Why are there so many single mothers lately?
Liz everything you wrote is so true. And you said it better than i could. Its getting out of control lately. The fact we got mothers teaching their daughter they don't need a man is the wrong advice. How about just grow up take responsibility for yourself and don't just trust everybody. If you find yourself in a terrible situation take some responsibility. My dad taught me that. I can't just blame the woman cause my life didnt work out the way i like it. Sad that more women don't take responsibility cause the mean as one use put it "will just be dead beat fathers" no matter what they do? I hear a lot about dead beat mothers but no finger pointing.
Why do single men without children go on dates with single mothers, then tell her after the date that they don't want to date someone with kids?
I’ll answer this from the other side. I’m a man with children. I have three. I have an unusual parenting schedule. Any woman I have dated knows immediately that my children come first. Now, after a little time I’ve made a concession here and there. The first few years I never missed a weekend. Never. Now, after 7 years I might miss a few per year and fight for make up time. Also, their mom will take them on trips where I’ll miss a weekend. I do not want the kids to miss out on a ski trip or other fun excursion so I don’t put up too much of a fight. I’ll plan “us time” around their schedule. “My Kids will be away X days. Let’s get away and do something.”Women with kids understand. Women without kids or empty nesters understand…at first. Eventually, it wears thin. I get that. My relationships with women without kids never worked out and it was always about the kids, my time and what I put myself through to get time with them. I enjoyed those relationships as each one enriched me in some way, but I have no regrets.To answer your question, I had one woman with whom I had a great relationship who did not have Kids say to me, “I think to myself, he is good and kind. He has amazing emotional intelligence. He treats me great. We have such a great connection. Why should I hold it against him that he has kids?” Ultimately, she was trying to sell herself on me and clearly put my kids in the negative column. It was not the only thing that broke us up. I have to take responsibility beyond the kids, but in the long run, she would never be able to relate. She had never dated someone with children before me. We had a great connection and she thought she could get past it, but she couldn’t.My current (and possibly last) girlfriend has 3 kids, each a couple of years older than mine. She is very understanding of my situation and aware that I give our relationship all the attention I can. I’m lucky we found each other. I should tell her more often.
Why are women so picky these days?
Now, im sure we can all agree attractive and average women are very shallow, superfical and way too picky when it comes to men, even women my age are very picky (im 30) But why are they like this? Im on a dating website plentyoffish.com, i send out messages to alot of different types of women, i get very little responses, and when i do, they would stop talking to me after a few emails. I even had two of them, replie back after me sending a message to them the 1st time, they would actually give me their #, and i never even asked for it. Now i dont like talking on the phone, so i would text them,they would respond, i would text again and i wouldnt hear from them again. WTF? What is it with these games they play? Why give me their # to begin with? Even at age 30! They still do this stuff. I dont get it?? Some of u may say why not try to meet them in person, well nothing happens there, im the type to let them make the first move, i belive in this day in age, women should approach men. Im tired of doing the chasing and getting shot down, its stupid. What is it about me women have an issue with? Heres a link to my profile on the dating website and can you let me know? I knwo im not attractive so maybe thats why? http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=28348274
Why do some single men regard single women in their late 30s and 40s as "damaged goods"?
I don't know if I would call them damaged goods, so to speak. Here's what I will tell you about the women I met in their 30’s, that I would deem as negative. Most have been around the block, when it comes to guys. In other words, nothing you have will impress her. Your cute, she's been with a guy that looked like prime Brad Pitt. You got a big dick, she's been with a guy that was as big as Mandingo. You have a good job, she dated a millionaire before etc…. If she's still good looking deep in her 30’s and was never married, I suggest you keep moving. Nothing you have will ever win her over, even if you do happen to get her. She's tasted better, and all she's doing is settling and having fantasies of the guys she use to get in her physical prime behind your back. She's not stupid, she knows she ain't getting any better looking. So she chose you.Now, if she was divorced after a long marriage. This is not the case of damaged goods at all. I would suggest these women over the 40 year old women who are still single. They are either going to be extremely picky and high maintenance or they have hooked up with alot of men over the years. Which is what I'm guessing you mean by damaged goods.
Why are there so many single moms in America?
There are many reasons for these statistics:couples splitting - not every union works out, and largely females get custody of kidsonly one parent remains - if the other parent becomes deceased or loses parental rights (abuse, incarceration, addictions); unmarried people are counted as single parentscouples not marrying - reasons vary from tax implications to custody arrangements to prenup agreements to personal decisionsmarrying age - statistically, females are better off having offspring before their 40th birthday, so if a female is still single by that time, and is well-to-do (stable career, home, savings, etc), she will be able to have a child on her own, and that's exactly what ends up happeninglack of planning - here, it's the portion of the kids which are unplanned, however mothers choose to keep themadoptions - parents can choose to adopt a child, thus becoming a single parentsocietal pressure - linked to the marrying age point: there was a time when a single mother meant either a female of loose morals or a female who had lost a partner, and societal pressure was to see a female duly married and "taken care of", well, it all changed since females now can work and take care of themselves, thus eliminating a hassle of a relationshipYou also have to take into account the difference in the population - unless we're talking about China or Russia , there is no population equivalent to US, thus more of everything will happen here: from seemingly large proportion of single parents to greater number of companies. (Just an example).
Why do single mothers hide the fact that they have children?
Here’s the thing… and I have personally watched this happen…Lots of men are interested in just having a good time. Hit it and quit it. Likewise, lots of men want a woman with a clean slate. Having “trophies” is the exact opposite of a clean slate. They don't want a ready made family and, as much as it makes them an asshole, they’ll be wondering whether the single mom is even worth spending time on… after all, the last guy got rid of her… I know, right? What an asshole to assume that. But that's how it goes sometimes.On the flip side, single moms don't want to be hurt, they're vulnerable, they're aware that there are a lot of predators and other such human waste, and they want to buffer their kids from that crap.Once in a while… my wife’s aunts case for example, the woman will deny she has kids because she’s self centered and will, at the drop of a hat, ditch their kids at their mothers house and run off with whomever wags a dollar and a dick. Luckily this is a very small percentage of women.I’d say most women hide their motherhood for the sole purpose of protecting them. Even if the guy is obviously not a predator, there's no telling whether he’ll stick around once he knows you have kids. You don't want your kids getting used to a ‘new daddy’ only to lose that one, too.It's scary being a single mom. Us guys should give them a break.
Men, Would you date a single mom?
I personally wouldn’t. For various reasons but two major ones. 1. Theyre More of a problem than an asset. 2. Women’s stock for me drops exponentially when she’s a single mom than it would be if she were single with no child or children. That being said there’s someone out there for everyone and you can still find love. If you’re a single mom though you should take what you can get. It’s not a time to be picky.