My work won’t give me time off advice please?
In my job our holidays have changed. We were told we can’t book in holidays for any further than 4 months in advance due to too many people taking holidays at the end of the year. I asked my boss if I could book holidays in for August as I’m going away then and they said I couldn’t do it that far in advance. I work in a team and I found out today a woman in my team has already booked holidays in for the same week in August that I’m away to Tenerife. She said to me that I’ll have to cancel my holiday as work won’t let us both go at the same time because we are in the same team and that would leave 4 out of 6 people in our team. She’s demanding that I cancel my holiday because she’s already booked hers in and is away to America for her 60th birthday. I have gave my work plenty of notice, do they have the right to deny me a weeks holiday in August. I go away on the 19th - 28th and this woman goes away on the 24th should this be an issue?? I’ve heard of people in my work having to cancel holidays in the past due to this. Do I have any rights??
I need advice. My girlfriend won't tell me where she lives nor has invited me over and it's been 3 months.?
So i've been dating her for 3 months now and i love her to death. The thing is i have no idea where she lives. I've asked her time and time again if i can come over but she always has an excuse. She says its her like get away place so she wont be bothered by anybody. It really bothers me and it doesn't feel like a normal relationship to not know where your girlfriend lives. Like i have NO idea. i really just don't know what to do. she tells me all the time that when she's done with her room i can come over but it never happens and its been done for a week and a half now. Now she tells me when shes done gardening but frankly it's driving me crazy and i dont think i'm ever going to know where she lives. Please help someone...
Why won’t my psychologist give me advice? It would be so much easier if she just told me what to do.
If knowing what to do was the key to happiness/success, all of us would be filthy rich and beyond happy right now. The internet, thankfully or not, is filled with quotes to inspire you, and with guides to help you do what you want to do. But let me ask you this - How many times have any of those made a big difference in your life? The answer is probably zero, or something close to it, it makes no matter. The same goes with psychologists. Giving it to you easy will only make you think “Oh, like I never thought of this!”.Why do you think that is? It’s because getting the recipe is one thing, but wanting to cook it, entirely another.There is a technique that psychologists use (as I’ve understood from a friend). They try not to spoon-feed you, but instead, they try to get you to understand that you have to feed yourself. In other words, they will not give you the answer to the question right away. But what they’ll do instead is guide you, and help you through the thought process. They will feed you information, not the recipe. And through the process, you will be the one deriving the answers to your problems yourself. And when you are the one figuring out how to solve your problems, only then will you actually be able to make a difference in your life.The motivation has to come from within. And that’s what the psychologist’s job is - to ignite that spark within you. Everything else will come out naturally.
Relationship Advice: Why does she do this to me?
I too had this same situation in my life , and recently i have stopped all forms of contact with her . Congrats you are friendzoned like me , and i know it hurts . As far as my knowledge she is doing following things , she just considers you as a friend (All girls will do this after they come to know that someone is in LOVE with them deeply). So my suggestion is move on, i know it's hard very very hard and i had been in that situation . And moreover why i am saying you is that your future is not predictable considering your situation she might accept and she might not , if she accepts well and good , if not you will suffer so suffer now with less pain rather than suffering with lot of pain . One of answers says that she like you , yes i will also say that she likes you . But has she said you explicitly that she had liked you ??? answer is NO ."Always remember this not all people you love have to be in your life "Finally my advice is "MOVE ON". You too deserve love , Because you are also special ."If she loves you , if it is meant to happen it will happen and she will contact you for sure"Sorry for my bad English.
Why doesn't my friend listen to my advice when I know what he should do?
I’ve just been through this one! Actually, I’m still going through it.This is all you need to know:Most times, people NEED to go through something to understand what mistakes they’ve done and to learn from it. Even if they learn the same things you’ve been telling them all this time, they need to go through the experience, sometimes multiple times.You should definitely tell him everything you think and know about his current situation, let him know that you don’t want him to suffer and so on, but there’s only so much you can do. After a while, you’ll start to become annoying to him instead. Oh, the irony.It’s not that he doesn’t believe you, it’s that he has this hope that she will change her mind for some reason. I call it “In-love hope”, and it happens when you expect that person you’re chasing to change and to suddenly like you all of the sudden, or the person you are in a couple with to change their bad traits just like that. It won’t happen, but these people will stay there behind that girl or guy juuuuust in case it does.It’s a process. Your friend liked this girl at first, then had a glisten of hope that she will be with him, then fell in love, then got obsessed. That will fade with time, don’t worry, it might take years, but it will fade.You can be there for him from time to time to give him a shoulder to cry on, but if he ends up pestering you with the subject each time you meet, or if he talks about this and nothing else, you let him know that too.You’re coming from a very honest and good will position here and I fully understand, but you need to let him go, he’s doing his own choices. When he realizes how bad he has f**** up, you be there for him and give the guy a hug.
Friend keeps crying to me but wont take my advice?
my friend is only 15 years old. she's had a boyfriend for about 9 months now. he's so protected of her and at school he doesn't let her talk to her friends very much. he always wants to do sexual stuff with her and he took her virginity. well now she's always depressed and sad because he treats her like crap. they can't even have a normal convo without him getting pissed or saying something mean. she complains to me pretty much everyday and i tell her to break up with him because he;s just using her. and she just says "but i still love him" well yeah but obviously he doesn't love her otherwise he wouldn't treat her like that. i think she just doesn't want to accept the truth. How do i get her to accept the truth and break up with him or make her stop crying to me if she won't even take my advice?
Confused girl says she loves me but says it wont work out? pls read evrything.(GALS ADVICE PREFFERED)?
Alright... first things first... calm down. She has been through a serious traumatic event. It's the kind of thing that can affect a person for years. It's also not something you can't likely help her much with. She'll have to sort out her feelings on her own. Here's the step by step: 1. Calm down 2. Send her a text and apologize for freaking out. 3. Wait a day or so, let your head get around it and once you're completely calm (at least 24-48 hours... not five minutes.) 4. send her another text and tell her that you're ok with just being friends and that you understand that she has a lot to deal with and work through (because she does). Tell her that you'll give her some space (and do it) but that you're there if she ever needs a friend or someone to talk to. At this point you want to put yourself in the friendzone. While in the friendzone keep your feelings of love to yourself. Don't forget them, but just push it deep down inside and instead show your love by being there for her and being supportive while she works through it. It may take a while. Could take years. But, if you truly love her then you should be able to do this. Once she's done healing she may warm back up and then you can try again. Texting her repeatedly will do nothing but push her away (quickly). She told you what she needs, so let her have it. For now, make the sacrifice of your needs to help her get what she needs. She needs time, understanding and support. Good luck to you both
I cant wear tampons(feminin advice only)?
Ok so my mom won't let my wear tampons because i'm obviously too young and i love to go swimming,but she says "when you're a little older" I don't get her. I'm 13. She gets mad at me if i ask her things after she had said no.And she knows that i love swimming.Also my friend is having a pool party next saturday and i don't think the i can go.How can i convince he to let me wear one? Any advice?