Do men judge women more on their looks in terms of potential partnerships than women do?
Do men judge women more on their looks in terms of potential partnerships than women do?When compared to men do women consider the "looks" lesser important than "qualities"? In other words, would looks rate as the topmost priority for a man more than a woman when looking for a partner?Yes, for better or worse. Not by a lot, I should say, but men generally look upon visual cues more so than women when it comes to looking for partner.As far as my knowledge and experience goes, men are more instinctual when it comes to recognizing potential partner by looks, because visual cues often translate to signs of better fertility and/or higher sex hormones, both in men and women.Telegraph UK: The science of sexiness: why some people are just more attractive— Excerpt from the article[…] Studies have also shown that women partnered to men with symmetrical bodies have the most orgasms, and those with symmetrical breasts are more fertile than those less evenly endowed.Even female swallows prefer males with symmetrical tail feathers as they hunt for superior genetic quality and developmental stability. […]Body shapeJust as there is an ideal ratio for finger length, it seems that humans are programmed to quickly sum up the bodily measurements of a future lover.Again these are based on genetic clues which we are unconsciously gleaning from bone ratios.Men prefer a waist-to-hips ratio of 7:10. Hip width and breast size are important factors in fertility, child birth, and rearing, so there's definitely an evolutionary connection there.There are plenty other things in the article that you could read on regarding genetics and attractiveness.Update 27 July 2018: For some reason, the attached article is now locked inside a site membership.In summary, both sexes actually see many visual cues in looking for potential mates, but men are more wired to do so, since many of the signs of what makes an ideal female, are shown visually so much more.Of course now in the modern world, people—men and women—are slightly less concerned about physicality, and would look into other things such as personality, habits, life priority, confidence level or anything else believed to be a quality of good partner. But I believe it is still a matter of biological hard-wiring as well, on why men seems to be more concerned about looks more so than their female counterparts.I hope that helps.
Why is it that when men judge women based on their weight it is condemned and considered misogynistic but women judging men by their height doesn't seem to be held to as high a standard?
A2A. Thanks Johanna Kok!I'm going to answer this from a much more general perspective than just dating and relationships. So please keep that in mind. See I disagree with the premise of the question and it's conclusion. We have an unhealthy and rather twisted obsession with female beauty in Western culture. A woman must be beautiful, flawless, and perfect or she isn't worth much in the eyes of some people. The media glorifies it so many forms, the fashion industry promotes unrealistic and stick thin proportions, and we more and more teenage girls coming down with eating disorders because of it. We judge a woman by her beauty, and God forbid she is less than ideal or made up in any shape, form, or fashion. Sad thing is? Men don't get it a lot easier in quite a few cases because we're judged on our muscles, height, abs, and 'virility' and subjected to unrealistic proportions in the media. A skinnyman who isn't muscular or overweight guy who is not fit tend to be looked down on for not being athletic. Short guys do get held to a bad standard and do get picked on and discrimated against a lot more than what you might think. Short and fat? You're going to get a lot of grief. This isn't a matter of height ot weight, but a matter of humanity deciding to value outward appearance as a defining characteristic rather than actions and character. It's not a new problem, it's not going to go away, but it's not simply a womens issue as some might think. Being judged for your weight, height, and such are a major issue for both sexes.
Why do women judge men by their social status?
Thats what caused all the war and male violence and competition. women only want men who outcompete other men so men are forced into social hierarchy domination competition in order to pass on genes evolutionarly speaking. maybe if women just liked men instead of their social status everyone would be happier? think about lil wayne and how any woman will have sex with him since he is famous but they dont want some nerd in his moms basement playing video games. the reason is social status wayne has what women think is higher social status even though he is a clown to be laughed at and nerd in moms basement is seen as low social status even though he is probably more intelligent and a better person. i have been dating for a couple years and i just cant see ever respecting any woman since they are almost all like that. just get the sex then blow them off i say. She doesnt like you she likes your position on some social structure. And for those who ask why men are attracted to signs of fertility in women I would reply that it is obvious why and no where near as revolting as being attracted to percieved social status (thinking he is socially cool) no where near as revolting. In addition men are sstill nowhere near as picky as women when it comes to that. any woman can appear fertile if she just doesnt sit on her *** eating ham all day where its much harder and less healthy for society to have men compete with each other in social hierarchy competition. Also why are women concidered a minority when american females are the most priviliged group of people in all of history?
How do Asian guys feel about Asian women dating white guys?
It's frustrating and emasculating for Asian males. It's much easier for a White male to date an Asian female, than for an Asian male to date a White female. According to OkCupid, white females are 38% more likely to respond to a White male than an Asian male. Asian women marry outside the race at twice the rate of Asian men. The statistics for White-Asian interracial marriages in the San Francisco Bay Area are even more extreme - something like a 4 to 1 ratio for White males versus Asian males.(Source: OkCupid - How Your Race Affects The Messages You Get)(Source: Pew Research Center - Page on pewsocialtrends.org)As a result, the odds are against Asian males romantically. Not only are there fewer possible marriage prospects due to Asian women marrying outside the race, but trying to do likewise (date White females) is an uphill battle for Asian males.My experience as an Asian male bears this out. Once in a while, when meeting new people, I'll be surprised and taken aback by how friendly a lady is to me. Upon reflection, I realize what made the interaction surprising is that the lady is White. Later I'll usually discover the White female is in or has had some earlier romantic relationship with a non-White male. Given the prior stats, you can see how this is unusual.When the majority of one's interactions with members of the opposite sex are devoid of romantic possibility, it's easy to internalize the perception that one is not sexually attractive. Furthermore, mainstream media gives Asian males few role models to emulate in social and romantic situations. Kung fu moves don't count. This is emasculating for Asian males. It can breed bitterness and frustration - accusations that Asian women are betraying the race, and racial epithets in their direction like 'banana' - yellow on the outside but white on the inside.All is not doom and gloom for Asian males though. I'm rooting for John Cho in the new ABC sitcom 'Selfie'. This is a breakthrough role for an Asian male, and I believe indicative of a shift in societal perceptions, even if the ratings for the show are challenged. In recent years I have been noticing an increase in the number of younger Asian male-White female couples, as well as non-traditional interracial couples of all combinations. This will help balance the dating situation and move us towards that promised post-racial society.
Why are women only interested in a man's money and not the man himself?
I would say some do, but others don't. I think we live in a materialistic world and people are so insecure with themselves that they need to ensure that they have the materialistic things in their lives.
Who’s generally more concerned with what others think: men or women?
Thanks for the A2A, Dave Dale.Although there is significant overlap between men and women on many areas of life (meaning that we are more similar than we are different), on this issue, I’d say that women are more concerned with what others think.The reason I say this is because women have a natural in-group preference (they prefer the company of other women over that of men, given a choice), women tend to judge their world in terms of relationships, and how those relationships are going - this is used to reflect back to the woman whether or not she is “good” (whatever that may mean to her).So, women tend to want to know what others are thinking, and why, and how that relates back to her - she sees it as affecting her. What you are thinking right now, affects her! At least, that’s how I understand it to be.This isn’t necessarily something about dressing up and looking pretty, although it is easier for us men to see that, because we notice it more.It is also reflected in women sending each other cards, small gifts, texting each other, phoning each other, and generally communicating way more. This is a way of building and maintaining social groups and status, and reflects back to the woman her own standing in such a group.It also reflects in women’s “trait Neuroticism” - a Big Five personality measure that indicates that women are more prone to finding it harder to deal with the effects of negative thinking. They get mental disorders more than men. Perhaps you know a woman who “over-thinks” everything….?She’s over-thinking it, because ultimately, in her mind it all reflects on her and makes her look like a good or bad person, affecting her position in her own social circle (and thus from an evolutionary point of view, potentially putting her at risk to ostracising from the herd and therefore certain death).
Why is it ok for women to judge men for uncontrollable short height but not ok for men to judge women for controllable excess weight?
Couple of things going on there. 1. Weight is not necessarily controllable, or at least not completely controllable. It appears to be the case that people have a "set weight" that their body will tend to stay at, and it is often pretty hard to lose much weight past that point, at least for very long. And, well, some people just don't have the information (about what food is vs isn't healthy) and/or resources (healthy food costs more than cheap fattening stuff) to lose weight, even if they would be able to. 2. In my opinion, people are allowed to have whatever sexual and/or romantic preferences they bloody well feel like. Tall men, short men, tall women, short women, thin men, fat men, thin women, fat women, clowns, amputees, firefighters, people with big feet, whatever. Who turns your crank is who turns your crank, and there's nothing wrong with that (as long as you don't act on anything that involves anyone besides a consenting adult). What *isn't* OK is treating people poorly because they don't happen to turn your crank. And while it is *broadly* true that men prefer thinner women, and women prefer taller men, it is also broadly true that fat women get more crap for being fat from society at large than short men do for being short. 3. I don't think it's OK to give anyone crap for their height, their weight, their ethnicity, their religion, their gender, their sexual preference, or pretty much anything else that doesn't harm other people, and either isn't under their control or isn't something they should have to give up to avoid social censure.