Why should we respect our parents?
respect them for what they've done for you. It takes a pretty big screw-up for them to have done absolutely nothing and the bad has outweighed the good. But I actually see what you mean. I'm the one who brought my kids into the world, I'm their mother and I owe it to them to do the best I can for them. Sure, there are supports and services etc in society and schools and everything, but there's no substitute for a good mother. If I crapped out on them things would be a lot tougher for them, and that's a horrible thing to make their lives. I'd like to think they'll always appreciate what I do for them, though, and respect me for what I have done. But at the same time I don't demand it of them. If I've done something to lose their respect then that's going to make my job as a parent much harder, because if they can't trust and respect me enough to let me guide them, that makes it rougher for them. It's a 2 way thing, respect. I'd also like to think they respect me enough to be honest and open, even if what they say isn't something I want to hear. And if we disagree about issues, then we disagree. That shouldn't have anything to do with respect. Respect that's demanded is not true respect. It's politeness, and simply means to hide yourself and your thoughts from that person. Respect that's earnt is respect. And true respect is deeper than any petty moralizing etc. But don't forget there's a difference between respect and trust. Have you given your parents a reason not to trust you and have mistaken that with not respecting you? Different issues entirely. Trust has to be earnt too, and as parents we can't just let our kids do whatever. It doesn't mean we don't respect them. It means we just need extra reassurance that you're OK.
Why should we respect our parents?
It must be our natural duty/responsibility to respect parents as parents give you birth, love you, rear you,educate you unconditionally. Parents don't expect anything in return from children for caring them/feeding them/ educating them. Parents wish always that their children would do well in life and be useful to the family and society. So if you are grown up children doing some job and started earning, keep talking to your parents regularly,share with them some good experiences you had in day to day life . Remember, talking to parents over phone if you are in different place once in a while say weekly once should make you and your parents happy. Parents also should make it a point to talk to their children whether young or grown up. You show your respect/concern to your parents by your words and deeds also. For example, if you are doing a job and busy when your parents call you, tell them that your are busy now and you would call back later once you are free. Don't ask them to call you back later at so and so time, instead tell them that you would call yourself once you are free. Telling your parents that you would call back and call them as promised would mean that you respect your parents wholeheartedly. These are small things, but reinforce mutual bonding which is necessary in leading a meaningful life for both the children and parents alike. Talking frequently would avoid communication gaps between children and parents.
Why should I respect my parents when they don't respect me?
Respect is a two way street, but it's going to be hard for an older person to understand that concept because back in the day, respect was a one way street (Children HAD to respect adults but adults didn't have to respect children). But anyways, if they really do disrespect you, then tell them how you feel because sometimes we aren't aware of when we disrespect someone, and if they continue to disrespect you, show them how it feels and disrespect them back. LOL here's a funny one, the next time they say "Respect your elders!", just shout back "Respect your YOUTH! After all we are the future!!"
Why should one respect parents?
No you should not.*It is going to be long. So please be patient.*I saw a puppy all ill and sick shivering in winter. I love puppies. I brought it home. Got him treated. Took his care. I got attached to him. Kept him with myself. Spent my resources and time on him. It was for me and my happiness that he was with me. I must say that the dog was dumb. I trained him. All this was done selflessly. I was happy to know that he has learnt things.Would he ever bark at me or hurt me or attack me ? (Disrespect)Would he not react if I were attacked by someone in front of him? (Apathy)No.And believe me I didn't bring that puppy up for this. But yes, it is expected out of him.You say, it shouldn't be. Then you shouldn't expect a customer to return to you despite giving him everything he wants. You cannot expect your boss to be considerate despite performing best at your level. He is paying you to work. You cannot expect your employees to take some non-compulsary steps for your company's welfare despite giving a great salary and perks. He is working the much he is required to. Why shall he take extra-pain?Was it my duty to bring up that puppy?There can only be the following two answers:-No. I could have let him die. You were not obliged to bring him home. (Similarly, it was on your parents to bring you in this world. You could have been aborted. Why a mother needed to bear the pain?)It was my duty to save his life. Not to get attached to him and spend my resources on him. (Your parents could have brought you in this world and then it was on them to leave you at your destiny ).You cannot say if I saved that puppy's life.. I'm obliged to spend my resources on it. So it was not their duty. My first point.Secondly, you should respect almost everyone. There is a difference between disagreeing and disrespecting. You can disagree but disrespecting isn't something really meant for.‘It' was a child who was born. They made you ‘he’.Atleast be a dog, if not human. Well I shouldn't use this phrase because these days dogs are being better than humans.But I said that you shouldn't respect your parents. Isn't it?Yes. You shouldn't respect because you want to run away your duty. Or you don't value your life. Or you won't want yourself to be respected by your child. Or you feel you can live the world without respecting anyone. Or you feel that you don't deserve to be respected.Now it's your choice where you actually want to stand.Thank you for reading so long. :-))
Do you still respect your parents even if they don't respect you?
Do you still respect your parents even if they don't respect you?I can answer regarding my dad.He doesn’t really respect, perhaps, anyone. As a child, he emotionally abused me off and on, depending on his state of mind at the time. I tried to argue when he was unreasonable, but it never worked. (For the record, my mom was in no position to get us away. I will not explain why.)One day, when I was thirteen, I won an argument with him. I won it with force of will and force of logic combined. I do not remember the content, but I will remember forever the stunned look on his face and the feeling of being forever freed from thirteen years of emotional abuse. I never lost another argument with him. Not one.At the time, I still respected him… as a threat.Fast forward six years. My parents went through a messy divorce. Police were involved more than once for restraining order violations. My mom knowingly didn’t get her fair share because my dad was fighting tooth and nail for every tiny thing. My mom was trying to get out in once piece and with her children unscathed. It wasn’t going to happen, but she tried hard and it helped a lot. I will always remember who put crystal goblets first and who put me and my sister first.I broke all contact with my dad, as he had become a much bigger threat.Five years after that, he had gotten some much-needed psychiatric medicine. He began trying to mend fences with me. It took two years for me to begin talking to him and two more years before I’d let him meet my kids. As I became increasingly confident that he wasn’t dangerous, I tried building a respectful relationship with him.You know what? When I send emails with kid updates, he doesn’t read them. He doesn’t return phone calls. He visits on holidays, and talks about how much he knows (how to live my life better if I follow his advice). He never tells me what’s up in his life.I talk to him with the respect due every human being. But that’s all I can do. I can’t respect him as an elder, a father. I can’t treat him as a role model. I can’t add him to my life in any meaningful way. More than basic respect is earned. He hasn’t earned any.
Why should I respect my parents? They don’t even treat me like their child. They treat me like I’m their worker/maid.
I know it sounds like bullshit right now, but they might want to give you life lesson by doing so. They try to show you how the world out there really works.Say you are an adult now, you move out from your parents house and be independent, so you work to make sure that you can cover your own basic needs (food, shelter, clothes, —also transport, electricity and wifi perhaps)…guess what will happen next? Someone else treat you like their worker/maid. They expect you to work hard. Rings a bell?How your parents treat you right now might just be a simulation to prepare you for what awaits you down the road.Imagine if you are clueless about house work, for instance, cannot wash your own clothes, clean your own den and cook your own meal…you will end up spending your last cent to buy $10 food that will cost you $2 to make, and spend your remaining dollars for maid, drycleaners, etc. You can save a lot of money by doing these on your own. It will be more disasterous if you dont know how to cook and cannot afford to buy food because your employer fired you because you cant keep up with (hard) work. Imagine that.By being your parents’ maid now, you become used to hard work and perseverance. Hence, when it is time for you to do your actual work, you will be able to advance faster because you are used to hard work already.Now, all these happen because your parents treat you like their worker/maid. They train you. I think for that alone, you should respect them. You cant see the future, but perhaps they can.
Should I respect my parents when they don't respect me?
My parents believe that crying is weakness and when I cry, they will yell at me and force me to stop crying. For instance, one day they didn't allow me to go to the bathroom or bed until I stopped crying. From that day I stopped crying in front of them but I used to cry when I was alone. They believe that I became a mature person. I don't say my parents are bad coz they give me everything I need. I believe that love is mutual respect and mutual trust. Though my parents don't care about my emotions, I always loved them because of the respect they gave me and the trust they have on me. I always wanted to make my dad proud so I always did what he liked and didn't do anything he disliked but he seemed to not care about the sacrifices I make for him. He was never proud of me. I finally gave up and started being myself. I stopped braiding my hair once a week, started hanging out with my friends and started texting which I didn't do before because they didn't like it. I never did anything that was wrong. I never let them down because they trusted me and respected me. A few weeks later, my dad checked my phone. He saw my photos and texts and told me that I became a characterless girl. I feel betrayed. I feel like they didn't trust me or respect me. I don't have the love, trust, or respect I had for them. I feel like I am their vassal. What should I do? Should I act my whole life being who I am not or should I not care about them? Thank you so much for your help!!
My parents don't respect me. What should I do?
It's ok to complain about a situation you don't like. It sounds like you and your parents are coming from completely different view points and at the moment it doesn't sound like you are being consulted or included in decisions which affect you and you're starting to get angry about it this. I think this is a reasonable reaction. You don't say how old you are. Sometimes parents need to make decisions which their child doesn't agree with but ideally they still make an effort to understand the child's feeling and point of view even if they can't always do what the child wants them to.It might help if you talk to them about how you feel. Since I don't know your parents however, I can't say whether they will listen to you. Try and stay calm and avoid making accusations and talk about how you are affected by what they do. You will know by their reaction whether they are willing to work on improving your relationship.If they are not willing to listen I would suggest you seek support elsewhere. This could be a teacher, other family member e.g. Sibling or aunt, a friend or a counsellor (maybe at school or at college). You may have different opinions to your parents but it sounds like you need someone to listen to you. If you are older you may be able to work towards more independence from them. If you want to you can work on rebuilding your relationship with them later. Sometimes a bit of distance helps the relationship.
Why should I respect my parents if they don't respect me?
I'm not saying my parents are disrespectful, because they aren't (for the most part). This isn't about me; it's something me and my friend have been discussing. Where did this "children should respect their parents no matter what because they gave them life" idea come from? It's complete B.S. if you ask me.
Why should you love or respect your parents?
Well obviously no one knows your life so we can't really say much on this :/ but if you know in your heart that it's time to leave, then go for it. Eventually you'll see them again and I bet they love you so much and just want whats best for you. But I guess you also have to grow up eventually!