Do you consider yourself to be ugly, average or good-looking?
Oh my goodness.Reading this question brought back so many weird memories.Honestly, it all depends on so many factors.During my teen years, I considered myself so ugly.Please understand, my mom used to be a model in the late 50’s, She went to New York city to do fashion shows. Her career was brief because she did not like how she was treated backstage. She was very intelligent and never let her beauty get to her head. My mother sort of looked like a very tall Elizabeth Taylor type. She had black hair sort of purple eyes and was 6′1″. OK, you get my drift.So, many moons later, I was born. I grew to be only 5′7″, blond hair and clear blue eyes. My body type was and still is athletic. ( Not skinny not fat. apparently I have curves in the right places and muscles, etc.)AND…. my mom had an other baby, a girl that is a carbon copy of my mom.Hence, I believed to be the ugly duckling of the family. From the outside world, I was considered to be quite attractive. Well, compared to my mom and my sister I was surely not.I still remember the sobbing episode when my mom read a bed time story titled the Ugly Duckling. I cried and cried. I did not have the words to explain then, but deep down I identified with the swan who thought he was a duck. Anyway, soon after that, my mom refused to read me bedtime stories because I would end up crying a lot. ( Honestly, I found the stories cruel in general.) OK… back on topic.Hence, deep down I never thought that I was pretty. ( Apparently, I was. I hated getting noticed and attention and whatever would happen almost every time I went out with my friends. Honestly,grown men frightened me a lot during my teen years.)I am older now and hopefully wiser. Still, this body of mine, always seemed to give the wrong message to the outside world. My head, my heart and my soul was not reflected by what my body projected. It has always been an awkward fit.It is difficult to explain and I hope I have made some kind of decent explanation with this word salad.I also know that some of you might think that I am complaining for nothing. I got that a lot too. I am just answering from the inside looking out sort of speak.Hope you are not sorry you asked…
What is the most illogical fashion or beauty trend you have come across?
Someone really said it right that world will keep on becoming more and more ignorant and dumber and one of the evidence for the statement is the ongoing fashion trends which we keep on seeing around ourselve and end up following few as well1. SAGGINGSo let’s start off with something we see everyday, something which is the “in” thing to do, something which makes us want to commit suicide! Presenting Sagging. Sagging is a supreme form of style in which one wears their trousers quite a bit below the waist, in the process revealing their preferred choice of underwear. Basically an African American trend, it became a worldwide phenomenon due to the popularity of rap and rappers. Carrying it off requires some skill though, the trick isn’t how to make your pants sag, its about keeping them from falling down!2. THE SAYEENandysowardsThe “Mustache” has been around a very long time as a form of jewelry, be it on rings, lockets, belt buckles or even earrings. It gained popularity in Pakistan when the song “Sayeen” became a hit. The mustache was associated with the Sayeen style Handlebar Mustache and became an instant hit. Oh, what a sight it was to see girls sporting mustaches on their fingers, ears or even clothes.3. MEGGINGSWomen have been wearing leggings for ages and they are as comfortable as anything! Comfort and style goes hand-in-hand as far as leggings are concerned. So some genius decided that men should have access to the same comfort and style and thus “Meggings” were born. As far as I go, I say, for God’s sake put on some proper clothes man!4. ELF BOOTSElf Boots are a thing in Mexico! No… this is not a joke, they really are. And why wouldn’t they be? They are long, pointy and kind of look like swords on feet. Just awesome! It’s not known how and why this silly fashion has become the go-to-style in Mexico, but it has. Maybe these kids have got something to prove to the ladies.
Why have girls started to put chokers around their neck? I personally think it looks stupid and unappealing, but why do girls use it?
I find people are criticizing you for stating your personal option (welcome to the internet) on thinking chokers look stupid. It’s a type of necklace, not a person or group that you're calling stupid, so feel free to think whatever you want.There is a lengthy history behind the fashion of chokers. From symbolizing secret lesbianism to not-so secret prostitution, the choker has meant a lot of things through history. For now, the choker is just another trend that has been recycled from the 90’s fashion trends that have been making a comeback. It doesn't really have a specific meaning today.Now, there are strong sexual undertones attached to chokers such as “make me your bitch” or “choke me during raunchy sex.” Guys your age who don't think chokers are stupid may like this message and girls may like the attention from their sexual power.Just because somebody wears a choker necklace doesn't mean they mean the messages listed above. Chokers are a great way to have a necklace without a traditional necklace drape all over the place. Chokers are nice, snug, and stay in place. Certain fashion icons wear chokers and masses want to follow (like any other trend). Chokers are just like every other trend that has been made: the choker was created, it went out of style, it was rediscovered and it became cool again, and repeat.
My husband likes to scare me. He thrives on doing this. What's wrong with him?
The other day we were BBQ'ing and he went outside to check the BBQ grill. I was in the kitchen and he closed the door behind him. When he tried to open the door it was locked and he starting kicking the door as hard as he could and about scared me to death. Another time we lost power because of a storm and he came home when it was dark and I didn't hear him enter the house. He snuck into the room where I was at and started breathing hard and grabbed me. Another time he grabbed his chest and fell to the floor and pretended to be having a heart attack. He just laughs and thinks it's funny and tells me I can't take a joke.
What are the best things one can do to make themselves more physically attractive?
Look in the Eyes when others speak. Totally forget about you and look the world from their point of view. Close your mouth, but listen to each and every word what they speak. Repeat the same words what they use. Focus on others. Find out what is great about them and tell it to them.Take care of your voice. How you speak is more important than what you speak. If we shut the mouth most of us will be attractive only. But speak if they ask you to speak. But speak about them.Be Kind. Kindness is the most attractive thing in the world. Never look for the one you find attractive. Look for the one who finds you attractive. Be a Magnet. Be a center of a source for Humor. Bring laughter with your life and looks, but do not bring humor with others life and looks. But Humor is important.Humor is not somewhere hiding. It is right in front of us. Each and every people, each and every action or moment carries a Humor. You have to bring out that spontaneously and express it in a witty style, like Sarcasm. Humor and Intelligence will make you the most attractive person.
Do you react differently when you see "plus" sized models, compared to your reaction to more traditionally sized models? Why or why not?
Do you react differently when you see "plus" sized models, compared to your reaction to more traditionally sized models? Why or why not?Of course.I’m not attracted to overweight women. I’m attracted to lean or fit women. Lean women are healthier, and more likely to be able to join me in physical hobbies. I don’t just want a pretty girl, I want a girl I can do things with.This is Tess Holiday. Not really my cup of tea.Helga Lovekaty is more my speed.Or Yao Ren Mau, on the petite side.What do I do when I see an overweight model? Simple. I choose not to look. That’s it. No mockery, no demands that she stop modeling.Now, I get it, overweight women got teased a lot. There’s now a pride movement, body positivity, no body shaming, and suchlike.Okay, fine. I can roll with that. You’re happy being fat? I honestly don’t care. It doesn’t affect me at all, so its not my business. I agree its utterly ridiculous that women like Jennifer Lawrence are considered “plus size”.Yes, there is an issue with the fashion industry. But what can you expect from an industry that produces this?But I get angry when I see this shit.So…no body shaming, unless you’re skinny? Hell, this manages to insult both the women and the men who are attracted to them. Great twofer.Then there’s this.Granted, she’s just not that good of a singer, but the real issue is right here.'Cause every inch of you is perfectFrom the bottom to the topYeah, my momma she told me don't worry about your sizeShe says, boys they like a little more booty to hold at nightYou know I won't be no stick-figure, silicone Barbie doll,andI'm bringing booty backGo ahead and tell them skinny bitches HeyNo, I'm just playing I know you think you're fat,The fuck? I thought body shaming wasn’t kosher, and we were supposed to embrace women in all sizes? Oh, unless you’re skinny, because she’s just playing. That makes it okay then.You want to be fat, proud, and happy? Have a nut. Go wild. Find some guy who thinks you’re the living embodiment of Venus.But don’t you dare be a hypocrite and turn around to do the very thing you were just fighting against. Don’t you dare cry about fat shaming, and then jump on some girl’s back for being skinny.No. Not okay. You don’t get to say “You’re not allowed to shame me for my weight!”, and then shame women for their weight.
How can I overcome feeling insecure and unwanted due beautiful Instagram models with the best lifestyle? I can’t help but compare and think no guy would ever want me when there’s so many gorgeous girls out there.
Why do people torture themselves unnecessarily?Go sit at the mall and watch the people walking past you. Do you see those middle-aged couples that you’ve been ignoring holding hands and laughing together? Do you see the older couple, one helping the other move along?Love surrounds you.Here I am with three of my girlfriends. None of us look like supermodels and none of us had trouble finding wonderful men who love us dearly. We’re not even conventionally young although we are young at heart.Nothing, not age, not how we look on the outside matters to a quality partner. What matters to a quality partner is what is on the inside and that is something you can completely, 100% control. You decide if you’re going to be a nice person. You decide if you’re going to be ethical. You decide if you’re going to be kind. You decide if you’re going to continually become a better version of yourself.I was a single mom with two children for a long time and there were times when I felt bombarded by far too much attention from men.You don’t have to be a supermodel to attract a partner; just a good person.Being anxious and comparing yourself to others, torturing yourself by comparing yourself to others. isn’t a good choice.If I’m with my lover (now husband) and I see a beautiful woman, in addition to appreciating her beauty (beauty is beauty, after all), I will point her out to him so he can also enjoy nature in all its splendor. I do not feel worried he will decide to toss me aside for someone who is physically more beautiful than I am on the outside. If he is that shallow, he’s not right for me anyway and good riddance, have a great life. Next!You know what is attractive? An attitude that doesn’t attempt to control your lover. Adults don’t want to be controlled (well, there are some fetish exceptions but for the purposes of this discussion) just figure out who you are, love yourself, and be a good person.When you learn to love yourself, you will exude value and worth and you’ll stop obsessing about how other women look and focus on being someone people love to love.