How can I identify two–faced people?
Two-faced people are manipulators. There betray some very telltale signs -A manipulative person is self-seeking, pure and simple. He thinks only of his objectives, he considers no method wrong when it is the question of getting what he wants. He doesn’t care much about ethics/morals/gratitude/loyalty. He doesn’t have emotions for others. He is also sweet, a good talker and cool person. He is selfish. For him, ends justify the means. If he has to trample upon others to achieve his goals he thinks it is just fine. He lies conveniently and can build a wall of lies that can last a long time. He is better than an average lier.Traits of a manipulatorA person fakes goodness just to manipulate you. How can you uncover a manipulative person?Manipulators are soft spoken.They never lose their composure.When they speak to you, they are all sweetness.They bring in all sorts of tangential points to confuse you and thus blunt your thinking mind.They have ready answers to all your doubts & questions.They magnify the potential advantages to you. Actually they make you feel gaining everything and they, losing to you.They can argue in such a way to put your words back in your mouth without you realizing it.After the event, you look back and find nothing gained except being taken for a ride.They talk as if they were living exclusively for your benefit.When you seek some help or other, they cry a lot. Then they explain their inability so eloquently that you come away feeling extremely sad for hurting them.You can’t catch them in one incident, you will have to keep track of how many times you ended up with empty hands, after you had been dealt with.Now, you can see what are the above attributes applicable to you. I strongly suggest you read the books - Progress of Julius and The Turncoat (Dahpne Du Maurier)
Why do people hate hardworkers?
You have to find a balance in life. Yes its good to work hard and be ambitious but you have to open yourself up for some fun once in awhile. The sky won't fall if you make conversation with some coworkers. You never know when you may need a favor. Good luck.
Will the quiet ones ever get promoted?
Career management is a two way street. Your manager should be looking out for you, but you are also responsible for making sure that everyone knows what your goals are. Managers don't always know what's in your head if you don't articulate it, and he or she may make the wrong assumption that you are perfectly happy being a productive worker. Schedule a one-on-one with your manager. Express interest in being promoted, and ask what you need to do to get to there. You should get some good feedback, so be sure to action it. Then, when the next promotion season comes, you should either be promoted, or take that as a sign that you need to move on. Additionally, if your company has a posting for the job description or a criteria for title (associate, VP, etc.), then take a look at that and see where your gaps are. Do you need more training? Do you need to take on another project? Do you need to oversee something? Whatever your development needs are, go action them. Success should follow. Good luck!