Worst Thing Your Mother Ever Said To You

What's the worst thing your mother has ever told you?

Years ago, I was sitting with my mom getting a bite to eat. I can’t remember where. We started to have a conversation about my father.My father died when I was about 5 years old. My mom divorced him before he died. I knew he had some issues from what she had told me up to that point. I knew he liked to drink too much and that he wasn’t the best husband. During that conversation, she filled me in on a few specifics.She told me that he was physically abusive. In one instance, he was yelling at her and shaking her right in front of me. I was crying and he turned around and told me everything was okay, and then went right back to screaming at her.As she told me things he did, I felt my stomach turn. This guy was my father. I couldn’t believe I shared the same blood as someone who would do these things. It made sense in a way because I know his mother was a horrible human being so anyone raised by someone like that was going to have problems. That’s a whole other story.Then she hit me with the most shocking event.One night my mother was home alone while my father was out drinking. It was late and she decided to go to bed, but went to sleep on the couch in the living room. Next thing she knew, she woke up to someone on top of her holding her down. He put his hand over her mouth while she struggled. She thought she was going to be raped or killed. He finally got off her and turned on the light.It was my dad. He then told her something along the lines of teaching her a lesson for leaving the door unlocked.I remember my mouth hung open. I couldn’t believe MY father did something this horrible.The one good thing my mother told me about my dad was that he loved my sister and I. He never attempted to hurt either one of us, and if he did, she would have killed him.In the end, drunk driving killed him.For a long time, I would sometimes wonder how different my life would have been if my father had never died.Once I found out about what he did to my mom, I stopped wondering. I don’t think I would have wanted him in my life regardless.

What is the worst thing your in-laws ever said to you or about you?

Oh where should I start. Although my in laws were from Scotland, they were quickly indoctrinated into the racism we have here against black people and Mexican people.The day that my husband took me over to meet his father and stepmother was a Twilight Zone trip back to the 50’s. After we were introduced they never even said hello to me. They just looked me up-and-down and then his stepmother said, “Whatever happened to that other girl that you were dating? The one who was a cop. She seemed to be really nice.” We just stood there in total shock. Finally my husband said, “I haven't dated her in over a year and last I heard she was pregnant. And by the way she was Mexican as well.”. The stepmother said, “Well at least she didn't look like it.” I was flabbergasted. I had never run into racism that was that blatant, fast and dirty in my whole life.That pretty much set the tone for our marriage. My husband was constantly arguing with them over marrying me. I hated them and eventually refused to go to their house which caused arguments between us. I'm sure my husband felt very much in the middle. Eventually we just couldn't stand the pressure anymore and so we divorced. It was a shame because I think we really loved each other.There was one incident that my husband never understood though I did perfectly. My husband was talking to his father one day about our marriage and how it was falling apart. His father turned to him and said, “Maybe the two of you should have a baby.” My husband said he was in total shock. I was too when he told me. He said he looked at his father and said, “I can't believe you just said that. You guys are the main reason our marriage is falling apart. I thought you would be happy to hear that you succeeded.” His father said, “Don’t be daft. She's a nice girl, very smart. Quite lovely as well. If you want your marriage to work then I want your marriage to work. You two should think about having a baby.”I said no. I didn't want children and I definitely wasn't going to bring a baby into a situation like that. My husband wanted a baby. To him it would fix us, fix the family relations. For me it was the final nail in the coffin. We filed for divorce soon after.

What's the worst thing you ever said to your dad or mom?

My mother and I got into it good one afternoon, and I got a butcher knife out and chased her around the house with it.I was probably 13 years old and had black makeup everywhere. I was pissed.She knew my step-dad was abusing me and never did anything about it. Instead, she became a Xanax addict and left me to be the wife of the house.One day I'd had enough and I told her how, bitch— I'm gonna kill you because you're the world's worst mother and you don't deserve to live.Fifteen years later, I learned that my stepfather had her under a really bad position. Like, really bad. I cannot even say.My mom and I laugh about it now. I'm out and out nuts. But I was never going to actually kill her. It was pretty bad though and it landed me in an adolescent psych unit for 9 days.We both made it out. I can't say I love her much, our relationship is more like being sisters in constant battle.But she's still here and I'm glad for that. Wished I hadn't done such a thing. Never underestimate a very pissed off abused kid. Thank God for lithium. I would've never made it through high school and you would've seen me on six o'clock news.All is good now.