I've lost patience with parents who always put me down?
Everyday I wake up and I want to just be alone, away from my parents. Everyday they say horrible things like, I'm useless, I need to get my act together, I have no future, "whats wrong with you" etc. Now, Im not some wierdo hermit, i actually have a normal social life outside my house with great friends. But they dont see this side of me at all. My real side is that with my friends, but at home I cant take anymore of these put downs so I have stopped even communicating to my parents to avoid being hurt. I am now moving out on my own but even with this happening my parents want to tighten their grip by asking for a key to the flat (not in a nice way, almost demanding) etc. I feel like my life is burdened by them and I will never EVER be free. How can I get them off my back and earn their respect? They know nothing about how hard I worked to find the job I have now, to rent this flat etc. all to get away. I cannot respect my parents because they have never shown me respect.
I hate having Indian parents?
I hate having Indian parents? They're so strict, more than typical parents. I can't go out with my friends anywhere and can't sleep over at anyones house and they can't at my house either. I am not allowed to dye my hair or get streaks no matter how natural the color is. I am not even allowed to wear shorts or tank tops. If I'm even seen talking to a boy my parents will probably call me an insult to my family and kick me out. I can't watch movies or even read books that have the word boyfriend or any kissing at all. They are so controlling and don't let me do anything. It's just so frustrating and I don't know what to do.
My parents are forcing me to marry?
My parents are muslims(i am not), basically theyre telling that they only way i can move out and the only way i can be on my own or let alone do nething for myself i have to be married, they wont let me do anything. They dont believe i can take care of myself, they dnt think i am capable of anything. They want to run my life. How could they do that to me? make me marry sum1 i dont even know or even love. I want to marry for love and if i tell them i know what they will say, they wont listen to what i have to say. They are making me miserable. I dont want get married, i am too young and marriage is the last thing on my mind. Besides i am already in love with sum1 whom my parents have no clue about but i want marry him and no one else cos no one else is good enough for me other than David. I dont know what to do i am so lost. Its like they dont love me cos if they did they wouldnt do this to me. Im so scared, i feel like i will give in and get married jus to get what i want, i am alredy thinking about it. thank god for divorce.
I'm 25,have very controlling parents,how to break the cycle?
Well, this may take a little time depending on how quickly you can convince yourself that you are an adult, can make good decisions on your own and make your own way in this world. You have got to get a backbone. Tell yourself these things over and over again until they stick: 1. I am an intelligent person capable of making my own decisions without feeling guilty about doing so. 2. I have the right to live my life the way I see fit and handle the consequences on my own. 3. I deserve to be treated with respect and will not tolerate people who try to bully me or make me feel inadequate or stupid. 4. I can and will stand up for myself and will not let anybody push me around....not even my family members. 5. I will not let any other human being control my life. When you walk down the street, look up, not down at your feet. Make eye contact with the people who walk past you. Act like you know where you are going, even if you are not sure. In time, you will begin to feel more confident. Think about the most common things your parents say to you and rehearse a comeback so that it just pops in your head when you hear those familiar words. Make your comebacks direct, strong and to the point. If you have to have a few that hit them below the belt, that would be great! When your parents start in on you, push back. You may have to give them a dose of their own medicine. DO NOT BACK DOWN! Bullies thrive when people cower and give in. DO NOT DO THAT! STAND UP FOR YOURSELF! It could get really ugly, but once you are out from under their thumb and they see you will not bow to them anymore, they'll stop. Move in with your friend. Do not give them the land line number and do not give them your friend's cell phone number. Only answer their calls when YOU want to. If you don't return their calls right away, so what! Let them deal with it! I hope this helps and I hope you go on to have a happy life....your parents are miserable and they want you to be miserable, too. Good luck, friend!
My parents won't accept me for being Satanic?
I have friends who are Satanists and live by the Satanic Bible and they are intelligent friendly people who love life, kids, animals and the law. What kind of parents are against that!! and this is coming from a life long Christian. Satanists are elite atheists with a philosophy they are NOT evil I am not sure what more you can tell them as it seems they are not open minded and do not want to listen. Just be who you are they can never change that! They can never stop you from being a Satanist, just live that way but keep it to yourself until you can live on your own. Satanists will tell you do not be open about being a Satanist in cases where it hurts you. edit - Luis is crazy
Someone help my parents hate each other!?
It's so sad, not many marriages last anymore these days. I went through the exact same thing. Sadly, we children can't do anything about it because we usually don't know the full story since we are thought not mature enough to fully understand it. Try not to get TOO involved! Maybe they can talk it out, But maybe they can't. Their differences may be getting in the way. Just remember if they DO (if worst comes to worst) get divorced, it may be better that way - it's better for them to find happiness in something else other than live a miserable life stuck with someone they hate. I'm sure you would think the same way if you were in their case. I'm still scared to come to that day where I have to choose. But I wish you the best of luck, and stay strong <3