them drink responsibly and never to stupid excess, one doesn’t drink at all because she hates the way it makes her feel.
Why can’t most of the Indians marry without their parents’ consent?
Well your Question has the answer I guess. Because we are Indians.Unlike the Westerners,We have been brought up by our parents. Till the age we start to work and be independent we have been guided and supported by our Parents.We have been taught the moral values and follow our culture, all time.We are emotionally attached to our Parents and vice-versa. In fact we , almost every Indians, are very attached to our family and friends. Since childhood till college , everything for us is being decided by our Parents. It’s not because they don’t want to give us freedom or something like they want to control us. Its more like they think they know the best for us.Having faced many odds in their life, Indian Parent’s wants the best for us. They are skeptical when we decide to choose the life Partner. What if he/she is not the one for their child ? Almost all parent’s think the same. Caste, religion, might not be the issue for the same as they know that almost everyone from this generation has open mind about these. But sadly not all Parents are. They are scared. It may take some time to completely accept the inter-caste,love marriage. Compared to decade ago, I believe that we are much able to talk to our parents with open mind now.P.S It depends on the place and culture where we have been brought up. The westerner’s have been brought up in way that they are free to choose anyone, marriage or not it ain’t a issue.
Why do American children leave their parents?
I'm American; my parents are dead so I won't be caring for them. My grandmother (my Nonna) lives about 18 miles away. I visit her every weekend and bring my children over to her home to play with her and enjoy dinner. I call her just about every day on my way home in traffic. Two of her adult sons, one of her daughter-in-laws and one of her daughters live with her. Occasionally, another grandchild will live with her (she has 8 grandchildren; 6 live nearby). She also has a bustling home. My mother in law lives one block away (and my husband purchased her home for her) and she lives with one of her granddaughters (in college) and her ex-sister in law. We see her every other week and she has 3 other children who see her equally as often. With 12 grandchildren hosting birthdays at her home she's busy every month ... So she has a bustling home. My father-in-law lives about a mile away. His built his home as a duplex. Two of his children live in the other home on his property; and 6 grandchildren as well. He lives with his girlfriend. Whenever he needs the noise of 6 grandchildren and 2 kids plus 2 additional in-law children he steps outside his door. While we may not necessarily take care of one another we make it a point to be a family. They are my best friends and I am theirs. When someone is in the hospital there is a waiting room full of people to visit; and it's all of us. When someone has a baby that person doesn't lift a finger for weeks because we all help cook and clean. We are a pact. Now - whether this relates to my families background? I'm not sure. My Nonna is Swiss-Italian with very close knit families. My in-laws are Hispanic, also with very close knit families. I hope that makes sense. Best wishes.
Whats the reason for you to get out of your parents house?
i want to get out as soon as possible because i cant endure all of their nonsense. Just because they are my parents doent mean they can say i am at fault when i am an innocent. Both of them are persisntent as hell even when they arent correct, they are right even though what they say isnt correct, and correcting them is called lack of respect.
When do adult children start to appreciate what their parents did for them?
Children will appreciate what you did for them when you stop doing it. To ensure children have a realistic expectation of what should come next in their life development, that should be established earlier on. When children leave school and get a job, they may live at home for awhile until they find their first accommodation. However they should understand they are now independent and required to pay their way in life by way of room and board. This establishes their independence and self esteem.As a teen I was chomping at the bit to become independent. I wanted to make all my own decisions and just get on with things. It was understood that I would be required to pay room and board and share the maintenance of the home. That seemed very fair to me. When graduation day arrived my mother announced my Room and Board was now in arrears, meaning I had to get a job to pay that. Jobs did not come quick in those days and I actively pounded the pavement for a month before someone wanted to hire a Grad. I paid almost my full salary to my mother for arrears in board and money she provided for the job search. That made me feel like a bona fide adult. It raised my self esteem like nothing else.During my work life on a few occasions I made some not so good decisions and occasionally found myself financially embarrassed. However, the rule was to never borrow money from family or friends. I always found a way to meet my obligations. On a few occasions when I struggled to pay my mortgage, my mother and a close friend offered to help. I was happy for their kindness but, I made this mess and I was determined to fix it on my own. And I always did. This is what parents deprive their children of when they give them access to their deep pockets. The children have no reason to find their way through problems in life. As a matter of fact, they don’t even understand how to prevent problems in life. Why bother when they have someone holding them up?At the time my mother told me I was in arrears I thought she was as tough as old hobnail boots with me. But, those words spurned me onwards and lit the appropriate fire under me. I love her for it and came to deeply appreciate all her sacrifices in life to help me become more appreciative of what she done for me growing up.