Why did I cry during sex? I'm so embarrassed?
In an effort to spice up our sex lives, my girlfriend and I began to experiment with BDSM with me on bottom. At first it was light. Just handcuffs and getting a few spankings which was okay but she wanted more. This time, she tied me to my bed and gagged me and then we had sex. She was very rough throughout it - she pulled on my hair and even spat on my face at which point I began to cry. She told me later that she should have realized that I'm too immature and young to handle it and said she's sorry and let's just do it normally from now on. Now I feel even worse. Why did I cry? It was okay in the beginning. I am 17 and she is older than me by 5 years.
When a trans woman (MtF) starts estrogen HRT, how soon do physical changes begin, and what shows first?
This is dependent on a lot of factors. But let me tell you what I noticed first and how soon.The first day I felt nothing—other than excitement, but that isn’t because of the hormones I don’t think. Or at least, not in that way.The first week I started noticing emotional and mental differences. I started crying for no reason. I could feel emotion—I don’t know why, but testosterone seems to dull my emotions, like I was feeling them through a thick fog.The second or third week I felt like I was in love. My skin was getting soft, my troubles seemed to disappear, colours were exploding out of every scene. I was walking on clouds. What’s weird was that around this time my sex drive died—good riddance.Then week four… I got my first period. I’m not joking. I didn’t bleed, but good god! I was bloated, irritable, I snapped at anything for no reason. I would watch sappy movies just to cry and get it out of my system, but that would only help for a few hours before I had to watch another. I was a chocolate addict—talk to me and not involve chocolate, I dare you.Two months later I started noticing my nipples were getting puffy, and they were SUPER SENSITIVE. I was never into nipple play before that, but suddenly walking around in a stiff breeze was making me weak in the knees.Third month, I started discovering a side to me I didn’t know existed. I was getting emotionally aroused. That feeling I only had after sex, that was becoming my arousal point. The more someone or something turned me on, the more it felt like that. I loved being touched, and kissing suddenly felt like the zenith of my existence—a bit dramatic, maybe, but that’s how it felt.By six months I was starting to show real breast growth, the hairs on my arms and legs and tummy were getting thinner (though never thin enough in my opinion). My pants were suddenly snug, and touching my bum felt… just wow.I can’t tell you if these things happened as a direct result of HRT, but I can tell you I started discovering more and more of myself as a result and that led to me noticing these things.I’m sure other people’s experiences differ, so really it’s about your own journey.
Why does my teenage daughter cry? When I ask her why she says she doesn't know.
I can’t say why your daughter cries, but I cried almost everyday when I was a teenager. When asked why I couldn't have told you most of the time. I still go through periods where I cry frequently cry in public for little or no obvious reasons.Now with another decade of experience with my temperament and life I know a few things about why I cry now and why I cried back then. I cry when I am stressed. When things get stressful I get extremely anxious and I get the weeps. When I am in one of these periods I can cry at the drop of a hat and cry for hours. It's particularly bad right now because I am back in college and I end sitting in class with tears streaming down my face. Everyone stops to ask if I am OK. I find this annoying either I AM OK and I won’t be able to be able to convince anyone that I am because there’s a saltwater river permanently attached to my face. Or I am not and I don’t feel like having a heart to heart with an acquaintance in the corridor. Besides people don’t usually don’t care that much they ask because public crying makes them uncomfortable. Public crying makes ME uncomfortable ( and then I cry more), but there’s not a lot I can do about. It is possible that daughter is tired of answering questions about her crying and has found that I don’t know mostly makes people stop asking.I also have a predisposition for depression. When I am having a depressive episode I also cry quite a bit. As a teenager I also cried because I was bullied. Because hormones made my life a misery, and because I had frequent debilitating headaches, but at the time I didn’t really know or understand that these were the reasons I was crying. Even today when people ask me why I am crying I often don’t know in the moment. I have to take time to think and reflect for me to know why I crying and sometimes the answer is still I don’t know I just can’t stop.
I'm a 14 year old Christian girl, and I can't stop doing the same sin constantly! any help? women especially!?
I grew up in a very Christian home and go to church and youth group regularly. but for nearly the past 2 years I have had huge trouble with one sin in particular. I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it because I'll get judged, or if it's my parents, in immense trouble. I've been trying to deal with it on my own. about 1-2 years ago, I read a book, and at a certain part, it describes a girl masturbating. I was curious and tried it myself. now, I find my self constantly wanting to touch myself. I do at least once a week, if not more. I really want to stop, and I try so hard. some days, I succeed. but I feel like God isn't going to keeping forgiving me, I feel like I've been praying about the same thing but still nothing has changed. I also sometimes look at inappropriate things on the Internet. I know it is weird and wrong, especially for a girl, and a Christian, and I really want to stop. I feel like satan has control over me. today really pushed me over the edge. I touched myself in my bathroom for 30 min, after I was done.. my dad was wondering why my sister and cousin are getting baptized and taking classes and I'm not. I feel so ashamed and I dot want to do it anymore!! but I don't know how to stop!! I've prayed and prayed but I know I have to have self control! does anyone have any tips or thoughts that I should do when I get these feelings? or how I should talk to God? thank you to anyone who helps me. I just want to be pure.
I'm 17 and I got caught shoplifting from safeway?
I am an attorney and I know a lot about this subject. Do not take this as creating an attorney-client relationship. You may, however, find it helpful. In California, if you are caught shoplifting, even if not charged or convicted, the store can sue you for damages and a penalty. This is called a "civil demand". Your parents are legally responsible to pay the demand. The minimum amount is $50. The maximum is $500. In a lot of situations, there are good grounds to argue against anything more than the $50 minimum amount of the demand because the store would have a difficult time proving damages above the statutory minimum. In your case, however, if you and your parents do receive a civil demand you should pay whatever they ask and be thankful that they bought your lie that you were never caught stealing before. If you don't pay the civil demand there is a slight chance that the store could change tactics and get you charged criminally. From your post it sounds like your prior offense was put into diversion and you were allowed to get out of that scrape without a criminal record. That was supposed to be your one "free pass." By dumb luck and lying you apparently have gotten another. Don't blow it again or your life is headed for a train wreck. You get charged again and diversion won't be available next time. Oh, and take that order about staying out of the store without your momma seriously. If you disregard it, you can be arrested and charged with criminal trespass.
I am a 17 year old guy. I cry at nights due to overthinking and thinking of the people I've hurt and lost. How do I overcome it? Is it normal?
You will never have such strong emotions at any other time in your life except during adolescence. That aspect of growing into an adult is very challenging, and young people should be warned about this emotional explosion starting in about fourth or fifth grade. Throughout the process of adolescence to the mid-twenties there should be reminders everywhere from parents, teachers, coaches, medical/psychological caregivers and public service adds so that young people can't go more than a day or two without being reassured that their emotional challenges are normal. If there was more emphasis and awareness about this natural part of growing up, there would be, no doubt, a huge drop in suicide, etc. I repeat; you will never again feel as sorrowful, as angry, as frustrated, as hateful, as lonely, as afraid, as passionate, as joyful, and as "spiritual". It is one of life's supreme ironies that young people have to deal with the most overwhelming emotions they will ever experience at the same time they are expected to become educated, make career decision, begin driving, make choices about sex, drugs, alcohol, smoking...Not just "ironic" but truly unfair.When you are in the grip of an emotional storm, it is so difficult to keep telling yourself that the intensity of what you're feeling is due to changes happening in your brain. That's because you will be reacting emotionally to issues that ARE real, it's just that your emotions are far more intense, out-of-proportion to the events. Because you are experiencing these emotions so intensely, your mind tricks you into believing that the events or experiences that provoke your emotional responses are far, far more significant and overwhelming than they actually are in the objective reality of life.Hang in there. Talk yourself through these episodes and talk to a counselor or parent. It gets much, much better.
Did you ever see your mother cry?
Yes, my host mom. She raised from 13yo-17yo. I love her, she is a good example of successful person to me. She would go to bed at 10 and get up early to do the dishes. Going to gym and back home for some coffee. Taking us to school and go to work.One day, me and brother were doing our homework. She was doing her project for her clients too. We were at our hardship, business just started. Sometimes, we have to eat top romans for meals. She cried all of the sudden. She said she felt defeated. We calmed her down and gave her a massage. That was the first time I saw my mom cried who was a life model for me and still is.I left 2 years ago. And they went through the hardship. Their business is grouping, bought themself a house. Good relationships with her employees. I admire her.
Boyfriend got a concussion during football? Homecoming?
Soooo tonight was out homecoming game and I was watching my boyfriend play football and after halftime, I noticed he wasn't out there. I looked around and saw him and his family and went over and they said he most likely has a concussion. If they took him to the E.R. tonight, will he be feeling better by tomorrow night for the homecoming dance? I'm really upset right now and I feel so bad for him..
Am I depressed or just overreacting?
I am a 17 yo girl and I have not been feeling good for a month or two. I have lost all sorts of energy physically (running out of breath from just walking up stairs and things like that), I have lost interest in doing things that I previously enjoyed, it is very difficult to concentrate on things such as Netflix, music, or short stories that I used to love to read. I have been way more tired than usual (although this is a v common trait in teens), I have headaches quite often that when brought to the doctor, lead to nothing, I have been really sad and almost everything irritates me. I'm just hoping for some answers. thanks