Would You Consider Piercing A Child

RE:Baby Ear Piercing Child Abuse?

I dont think its abuse. I think its shabby parenting.

Putting a child through unnecessary pain is not great parenting in my book. So if its ok to get ears pierced, lets just pierce her tongue while we are at it.

You need to get real if you think its ok to put tacky bits of gold in a babys ear. My daughter was born perfect without holes punched in her. It done to satisfy the mothers vanity - because she thinks its ''cute''. Yeh, its real cute to introduce and infection risk and choking hazard.

And dont tell me there is no infection risk - as a mother with 6 body piercings, I know all about piercing infection risks. And for a child with an immune system that isnt fully developed? The mind boggles.

My mum pierced my ears at 4m old. She has a pic of the special moment. My face is almost purple, due to holding my breath from crying so much. Now, 24 years on, my first holes in my ears that were perfectly in line at piercing - are off centre and look stupid. Thanks mum.

Do you consider giving children body piercings child abuse?

Laws about piercings for minors vary from state to state. Many states simply ban piercing without parental consent and a parent present, but there are some states that ban it with or without parental consent. For example, in Idaho, it is prohibited for anyone under age 14. In Mississippi, the requirement is 18 years of age. You can find state-specific guideline here:
http://www.ncsl.org/research/health/tatt...

Is it child abuse? No.
Is it good parenting? That depends. If it is legal in her state, the child truly wanted the piercing and was made to understand the process beforehand, and the piercing was done properly, it is no big deal. If mom violated state laws, that can put the child in a compromised position - especially if told not to tell anyone - and doesn't model very good decision making.

The mother also needs to take responsibility for helping her keep it clean and watching out for infection, and protecting her from injury related to the piercing becoming snagged during active play.

And, finally, there is the question of how the child is perceived by others within her social circles. Sometimes very young children get judged based on fashion/appearance decisions that were actually made by the parent. For example, I once knew a very sweet 5-year-old boy whose mother pierced his ear, gave him a Mohawk, and dressed him in combat boots, skulls, etc. He was a charming little guy, but his elderly, conservative kindergarten teacher had him labeled as a "trouble maker" from the very first day and he never could get on her good side. It isn't at all fair to judge kids that way, but it is the parents' responsibility to recognize that sometimes it happens, and it is hard for a kid to get caught in the middle.

As long as the mother helped the child think it through beforehand, abided by state laws, and is protecting her child's physical and emotional wellness, then it is really nobody's business but hers and her child's. Perhaps your friends should be a bit less judgmental. I hope they aren't making rude comments in front of the child!

Would you hire a babysitter with a nose piercing?

I think I may be the least politically correct person here. I would not hire you if you had a nose piercing even if you arrived armed with a Nobel Peace Prize. You sound like a good person, but (no matter what other people say) appearance counts. I strongly suggest you do not get that ear piercing. It doesn't look good. It sometimes looks like a scab or blemish. It could be a gateway to other piercings such as eye brow piercings, snake bites, or-God forbid-a navel piercing. Piercings only really look attractive on ears at the ear lobes.

Please do not pierce your nose.

What do you think about piercing a babies ears?

first off i have to respond to ella's comment in that...i does hurt. if you sat down in the claire's piercing chair and had a piercing gun up to your lobe--or anywhere else--that would hurt. it might not be absolutely horrible, but i'm sure a baby's pain tolerance is incomparable to an adults...
there is a risk for infection, however as long as you care for it properly you shouldn't have a problem. and once they are healed i've noticed baby's tend to mess with them less, especially as they get older, than girls who got their ears pierced as young children. and i almost never wear earrings in mine...but they are still pierced, which is nice...
make sure you get jewelry that is hypoallergenic, preferrably real gold or stainless steel.
i don't see a problem with it, its normal and has been for as long as even my mom can remember, to get baby girls' ears pierced...i think before it was seen as a harmless way to make them more identifiable as girls since most babies are bald?
my advice if you are worried about infection/pain try to find a tattoo/piercing shop in your area that will pierce a baby's lobes--some do/can...i'm not sure of the laws in your area though. if its done with a needle instead of a gun it will be less painful, more accurately placed and have less risk of infection...

and i don't think the baby will rip out the earrings and as long as they are small studs and not hoops they won't get pulled out by pulling clothes on and off or anything.

if you are uncomfortable with it, wait, there is nothing wrong with waiting...

What do you think about having a young child's ears pierced?

I didn't do it to my daughters. I had several reasons for that choice. My first reason was because I had once torn my ear wearing a simple earring while sleeping. The earring caught on the pillow case. Knowing how much little children can toss and turn when they sleep and knowing that there would be a chance of them falling asleep with earrings in their ears, I didn't want to risk that they would catch an earring on something and tear the hole. Another reason was because of what happened to the child of a friend of mine. She was divorced and her daughter went to her father's for the weekend like usual. When the daughter (age four) came back from the father's house, one of her earrings was missing. After closer examination, my friend discovered that the missing earring (a small stud) was actually INSIDE her daughter's earlobe. My last reason for not having my daughter's ears pierced at a young age was because it should be their choice.

Both of my daughters are now over the age of 20. One daughter wanted her ears pierced as a teenager and I allowed it when she was 14. My other daughter has never wanted pierced ears and still has never had it done.

I don't judge other parents for deciding to have it done. I do think little girls with earrings are cute. But, I just didn't want to deal with what might have been "worse case" issues if something had gone wrong. Childhood has enough injuries, illnesses, and infections without adding a deliberate act into the mix of things that could go wrong.

Do you think piercing a baby's ears are cruel?

I don't think it's child abuse or cruel. I don't particularly like the look, but as for this specific choice, I don't judge parents pierce their daughter's ears. I think it should be parental choice and if like me, you don't like it, don't do it. Trashy is a matter of opinion. You know those message t-shirts everyone thinks are cute. I think they look trashy. I put those little ponytails and big bows parents plop right on the top of their girls heads into that category too. I can't stand the look. But whatever, they're not my daughter. As for being a cry baby, most girls I know who didn't have it done as baby's waited until they were more like 11 or 12 and wouldn't be cry babies. I will do that with my daughter. She'll be a preteen before I pierce her ears.

Oh, and one other thing about the thumbsdowns, I hope you pick a best answer - you leave a lot to voting, which is fine, but there are users on this site who are on the "friends and family" program with their multiple accounts and multiple thumbsdowns. They'll choose to answer because their posse can follow it give out thumbsdowns and vote for them. Let's just say, I think that's the case in the answers to your question. I can think of nothing that would label someone a bigger loser and trashier than having to make up multiple accounts for to have someone agree with them. (wink)