Would you befriend or date someone who doesn't have friends, or almost none?
Absolutely. I have a friend who had very few friends. She went into depression when i first met her because her ex boyfriend was haunting around her house after a 3 year gap between them. She was my classmate back in school but never talked then. In high school, i met her on Facebook after a 5 year gap. That was when everything in her life seemed normal. She was an introvert, so she didnt have many friends as she also has trust issues with people. When we met then, we started texting each other and texts turned to phone calls. Then, a few months later, her boyfriend started troubling her. She wanted to get rid of him. I gave her plenty of solutions and it worked. He stopped troubling her. The next year, i joined the college that she was studying in. I always observed her and got to know her inner self. During last year of high school, she flunked a subject and has stayed home ever since. Her family was into karoake and they are the best in the city. During the few months that she stayed home, she got disconnected from most of her friends. She would text them or call them but didn't meet them. I always advised her to meet up with her old friends and try to make a few more as she was getting depressed. She had a crush on a guy that she met at a karoake show and ahe slowly kicked out of depression. She recently met another girl who has very similar likes and interests. They got along very well. Right now, she is outta depression and is doing better than ever. However she also got so busy in her life that now we dont talk too often. Phone calls are seldom. But I'm happy that she is doing well now.So, you never know who really needs you in their worst times. But it's always good to make new friends. And trust me, people that dont have many friends will turn out to be some of the best people that you will ever meet( after they get comfy with you).
What can a person with no friends do?
He can observe. He has to be critical of himself.He can read. He can live in his tiny bubble, or he can explore, alone.You have friends or not, the ultimate truth is you are alone. And you will be alone in the end. You have your own experiences, your own memories, your own interests and your own moments.Having a friend is not at all bad. Or having a friend is not at all must.What must is that you grow, you learn, you explore, with or without a friend, by your own. Alone. Not depending on anyone.Human nature can be many a times, self destructing. And at those times, you need a friend, and that friend can be only you. Nobody else.
What happens to a person when they have no friends?
What happens? well firstly life goes on but it is tough. You get lost in your own mind, imagine slights from strangers that send you into a spin thinking why is this person so mean to me but the truth is you stop being able to discriminate logically, you become paranoid, you have 24 hours a day to do whatever you wish and unless you force yourself you wind up doing nothing. I spent most of my adult life looking after ill family members, when a ‘friend’ needed help I was there for them but when my last family member died no one and I mean no one was there for me so I now I have no family, no friends. I study online, play word games online watch videos on line of people living their lives, crazy animal things etc and I laugh out loud because no one can hear me, I turn the music up and dance when I want -but I will never ever give anyone the opportunity to walk over me again……seriously do you want to be like that? I hope your answer is no. Work out what makes you happy, not what gives you pleasure but what makes you happy and then see if there are any groups around that enjoy the same things. Look for Meetups for example. Do NOT isolate yourself like I have because you can never undo that action and it becomes harder and harder to motivate yourself to do anything so PLEASE find a way out one small step at a time.
I am in my 40's and do not have any friends. I would like to have at least one friend that I can hang out with
In church one week I had an epiphany- something very simple, but yet so true and something I would tell my middle school students- To have a friend, you first have to be a friend. I never really thought of it like that. I'm kind of an introvert myself, so I can understand how difficult it is to make friends after marriage. Sometimes just this can come across to others as being standoffish or snobby. I'm not sure where you live, but that can make a difference too. If you moved to somewhere different from where you grew up, (ex: from Georgia to New Jersey) it can be a culture shock of itself. Perhaps you could reach out to someone in one of your classes or activities. Take a risk. I know how you feel. I'm often wondering how to make friends since most of the people who live around me are older and people seem to be busy all the time. You could join a group- that's the best way to meet people and build your self up as well- like a community life group at church, a class at the YMCA, a volunteer organization, even a chat group of some kind- etc. . . Then you have a common bond with the other women there anyway. You could just make casual talk the first few classes and then maybe ask them about themselves. Then, maybe you could just ask some over for coffee, out to a girls lunch, or something else casual and comfortable where 2-3 other women can get together and chat. Once you've done that, you've opened the communication for futher meetings. I also find tuberware type parties are nice to get to know new people. They have a purpose, and you can get to know different women.. . In your case, it doesn't matter what group you join, just anywhere where the people aren't cliquish and they are there just to have fun and meet others. Women need friends- sometimes I think men are happy without many, but we need to talk and relate to others. Good luck. You've already taken the first step by writing this letter and reaching out to others. Keep it up!
I am too shy to make friends but I am soooo lonely. What do I do?
see a counsilor. You probably have an anxiety disorder and it's having too much of an impact on your life. I'm sorry it is causing you so much grief. It is too hard to deal with alone and you need the support of a councilor. Don't take drugs like Paxil or Zoloft. they really dont work. Deal with the real problem. Believe me. I know. there are people out there who will want to befriend you. There are some really cool people in the world.
I have no life, no friends, no where to go?
aww poor u im lucky its other people who aren't as i'll strike up conversation with anyone who will let me, try befriending venus depoending on your lifestyle and dont be affraid to say hi to ppl they wont bite if they think your retarded then sod them