Why do men stop doing the sweet things they used to do in the beginning of a relationship?
Men do lots of sweet, romantic things at the beginning of a relationship to impress women, so that they will consider them as relationship material. They know women love to be treated as special. The things they do (cooking lovely meals, massages, buying impromptu gifts) are occassionally at much inconvenience to themselves. So once you are already in a relationship together, many men are unable to maintain this behaviour and moreover feel there is no need to continue. This is short-sighted , however, as it fails to consider that if he uses such behaviour to win the woman, the said woman is going to expect the treatment to continue, and may be a significant reason why she entered the r'ship in the first place.
Why does my boyfriend continue to do things that he knows I don't like?
Because he's not you. I'm serious. Don't get your panties in a twist. I know it's very, very frustrating for you. (why can't he do just one simple thing right? why don't he care about how you feel? why is he trying to make you angry?)Chances are, he cares about how you feel and he does listen to you. He tries to stop doing that thing you don't like, when you tell him to. But then things revert back to normal, because that's his "normal", that's how he's been behaving his whole life until he meets you. It's ingrained, and it will take some more "training" (gah!) and maybe, only maybe then, he will be able to stop (and that's if he wants to). It's tough to change someone's beviours or way of thinking, and in most cases it's impossible. it's not always rainbows and butterflies, it's compromises that move us along :) I'm sure you have habits that sort of annoy him too. Or, you know, if he's doing it intentionally just to get you angry, it's because he's a dick.
Why does my husband keep doing things he knows hurt me and our relationship?
We are creatures of habit, literally!! I presume your husband has done this more than a few times.Unless if he suffers from bipolar,is a narcissist etc then its a totally different story. If not then pay attention.To understand the roots of the problem and why he keeps repeating this behaviour, you have to ask yourself this question, What action do you take everytime he does this to you?Your answer lies in that question. I am quite sure he is used to hurting you because he knows you are a pushover! Everytime he does this do you sweep it under the carpet? He needs to know how it makes you feel, what its doing to your relationship, but above all let him this is unacceptable, that you wont stand for it.The minute you accept to be treated like it then expect to feel like trash, because there is no action or confident voice from you.Relationships like that will ruin your self esteem. Make you feel unloved or unwanted.You have to sit down with him. Explain how it makes you feel. Explain how you would want to feel. What needs to be done so you are both happy. If its that bad there is always relationship counselling.But dont expect things to get better without you taking action
What do I do if my bf keeps doing things I hate after telling him to stop?
I’m assuming whatever he’s doing, it’s things to you personally. Maybe personal/intimate things.If so, let him know that stop means stop and if he continues to treat you with a lack of respect then you’ll simply dump him and move on. And mean it.You’ll get the behaviour you tolerate.So he needs to know that there’s a line he mustn’t cross and he needs to know that if he does cross it then there will be consequences.If he values your relationship and he respects you, he’ll stop.If he’s just an immature asshole you may have to dump him.It’s perfectly reasonable to expect people to treat you with respect.Good luck.
Why does the GOP still support Trump despite him doing things that they accused Obama of doing such as abusing executive orders? Many of the things Trump is doing (such as the national emergency declaration) would outrage the GOP if Obama tried it.
Why does the GOP still support Trump despite him doing things that they accused Obama of doing such as abusing executive orders? Many of the things Trump is doing (such as the national emergency declaration) would outrage the GOP if Obama tried it.First and foremost most Republicans understand the need to secure our borders, it may be the single reason many voted for him to begin with.Secondly, President Trump telegraphed this move in advance, he said repeatedly that if he did not get what he needed through the budget that he would use whatever tools he had at his disposal, up to and including declaring an emergency.In contrast, President Obama said 22 times that he did not have the power to take executive action on illegal immigration. President Obama went so far as to say he was not an emperor or a king, insinuating that only they had that kind of power, he then went on to create DACA, writing law that should have required Congress and granting amnesty to 690,000 people in the country illegally.The point being, if Democrats did not turn on President Obama after that SNAFU what would make you think Republicans would turn on their Commander and Chief?https://www.washingtonpost.com/n...Katie Pavlich - His Own Words: Obama Said He Doesn't Have Authority For Executive Amnesty 22 Times
Im getting married and i dont trust my fella i think he still seeing his ex?
Certainly you need to work out the trust issues before getting married. You said he has never been unfaithful, how do you know when he kept seeing is ex behind your back. He already broke your trust by doing this. In my book he has to now earn your trust. You gave him your trust and he broke it so saying he doesn't see her anymore doesn't prove his trust now!! Explain to him you are having doubts, explain to him how it makes you feel having these doubts. If he makes some comment like... "I love you and you have to trust me" then he has more to hide than you know about!!! You can't just trust someone whom has already gone behind your back and broke that just. This is something most men just don't understand!! and I said "most" not "all". Maybe he has stop seeing her but he casted the doubt and now it will be there until he can prove it never will again. Watch for other red flags but don't try and catch him in anything, if he is doing other things they will show up without looking for them.
What are the little and big things that guys stop doing in a relationship that you gals wish we would continue
Opening doors for us, pulling out our chairs, holding our hands for no reason, brushing hair from our face, complimenting us on the way we look or what we're wearing, and asking our opinion before committing us to plans with other people.
What should i do about a husband that does things behind my back?
Depends on what it is. If it's something like going golfing one afternoon when he shoule be at work, I'd let it go. We all need time to ourselves from time to time. But if it's something like going to a strip bar and then lying to you about it, that's another story. I believe that whenever someone feels the need to lie about something they've done, it's because they feel that it was wrong to do. Ask yourself, "is he thinking about your feelings"? You're in a marriage. Honesty is the most important ingredient to a healthy marriage. But remember... it's not okay to try and control someone either:)
Is it wrong that I've asked my boyfriend to stop doing something that makes me uncomfortable and upset?
No. I know you care about your boyfriend, and you don’t want to offend or upset him, but if you are not ok with something that makes you uncomfortable and upset. I mean you matter too! It is your life. A boyfriend is supposed to care for you, protect you, be your ally and if he is causing you discomfort or other negative feelings YOU HAVE TO speak up and address it. Even if he doesn’t like to hear what you have to say. What is the alternative? For you to just take the abuse? Or harassment? Boyfriends have to make us feel happy, and relaxed, and if he is making us feel bad or like you say upset, there is an issue.The truth is when we date people, we don’t really know their bad sides, people have some weird likes and that can sometimes be a deal breaker in the relationship. Some guys like to be slapped and beat up by their girlfriends, (not saying that is the case for you, I just know about stuff like this goes on) and I certainly wouldn’t and couldn’t see myself with someone like that. I am nurturing and caring, too much to do something like that to someone I love. So please don’t feel bad for speaking up. Sometimes people are not what we expected in the beginning. The worst thing that can come from this is you two break up. Ok, maybe it will hurt, but at least you didn’t have to do things that you were not ok with just to keep him around. If that is all he wanted from you, then he only wanted to use you. That is not love. Please take care of yourself. It is ok to say no to the ones you love. Love yourself first. Be treated the way you expect to be treated. All the best