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Why was Hillary a bad choice for a presidential candidate?

I’ll take a stab at it. This is my theory: Three nuanced attitudes became obvious in the 2016 election:1- Outsider = someone who is not part of the “political power structure or establishment”2- Change = someone who offered a new or different direction.3- New = someone new to politics.Donald Trump met all three of these attitudesBernie Sanders met two of them (1 & 2)Hillary Clinton met none of these but wanted to convince us she met all three.This is not a defense of Trump nor Sanders, rather an explanation of the choices and attitudes that drove those choices.The first problem with Hilary was that she didn’t meet any of these three attitudes in a year that demanded at least one of them. The second problem was the way she tried to convince us that she met all three. It was condescending, and a reminder that she is a political hack – what I mean is a political opportunist who knows how to work the system (data, donors, political power brokers) because she believes that’s all that matters; because in most cases it is … or was.I do not wish to re-litigate the many issues that confronted Hillary’s veracity – they've been detailed here – but there were many. In each case whenever an honest upfront answer was required, Hillary was unable to give one. I voted for Hillary in the general election (actually, I voted against Trump). Still, I believe national politics is beginning to move beyond the conventional political hack. Trump is a reflexive and perverted version of this shift. If the Democrats wish to climb back, they need to understand this dynamic beyond demographics, donors, and data.This election was a matter of Hillary missing the zeitgeist; worse yet, reminding voters what they didn’t want and why they didn't want it.

I have a major problem w/ trusting women, like I always find something to distrust, how do I get over that hurdle?

As Les Matheson says, trust is a matter of learning to trust yourself, and exceedingly difficult lesson to learn. I was told that by my mentor in law school, and began to grasp it perhaps 10 years later.What are you trusting another person to do? Since you're specifically speaking about romantic relationships with women, you might be expecting infidelity, or simply that they will not remain with you for the rest of your life. This tells me that you don’t trust yourself to understand what women want and need in a life partner. Another possibility is that even if you understand it, you have no desire to fulfill their image of a romantic relationship. This could be individual, or it could be cultural. Many years ago I had a friend who was very Anglo. She began dating a Moroccan man. Their relationship was fine until they began to be perceived as "a couple." At that point, his cultural heritage took over and he expected her to walk three steps behind him on the street. She refused, and ended the relationship.Whether the differences occur from such cultural heritage or from simple personal preference, if you expect to be the person who makes the rules for the relationship, you can expect the relationship to end.If you expect to be the only person in a two-person relationship, or if you expect a person to live up to your every fantasy, you will always be hurt in a relationship. When you learn to trust that hurt is part of a relationship, and that compromise, communication, and counseling are an ongoing necessity in keeping a relationship together as both people grow, then you will have learned to trust yourself in the relationship.

What are the best movies where the main character is engaged to one person, but then falls in love with another?

Hat tip to Jim Muller, whose answer about The Philadelphia Story reminded me that Cary Grant was involved in more than one of these storylines.His Girl Friday (1940).Ace reporter Hildy Johnson (Rosalind Russell) is divorced from newspaper editor Walter Burns (Cary Grant) and decides to leave the newspaper business after getting engaged to nice (boring) guy / businessman Bruce Baldwin (Ralph Bellamy). It is her plan to move upstate to Albany with Baldwin and embrace domesticity. Burns is determined to win her back and uses her own competitive journalistic instincts to do so. Fun fact: His Girl Friday is a remake of the classic Ben Hecht - Charles MacArthur play and film The Front Page, in which Walter and Hildy are both men, who have quarreled. Howard Hawks realized it was really a love story all along.Bringing Up Baby (1938).Dr. David Huxley (Cary Grant), a zoologist who studies dinosaurs, is engaged to his colorless research assistant Alice Swallow (Virginia Walker) when he meets Susan Vance (Katharine Hepburn), a flighty and somewhat bubbleheaded heiress who thinks he's cute. I can't possibly give you any kind of meaningful digest of the story here, except to say that Dr. Huxley does NOT end up with Alice Swallow.Fun fact: there's a famous sequence in this film that takes place at Susan's aunt's house in the country, which involves both Cary Grant and Katharine Hepburn running around in bathrobes (his is really more of a peignoir, though). She has a very cool tailored wrap bathrobe with a big monogram on it and from the first time I saw this film more than 40 years ago, I have always wanted that bathrobe because of course Susan Vance and I have the same monogram.Holiday (1938).Cary Grant and Katharine Hepburn again!Johnny Case (Grant), a young bohemian, is engaged to Julia Seaton (Doris Nolan), a rich and rather staid heiress who expects him to settle down and go into her father's business. But as he gets to know the family he discovers that Julia's eccentric sister Linda (Hepburn) is more the kind of girl he would like to spend his life with.